My boyfriend friend raped me, should I tell him?

[Anonymous]

Please help me this afternoon my boyfriend picked me up to take me to his house usually every Tuesday I get off early from work so I bathe n dress up for him to pick me up n we usually hangout in his bedroom but today his friend R came over n he was happy to see him so he left me alone in the bedroom n was in the living room downstairs with R so I was just scrolling on instagram then I fell asleep. you know when I wake up from a nap you’re confused if it’s the same day or the morning, as I get myself together I felt a hand over my mouth shushing me as I scream I thought it was my boyfriend but it wasn’t him he told me to relax he’s going to be done “quick” my fight or flight mode kicked in and I started kicking n tried to push him off but then he grabbed both of my ands n put a cloth in my mouth n climbed on top of me to put his weight on me so I couldn’t move mind u my boyfriend room was dark with dim red led lights n nobody could have heard us. Then I felt it his thing on my stomach it was so big I tried to roll off the bed move my head left to right left to right but he was too strong n he made me exhausted with all the fighting he was smart cause I could barely breathe and he took off my panty I was wearing a ruffled skirt with a bandeau topn he ripped of my top n he was su on my n pulling hard while I was begging him to stop as it felt painful n then he took his thumb n press on my c hard n watched me crying n screaming then he insert himself inside me roughly it felt like sandpaper n he wouldn’t finish but then I tried to roll over to run but he would grab me and hold me down n do it even more rough I don’t remember when he finished I passed out when I woke up I was m home in my bed so my boyfriend took me home but there still some blank spot I’m bleeding and in a lot of pain I’m not going to work I can’t I don’t know what to do my boyfriend hasn’t texted me or anything I feel so grossed I don’t believe this happened it’s just a nightmare I can’t move help me

[SweetJoyGirl]

I am sorry you went through that, hun. 💜

Please, tell the police right away, and follow whatever procedure they ask you to follow. Going to a doctor to get check will most likely be involved, so be ready.
You should tell your boyfriend after you have spoken with the police. It will make things more clearer for him.

If you need anymore support, please feel free to reach out. 💜💜

[dustybiker2]

Go to the hospital and tell them what happened. You are doing so not just for you but all the other woman that will cross the paths of these two.. at least one of them being a rapist, the other covering for a rapist which is just as bad.


Nobody should have this happen to them. Woman or man.

[dreamstar72]

Call or go to the police not tomorrow but NOW, telling your boyfriend before the police is pointless. Maybe your boyfriend and his friend planned it or hopefully no. Remember what happened is NOT your fault the jerk (s) that did it should be punished and/or castrated

[Asker]

I feel like my boyfriend is involved….. some parts I’m connecting now I saw someone else in the corner holding up a phone I didn’t get to see properly but where was my boyfriend when this was happening? How did his friend get to me? I find it weird and I can’t believe he would do something like that…. I trusted him

[dreamstar72]

I don’t see how your boyfriend could not have notice what was taking place. I would find a new kind helpful guy that cared for you, please don’t let him talk his way out of it, you ever think they might have video it. All in all it’s a lack of trust on your (hopefully EX) boyfriend part.
Police is important, if you don’t you will suffer for like forever.
I really feel sorry for you. If your are close to your parents tell them.

[Jackblue]

I don't know if what you are saying is enough for a warrant to search your boyfriend's phone, but I would try to see if the police can check it and confirm that your boyfriend was indeed an accomplice.

[Lliam]

Get a medical exam and report it to the police immediately! Hopefully there is still DNA evidence.
Let the police examine your torn clothing and the bed.

Do that before you tell your boyfriend anything.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to talk about the rollercoaster of relationships and sometimes, unfortunately, the horrors that can happen when trust is broken. First, let me say I am truly sorry this happened to you. What you've described is a traumatic and criminal act. It's essential to know that this wasn't your fault in any way.

Yes, you should absolutely tell your boyfriend. It's crucial for your safety and for justice that this incident is reported. However, the first step is to ensure you're safe and to seek medical attention immediately. They can also help you with the reporting process if you decide to pursue that.

If you're comfortable, reach out to someone you trust to be with you through this process. This might feel incredibly isolating, but please know you're not alone. There are professionals who can support you through recovery and organizations dedicated to helping survivors of sexual assault.

I can't stress enough the importance of professional support in navigating the aftermath of such a traumatic event. Please, take care of yourself first and foremost.

[OddBeMe]

Yes that’s rape. If you have evidence of it, like your clothes, cops could use that.
Boy friends would be harder to prosecute. But sending the cops to his house to get a statement would be a great response from you.
Again, probably legally nothing would happen. But report him Run far and pick better BFs

[OddBeMe]

Not saying don’t prosecute if you want to. I absolutely believe you should take it as far as possible.

[PeachyPie93]

Obviously you need to go to the police. Then you can tell your boyfriend what happened. Don't bathe because then it is more easier to prove. Tell your mom or someone close so they can go with you.

