Women are so confusing?

[Ammaraamir]

So i was in love with this girl.. our families are very close to each other she is my mothers friend daughter... She occasionally comes to our house with her mother on vacations especially... For many years i never told her that i liked her until recently i told her.. she replied i like you too after couple of days... she was very friendly in the beginning and we were in a relationship... we cuddled each other especially when we were watching movie together... one day we were cuddling on bed and i was really turned on and she was too.. we had sex and i could tell by looking at her that she was alright with it and enjoyed the time everything was alright... Next day she told me that she was not actually into me and didn't love me... she told me that she didnot know why she said yes to me when i asked her did she love me... i calmy replied ok with no drama but i feel so disturbed right now bcz i love her... Does anyone know why she did this bcz i cannot understand it.

[_Maya_]

Here is the part that worries me.

"we had sex and i could tell by looking at her that she was alright with it and enjoyed the time everything was alright."

That's a pretty bold assumption by you. How can you possibly tell by looking at someone how they feel or will feel the next morning for example? It's not possible. People think they want something, do it and then regret it. That is literally the definition of regret. You do something and then later find out you feel different and shouldn't have. That's what happened here in my opinion. Rejection is tough and not fun to deal with but she made her decision. Respect it and move on. The odds of changing her mind is pretty slim.

[Ammaraamir]

Exactly thats what i was thinking thanks 👍

[DishLady]

ONE girl is confusing. Not "WOMEN" like we're all buttoned up little nuts like this little fruit loop you're describing. Also, "I could tell by looking at her" is not a thing for your label-obsessed generation. Go get a clue.

[DishLady]

Perhaps see this to understand how some women think about what guys are doing to them, and then be WAY WAY more mindful about the chicks you connect yourself with and how you assess their being "alright with it": My boyfriend friend raped me, should I tell him? ↗

[Ammaraamir]

Thanks for the response actually the women thing in the title was just a clickbait..

[DishLady]

@KrakenAttackin I presume someone spat in your coffee or something today. It wasn’t me…. What’s the deal with your personal attack?

[Anonymous]

She's a flake man. This is may be the first woman that will do this to you, but it won't be the last, that I promise you. I know you got attached. Kind of hard not to with a woman you share that moment with. But you have to learn to stay emotionally disconnected until you're sure you're with a woman who shares your feelings. Most women are not above weaponizing feelings against men to serve whatever end she's trying to accomplish. Sorry this happened to you.

[Ammaraamir]

Yup no other option except moving on

[Lynx122]

This is pretty much what the next 10-15 years are gonna be like. Over time you'll understand more why women do the things they do but there can still be confusing moments.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Lynx122. He can choose to become a fuck boy and just remove his emotions. The fuck boy loves the thrill of the kill, than he moves on to the next kill. With this generation of women who are delusional and social media obsessed, there is nothing wrong with manipulating them just for sex.

[Lynx122]

@KrakenAttackin There's nothing wrong with it but it's just not for me. I don't think sex with some random woman is worth focusing on. I don't get enough out of that to make it worth pursuing. I wanna live my life for me the way I want to live it and then find someone that fits into my life and we have a good mental connection and we get along.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Lynx122. That's ideal and I wish you luck.

[Lynx122]

@KrakenAttackin Thank you :) Good luck to you too :)

[Nikki1989]

I have no idea where the confusion is here. This is a classic case of too much overthinking.

[Ammaraamir]

From the girl's side or its just me overthinking?

[Anonymous]

Most women are as shallow as the shallow end of the kiddie pool. Move on.

[Ammaraamir]

I guess its the only option

[Opinion Owner]

At least you got to hit it. She probably got the "ick" because you showed you actually like her.

[MrDaveAPSI]

Oh, tell me about it.

And it's really our own doing. We tell women that they're "not supposed to be up front about their feelings', but then we wonder what the fuck?