I began dating one of my friends about a year ago and we hung out quite regularly, but then all of a sudden she started acting really strange and distant and was suddenly "too busy" to ever hang out. I of course seen this as her losing interest in me so I tried a bit harder. However she was evidently testing me and felt I acted far too needy and so lost interest in me.
We stopped talking for a while and then became friends. We're now very close, we hang out pretty much everyday, we go for breakfast, lunch, cinema, bowling, we have movie nights, she just comes over to chill, we go on trips, we play xbox together, she rings me or sends me videos all the time and over the last month or so I've started to get strong mixed signals from her. We've actually planned and booked a holiday together and everything and we're sharing a room. Like I've said, we maintain we're just friends but there are some days where I feel like she's very flirty and touchy, gets really close and I feel almost 100% confident she'd like me to make a move, yet when I start to flirt or touch on other days she says to stop.
She wants me to meet her family over the next few weeks and told me they're great at sussing people out, but since then she's began acting very different with me. Now she suddenly is too busy or too tired to hang out with me apparently, but it would be like "hey wanna do x tomorrow?" And she'll just go "nah ill be too tired" etc. Asked her if she wanted to do something on Sunday and she said "nah ill probably be in a bad mood I'd say" then she started texting away as usual and then just goes "ye, don't think I'll give you a lift home Sunday from work" I said that was grand and then she responded with "not going to hang out with you anyway Sunday so". And I found that really odd. Then she told me she's meeting her friend who's home next Tuesday so she can't hang out with me at all next week?
I just find it very strange and a complete 180 for no reason, any ideas?
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You are trapped in "the Friendzone". Should you maintain the friendship? Is there anything on a non-romantic level that appeals to you about her? Intellect? Hobbies? Professionally?
(A very good sample question to ask yourself here is: Can you ever see yourself doing business with her? Could you see her as your Realtor? Your Attorney? I am using examples from my professional dealings.)
If the answer is YES, maintain the friendship.
If the answer is NO, and you really just want her physically, then politely say goodbye.
I don't really have too much of a problem remaining friends because we get on really well. I suppose I'm just curious why after months of doing everything together every day and becoming really close that she suddenly can't bother to see me at all all of a sudden?
I think she has found that man who makes her naughty parts tingle?
If i substitute myself for this girl, i would say that she in nervous about how things will eventually end up, and is contemplating about whether or not she should follow her feelings or do whats best for both of you longterm