For the "players" out there, why does my take on monogamy matter?

[481632]

I mean if you're not interested in anything more than short term casual sex anyway. Why do you care that I'm not monogamous if you aren't? Also, why do you have a problem with me not caring that you're screwing someone else? Does it weird you out or something?

Here's the situation... We've been having casual sex for close to 2 years now. I haven't been with anyone else but he has. He's recently found out that I've known for a while. Suddenly he's acting strange. Texting out of the blue for no reason other than to say hi then ghosting me. Only to text weeks later with some stupid question that has no relevance to anything.

We are both well over 40. Other than gently letting him know that I'm aware he has other partners, I've not said a word about it. I've never gotten angry at him for any reason. I've never bitched about anything he's done (or not done). I'm always pleasant and even washed the bedding for his "friend" when he went out of town. (She and I were tag team dog sitting)

This is not the first time I've been in this situation either. All the "players" that I've been with seem to get weirded out or something when they find out I've known about their "friends" and never said anything.

Why?

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I give 0 fucks what you think of me or my values and morals. Please keep these comments to yourselves. I don't follow or believe in your religion so those comments mean nothing to me either. They waste my time having to read them and they won't change me in any way. Please save your insights for those who care.

[ThomasDavid1989]

Did you know that monagamy would be considered a sin, according to the christian bible. The mormon bible not so much. I'm Jewish and could care less since I'm not a bible thumper but, yeah, you are a sinner, according to the bible

[ThomasDavid1989]

Yet I got an uppie

[481632]

Cause I find your reply hilarious. I AM A SINNER! Good be praised 🤣

[ThomasDavid1989]

Good. I just hope you're not a "christian"

[Berethor]

You not monogamous but loyal to him? anyway a man is like a key, a woman is like a lock.

[481632]

Not really loyalty. More like no one else has caught my eye lately

[Chad345]

I think it sheer hypocrisy if someone who isn't monogamous to judge someone else who isn't either. How does it get any more hypocritical than that? 😔

[Guy13]

No guy has a problem with it as long as you spread those windshield wipers when Option One ☝️ or Two are Busy.

[spartan55]

Why do you feel the need to let them know that you know?

[481632]

I don't usually say anything cause it's not important but when there are say, panties in the corner that aren't mine and I've obviously seen them? Cat's kinda outta the bag. The most recent guy lives around the corner from me. It became obvious rather quickly

[spartan55]

How would they know if you've seen panties or not? How is it you've 'obviously' seen them?
"why do you care if I'm monogamous when you are not?" then you say you haven't been with anyone else. I don't get what point you are trying to make here?

[spartan55]

It all sounds very classy by the way.

[481632]

It was obvious that I saw the panties as the corner they were in was near the ceiling. They were hanging from a curtain rod.
I'm not monogamous but that doesn't mean I have to be with more than one person all the time

[481632]

I don't really give a shite what you think of me so...

[spartan55]

I'm sure you don't. You're the one inviting a host of STDs, not me. You don't seem to understand the definition of monogamy, but nonetheless.
I still don't know what point you are trying to prove here (or whatever)

[spartan55]

Lol, so funny when OP tries to dictate the type of response they get.

[481632]

I know exactly what monogamy is. I don't think you do. And as for your remark about trying to dictate what responses I get... I don't care what you think of me or my nasty ways. I'm simply asking why this happens which has nothing to do with religious views or the possible transmission of STIs. It's hilarious reading these responses when y'all just assume that protection isn't used. Just because I can have multiple partners at any given time doesn't mean it's a free-for-all. It also doesn't mean orgies, gangbangs or multiple partners like 3somes and moresomes.

[spartan55]

Yeah, we get it, you don't care what we think. You have it all figured out.
Simply asking why what happens? Interesting this is the third time I've tried to get some clarification and all you want to talk about is how you don't care what this community thinks...😂 😂 Enjoy yourself, you sound like a real delight.

[Iron_Man]

I’m not a player and I think that’s a horrible lifestyle. Good way to catch a disease and it’s morally wrong

[481632]

Thank you for your opinion but it has nothing to do with my question. You do you and I'll do me. Have a nice day

[Iron_Man]

I don’t mean to be offensive, but why is it that older women are set in their ways and strict?

[481632]

I don't know what you mean. If I'm reading strictly the words, old men are exactly the same

[Chad345]

Wow, you judge people so often, on so many questions! Fascinating. Are you a religious dude?

[Chad345]

Just that I've found that religious people are really good at looking down on other people and judge them all the time. Like you.

[Iron_Man]

@Chad345 yes I’m a Christian but I help people

[Iron_Man]

@Chad345 that’s not my job judge job to judge people that’s the Lords job. I try to guide people and witness.

[Iron_Man]

Oops, sorry voice command error but you can figure it out

[Chad345]

Yeah but you do judge people. God forbid you run into someone with different beliefs or lifestyle. You give them shit. That's not ok. It's not cool to be so confident that you're right and you never question yourself.

[Iron_Man]

you know nothing about me who are you to criticize me doing a good job

[Iron_Man]

It sounds like you’re trying to judge me

[Chad345]

I know you judge people. I dare you to deny it.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t judge people I’m here to help people

[Chad345]

Sure. Tell yourself that.

[Iron_Man]

Dude stop being a hater you know nothing about me

[Chad345]

I know that you judge people, lol. You wrote it. I read it. You wrote it dude!

[Iron_Man]

Lol nope