Why is she suddenly acting distant?

[Anonymous]

We are very very very close friends and I am in love with her. It's been a year since we're friends and now she starting to become cold and distant. A week ago everything was fine and now it's strange.

And I want to tell her that I love her but I am scared. Why is she acting distant, how can I tell her ?

[Komoe]

If you are afraid, it might be because she hasn't given you the signs to tell her. She might not be open yet to you in that way.

I've read quite a bit on the flirting techniques of girls and how guys usually respond to it :) Essentially, a girl might give this guy some subtle looks; so subtle, you won't even know it. What this tends to do to a guy is draw up his confidence from somewhere inside him and motivate him to court her. She can give him the strength to pursue her. (You might already know about this stuff ^_^)

Now...do you feel that she has done anything like that to draw you to her? If she had, it meant that she was interested in you :) Good sign. If you aren't feeling comfortable about opening up to her like that, it might mean that she hasn't been encouraging you to pursue her further.

Did you tell anybody about your attraction to her? What if it got around to her? Maybe she just needs to hear it from you.

Talk to her about her absence. Something like "Hey, where have you been for the past week? Is something going on? Need to talk about it?" Maybe she just needs support, right?

I really hope this all turns out for you.

[Rosesss]

I don't think it's a good idea to tell her anything now that she's distant. She may have realized that you like her as more than a friend and decided to back off, there's obviously a reason why she's acting differently. First find out if something's wrong. You're saying that you're best friends practically, meet with her or catch up to her and ask her what's going on in her life right now and if you did anything wrong because you've been noticing a change in her behavior . Ask her to be honest with you and let her know that whatever it is she can tell you anything. If she remains distant after this talk and tells you that nothing's wrong you still have nothing to lose by telling her in my opinion because she still wouldn't seem like she wanted to be friends anyway. Maybe you'll be in luck and she'll be honest about her feelings.

[Asker]

Well actually I'll see her this week and on Facebook her profile pic is me and her, so I am quite confused

[Rosesss]

Just talk to her I mean come on! Everyone on this site is just so afraid of facing their fears and of being rejected when being rejected could be the best thing that's ever happened to you cause it gives you a chance to move on. You don't take that chance you'll never know and in my opinion I'd rather be rejected and heart broken once then get over it rather than be left thinking about someone who might not want the same thing as I do. Communication is key! You guys are best friends:Communicate!

[Andromacha]

Well boi, it could be a number of things... Not to um gross you out or anything. She could simply be on her period and emotional lol. Well, I would wait it out and see if she is still being distant. If she isn't, then that's good! Find a good time to tell her how you feel! (don't do it over Facebook or text pleas :P) If she is acting distant still, maybe you could ask her if she is okay lately. It could be anything. She could be having stress at home even. It might not be you. :)

[Alanaaa]

Not sure why she's been distant,but now is not the right time to tell her you're in love with her.

[Asker]

I waited for a year, I still love her and she's getting away. I don't want to regret anything