How to approach a girl to talk to her?

[strangeatcircleK]

How do you be sensitive to a girls space and privacy... and yet still make the effort to talk with her

[SugarSugarplum]

Depends on the girl. Depends on the setting. Just be honest and strike up a conversation like you were all at a ballgame and you wanted to share your thoughts.

Some dumb girls just go out for attention, they are not looking for anyone, unless he rolls up in a stretch limo. They are kinda keeping count of how many guys approach them, and they go home happy or depressed depending on how much attention they got. These girls are emotionally stunted.

Many girls will happily enter into a conversation with you, until you say something creepy. Creepy stuff can be...

Sexual topics way too early

"Hey you two look like you're a fantastic 3some in bed!"

Quizzing or Doxxing

"What's your name? Do you live around here? Is that your car? How many friends are you here with?"

This is what stalkers ask so they can deduce your address and show up for nefarious purposes

Nervousness

"Hi, I'm... errr... I wanted... um, I saw you over here and..."

Conclusion

Be confident. Say something nice. Smile. Crack a joke.

"Hi, I'm Bob. I just wanted to say that noticed what a lovely smile you have. You really brightened my evening. That's it." Then tip your drink to her, and begin to walk away. If she wants to talk, she'll stop you.

Oh, and DON'T do the same line on 30 women in the same night. We have amazing hearing.

[DrPepper12]

THIS should be required reading for all single guys!!

[DishLady]

Once upon a time... guys had cojones... and they used their natural hunter-gatherer skills to scope out a woman of interest, approach her with a simple "Hey" or "Hi" and carry on from there... Some moments were awkward, however a relatively intelligent and confident fellow figured out how to push past those little snags to make the girl laugh, get her number and take her out...

[strangeatcircleK]

I think it's me being too considerate

I don't want to interrupt them and yet I have to.

If it was me a girl came up and I was reading a book, maybe I'm focusing on that book before work and I have a girlfriend. Or maybe I'm with my friends and don't want to be bothered

I suppose it's me thinking too much into it. I just have to go up and say a simple hi and go from there

[DishLady]

Yeah, you're overthinking.

[Pohjolan]

Look women specifically requested that men don't do this so there is now more social pressure on guys than in the past.

[DrPepper12]

Absolutely!! Imagine that! Face to face convo complete with awkwardness and vulnerability!!

[DishLady]

I’m just saying… just as with any face to face interaction there’s going to be A LITTLE awkwardness and vulnerability on both sides. It’s not like EVERY person gets rejected, it’s just a matter of what the guy wants, how he approaches, what he’ll tolerate — and same for the girl… how she responds, what she wants and what she’ll tolerate.

People today overthink WAY WAY too much and therefore get trapped in a quagmire of negativity about the simple task of approaching one another.

[RavVid]

I think we need to know where you are starting from. Maybe you have just exited from a long relationship. Maybe you have studied and worked hard and you have not had time for a girlfriend. After saying Hi you may be stuck for what to say next.

I am going to assume a zero base.

The first thing you need to be able to do is to be able to talk socially to women. The means of learning how to do so is by practice. So talk to every woman you can. Keep it short initially... "Hi, nice day huh". Learn to terminate those conversations you initiated - don't overly prolong. "Well, have a nice day". This is pretty similar to approaching a woman at a bar. With practice you'll get better and better at it. Soon they'll want to talk to you.

I came from a remote farming district. So early on I had zero social skills and had to build them. The above was my approach. Worked for me. Honed them up enough for a waitress to walk out of a restaurant with me until the bastard maitre de pulled her up.

It's practice, practice, practice.

[MikeTheBartender]

I used to go rapid fire and kind of talk to anyone, now I tend to only go on green lights meaning I go if she gives me a signal like a smile or something. That being said, you have to behave to be noticed, be walking confidently, be talkative with other people around you, look like you are the most fun person in the room. Of course if it's situational and you can come up with an opener why not, but I don't just arbitrarily go to a girl if she's cute unless she gives me a green light or if a situational situation comes up that I can open her.

[dustybiker2]

They probably meet other people. Ghosting is a sign of the times either adapt or let yourself get hurt, you aren't going to prevent it happening. Keep being brave and approaching people. Being friendly and approachable is the best way to attract people.

[Finchie40]

You gotta grow a pair of balls and stop being shy , just walk up to a girl you find beautiful and say hi to her it’s nice to meet you and state your name , if she says hi back? Just tell her you noticed her and wanted to introduce yourself to her , if she is interested she will smile back and say thank you , if not oh well at least you tried , it’s better to take a chance than not take a chance at all

[AviatorTom]

You can always walk up and say "Hi".

Some women will think that's a bit too forward. What you can do is mention something about her or where you are, to start a conversation.

For example, say you're standing in line at Starbucks. You might say, "it's pretty busy busy today, isn't it?" If she answers, you can follow up with, "Hi, I'm <name>. I don't normally come to this Starbucks. What is good here?"

[NathanDavis]

with more than two reasons to actually make her time and attention worth..

not just because you saw her and thought she was hot...

[DrPepper12]

Walk up to her and say hi and then HAVE SOMETHING MEANINGFUL, WITTY, FUNNY, ENGAGING, WARM, COMPLIMENTARY or otherwise get her attention by being YOU as an individual, honest, authentic and vulnerable. It takes courage. Just do it!!

[oreodair]

Be yourself please. Don't force your personality or anything for that matter. If whatever you're saying doesn't seem natural, it will show.

[Lokiion]

Walk over say “Hi” and get whatever you wanna say out in a short (1-3 minutes) and direct way if you funny try and crack a joke at somewhere in the beginning

[paledreams]

Women you mean? ♀️ Well i just buy a milkshake. Instead. If i walk past a hot 20s woman, they see me drinking my millkshake 🥛 👀 🥤😋 👁️👁️ - vanilla

[ButtNakedMan]

Broham, just walk up and talk to her! While you're over there thinking about it, I've already went up and talked to her.

[IHateBeingaMan]

a question that will always be asked by lots of guys, men, for all time

[Anonymous]

Why is someone claiming to be 40 asking this question?

[strangeatcircleK]

I don't know how to ride a bike either 😭 I'm a wreck

[chrissykerdock]

saying hello is an easy way to start

[Karina_65]

I'm interested in you. Maybe we can have sometime fun together.

[chrissykerdock]

@Karina_65 maybe

[Karina_65]

Yes how about we talk in private?

[Anonymous]

I wonder the same thing, I've never tried that :/

[DaBiggestBird]

Like the Trix guy from Ted 2

[LiamJHayden]

Just do it.

[Willoughby23]

Don’t bother