Pretty much all throughout my life I’ve always had around 2-3 close guy friends and that’s literally been it.
Sure there may be a few girls I’m now friendly with, but none that I’m actually close friends with.
I’m friends with about three other guys currently and that is basically it.
And I’ve just found that in general, guys are much easier to talk to.
Guys are more relateable to the interests and hobbies and issues I face as a man.
So when people say that talking to men and women is fundamentally the same thing, I tend to disagree.
Anytime I’ve ever tried talking to a woman, they either acted uninterested or were just incredibly dry, or they were really eager to talk and acted unusually excited for no reason.
Which of course, has the adverse effect of putting pressure on me. Because I have no idea of what it is that I said or did that made them just suddenly feel so excited. And so therefore I just feel uncomfortable around them because they’re acting strange.
So with women in general its just been harder finding the right balance. Since they either show too much or too little interest in talking, whereas with guys its just the right balance.
Since with most guys they just carry around the mentality of “Oh whatever bro I’m just here killing time and I got nothing better to do, let’s just chill out and talk about life”.
Whereas with women they actually expect you to just lead and carry all these conversations.
Whereas with guys its more like you are on equal ground.
Things are just a lot simpler since you can still relate on most issues and its either you both have a vested interest in a topic and contribute equally, or things just reach a natural closing, and you peace out and move on.
Then of course the other issue with girls is that they just carry around a lot more baggage and drama. They invite you into their problems. They’re more apt to gossip about other people and they often make issues out of small things that are insignificant.
