Why is she acting weird?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend she is real cool to me. We have been friends for 4 months. After 3 months of us laughing and joking around she starting to act weird. We meet at work. When she see me it’s like she smiles but try not to look down and to her right. If I don’t come to certain events she’s upset and when I do she’s overly excited. We are always laughing and talking. I show friendly affection more I used to because she playfully hit me or touched me when either of us are talking.

I take everything as friendly. But some how I affect her mood. She’s happy when I’m around and upset if I’m not. She said, “that I’m like the little brother she wants to return”. But when I don’t bother her she’s confused and wondering what’s wrong.

why is my friend who has a boyfriend acting this way towards me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, it sounds like your friend might be developing feelings for you that go beyond just being friends. Some signs that point to that:

- Getting extra excited/happy when you're around and upset if you're not there. Girls don't usually get that invested in a friend.

- Saying stuff like wanting a little brother, but then acting confused if you give her space. That shows she's hooked on your attention.

- Smiling but looking away shyly seems like she likes what she sees but doesn't wanna show it too much.

- Getting bothered that you don't go to every event is possessive girlfriend behavior, not friend stuff.

Even if she's with another guy, it's possible to catch feelings for someone new. I'd just be careful - she might end up wanting more from you than you bargained for as a friend.

Keep it chill for now and don't lead her on if you just see her as a pal. But it does sound like there could be something bubbling under the surface on her side. Just watch for any other flirty signs bro. Let me know if anything else goes down!

[Asker]

I’m just as confused cause she gave me a weird nickname too out of no where. She talks about how I’m a little brother that she never wanted but likes to talk to me. She even keeps up with my schedule. I forget I told her anything.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude yeah that's extra weird then with the nickname and talking about you like a brother. Seems like she's definitely developing some kind of feelings even if she doesn't realize it herself. I don't get why she'd be so into your schedule and keeping up with you all the time if it was just a normal friend thing.

And it's kinda strange she randomly gave you a nickname out of nowhere too. Almost like she's marking her territory or something lol. I'd just be real careful with her man. Don't want any drama with your friend's girl. Maybe you need to cool things off a bit and put some distance between you two before it gets more confusing. Let her know you care about her as a friend but can't be more than that.

Don't ignore it either, cause these mixed signals will mess with your head after a while. Have a straightforward talk with her about keeping appropriate boundaries while she's still with her dude. Hope she gets her feelings sorted out! But watch your back in the meantime bro.

[BadApple69]

It sounds like she really likes you but is conflicted because she has a boyfriend.

[Asker]

I been trying to scale it back. So I start talking to other women as well. I can see a little hint of jealousy. People tell me when I’m not around she’s mean but when I’m around she’s the nicest person you could ever want to meet. I don’t see the mean side of her.

[Finchie40]

Because of her boyfriend , her boyfriend is probably having a hard time that she has you as a friend