[Saggitariusdiva]

Firstly sorry that something so awful happened to you, Tell your boyfriend and go to the police because rape is a very serious crime and have a pregnancy test... rape is traumatic so I suggest therapy

[Dr_Lovejoy]

Why would you go into such detail on here but not go to the police or be worried about telling your boyfriend? You have absolutely no obligation to protect the guy because he’s a friend of your boyfriend and if your boyfriend cares about you, he would want to know so he could get you the help you need and, if it were me, so he could stomp the living hell out of the guy, friend or no friend. Soon to be bloodied and battered and walk with a limp ex-friend is more like it.

[coxoabean]

I am so sorry that happened to you. That boy needs to get into trouble. You should tell the police, and then your boyfriend. That boy needs to be stopped before he does this to anyone else.

[normalice]

Obviously call the police. They can tell your boyfriend if you prefer that.

[normalice]

Oh, the reason I suggest getting the police to tell your boyfriend is then it won't seem like he's being asked to fight his friend, as if anything happened to his friend he would now be the prime suspect. Obviously he needs to know whether it's you telling him or not.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Oh, yea!
This is a smart idea.

[normalice]

But yeah if you call 911 and tell them you've just been assaulted and don't think you can walk they can coax it out of you from there.

[alice55]

he would surely blame you so this is tricky. better tell the police if you have any real evidence proof against him.

[LiamJHayden]

Go to the police ASAP. I know it is disgusting but hopefully you did not douche or clean up well so that they can run a rape kit for DNA. Also the clothes you were wearing are hopefully not laundered, as there might be evidence there as well.

[RavVid]

Call the police. You have 3 days for a rape kit test and it will be a lot better for you if you have this done.

[MackBoy]

Go immediately to the police and report it with the possible evidence you have, leave your boyfriend immediately and find someone who is good to you otherwise it will be even more worse for you.

[Daniela1982]

Don't bother so much with your boyfriend. It is the police that you should be talking to.

[AmyHew1tt]

I'm so, so sorry! Please tell the police as soon as possible!

[DJB72]

Start with the cops. Then your boyfriend.

Let the cops arrest the POS so your boyfriend doesn't have a chance to kill him...

[Alex-Snow]

Go to the police asap and also tell your boyfriend... sorry that happened to you.

[Jackblue]

Go to the police first for a rape kit, then tell your boyfriend.

[Awantika03]

Where was your boyfriend,

I think he is involved in this

[MacDaddyRico]

Call the police after you tell your boyfriend

[nawtee_me]

Call the police and do not clean up until after they do a rape kit….

[sawno]

definitely tell him

[Finchie40]

Call the police

[Anonymous]

Yes, tell the police

[Anonymous]

You need to tell the police

[Staximus]

Go to the police station

[jahaims]

Tell him and the police obviously

[Pterodon]

No you tell the police

[Danny_dan92]

Too many typos to understand the story

[Asker]

Sorry I’m shaking and panicking

[Danny_dan92]

It’s ok. If you’re really bothered by this.

End the relationship

[SweetJoyGirl]

She just got raped and this is your response?

Wow…what a chap.

[Danny_dan92]

What do you want me to say?

I told her to end the relationship. Should she not do that? Hmm. Odd

[SweetJoyGirl]

Tf? What happened to telling her to go to the police? What does her relationship have to do with her being raped? Are you dense? You can’t be 32. No way bro…

[Danny_dan92]

Uh… I know way too many women that got raped and never even considered going to the cops. With that being said, at the bare minimum she should DEFINITELY break up with the guy…

Also… how long have you been on this app? Are you aware trolls are common on here (not saying this is a troll) but I’m also not completely ruling out that possibility either

[SweetJoyGirl]

Sure you have……………..

I have been here 2016. Longer than you (your profile says December 2016).
So, I know how this goes.
She is not trolling. 🙄

[Danny_dan92]

Ok. 👍🏼

[Lliam]

@Danny_dan92. "IF you're really bothered by this"? WTF is wrong with you?

[SweetJoyGirl]

@Lliam Fr…my thoughts exactly.

[Danny_dan92]

For the record I read the question wrong. I read it quickly and thought it was her boyfriend that raped her. Not her boyfriend’s friend. That being said, yeah. Call the cops. Now both of you calm tf down and shut up

[SweetJoyGirl]

Then why not say that sooner? We already chewed you out. 😂😂😂

[Danny_dan92]

Oh well. Shit happens

[Danny_dan92]

The girl has been told the same by multiple people and seemed to already be thinking of doing it, which she should. I would argue she should have even if it was her boyfriend that raped her (yes I have seen a girl make this claim on this app once before)

[SweetJoyGirl]

It is ok! 💜🧚🏾‍♀️🫧
All love old man, all love. 💜

[Danny_dan92]

@asker

Actually another thing you should definitely do is take plan B (if you’re still within the time frame) that or take pregnancy tests when needed. Because unfortunately there is a chance this could’ve resulted in an unwanted pregnancy.

[Migle_457]

I'm sorry to hear

[abc3643]

yes you should

[Katherineny]

GIRL RUN TO THE POLICE BE SAFE

[Ceruva]

Absolutely