What is your view on monogamy vs non-monogamy in relationships?

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OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure humans are made for monogamy for 30 - 60 years. And I'm not sure it's healthy. I think a little venture outside the relationship can be a good thing. A refresher. A new exposure to a level of excitement missing from 30 years of familiarity. A chance to blow off steam. And a chance to NOT go to your grave having experienced only 1 or 2 sexual partners and wonder "what if".

I think some European cultures have a more adult, realistic approach to men or women having a little fun on the side in a don't ask / don't tell, just don't embarrass anyone approach to a stale sex life after years with the same person. It's not a big deal for me. It's not a "love" thing. It's a sexual excitement thing.

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I am a monogamist to my core. I do not understand non-monogamy at all. I can respect that other people might feel differently, but I do not get it. It makes no sense to me. It doesn't compute. I do not know why anyone would ever want that. Some people evidently do.

I think it's fine if that's what you're into, and nobody is being deceived about that. If some group of people want this, then that's fine for them.

I would have a problem... if a girl didn't have a problem... with non-monogamous relationships. If she could understand how someone could do that... she's not monogamous enough for me. It shouldn't compute for her either.

Gwendoline · Accepted Answer

Monogamy is a must in any relationship that's going to go the distance otherwise you are just two people that are f*cking and living together and eventually one of you will get sick of the other and move on to another.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Once you claim "relationship" status the monogamy is implied. Folks play slippery little games, but we all know that a relationship is between two people, not two people and their side partners...

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What does it mean to say you are in a relationship but it is not monogamous? What's the point of calling it a relationship? If you don't want to commit to being faithful with one partner, then you aren't ready for a real relationship; just be honest, tell potential partners that it's just for casual sex, and have your version of fun.

I have never cheated on a partner, not once, not in my entire lifetime.

Finchie40 · Answer

Monogamy relationships mean just you and your partner staying loyal and faithful to each other , Non Monogamy means you both can have multiple sex partners’ basically an open relationship

Communicationisking · Answer

This is a tough topic for monogamous people to get their head around I've been there and still learning now about polyamory.

The way I understand it, there is a huge difference between non monogamous, poly and open relationships.

At the end of the day you need to be completely open to discussion with your partner on any topic and be able to put yourself in their shoes and understand their thoughts/feelings and express your own so you can both make proper decisions. It is ok to disagree and agreeing with something you actually don't agree with will only lead to problems.

If you can't be genuine and properly discuss things with your partner whatever relationship you are in then probably it isn't the healthiest relationship it could be.

bddddd · Answer

Wow. Haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate.

I've already posted my views. Consenting adults with full transparency and honesty should do whatever works for them. Cheating is terrible in my view, but mutually agreed multiple relationships are just fine.

I would encourage people to consider drawing a hard line between what you want in your relationship... monogamy is a fine choice... and what you want in other people's relationships... which affects you in no way whatsoever. Live and let live.

Lliam · Answer

I insist on monogamy in relationships. I give myself 100% to one woman at a time and love mutual infatuation where we adore each other and can't get enough of each other.
I don't see how pick ups, one night stands or multiple friends with benefits would be more exciting than that.
I mean, it my girlfriend has a lovely body, loves sex and is good at it, how would a different woman's body be any more exciting?
But that's just me.

Cormac995 · Answer

29 years of life, seeing my parents' divorce my mom remarry and having met, known and spoken people in poly relationships I have come to one conclusion. If you aren't ready for monogamy, you're not responsible enough to be dating at all.

Shiprex · Answer

Monogamy is for me the best building block for stable romantic relationships. Companionship and a framework for building families is best suited to this WITH extended families and communities being part of that social dynamic.

serious · Answer

In my view monogamous relationships holds the highest value as compared to other types of relationships

LauraJ00 · Answer

Why be in a relationship if not monogamous? Just have good/close friends. Monogamy is for relationships and relationships are for monogamy.

Miristheiss · Answer

Monogamy is healthy and good for society and strong families. Non-monogamy is degenerate and will help destroy society and it should be rejected.

Paige90 · Answer

If both discuss it with each other then it can work but it's not for everyone

strateguy632 · Answer

I agree with idea "cheating is bad" not "2 ladies at same time" called 2 timing.

abc3643 · Answer

I'm for No-agamy. Relationships compromise freedom and NOTHING is as good as freedom - even a good fuck or BJ.

Billlewis · Answer

I firmly believe in 100% monogamy for the male, but unlimited freedom to date others for the woman.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Monogamy is the standard, that comes with its own pros and cons. Non-monogamy is only really bad if one partner is not consenting to it.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

If I’m doing a relationship it’s monogamous. Wtf is the point in being in an open relationship? That’s a recipe for spreading STD’s

Shy_Steve · Answer

Non-monogamy means something very different for most women than it does for most men. I just think men should have the same freedom and acceptance that modern women get when it comes to being non-monogamous.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Easy, one is a relationship, and the other isn't..

Nikki1989 · Answer

Whatever works for the couple. There are no rules.

katiesmuff · Answer

The only one that will succeed for the long term is the monogamous one.

Purpleronnie · Answer

As long as your consenting adults and nobody is being deceived or hurt then IDGAF

genericname85 · Answer

my view is: everyone should be allowed to do what they want. shit should not be forbidden just cause me or someone doesn't like it.

soe11 · Answer

I 100% pro monogamy.. I am loyal to my girlfriend.  But some occasion we playing threesome and swing too.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Different relationship styles work for different people. As long as everyone is happy and honest, go for it.

kaucky1 · Answer

I think you're meaning 'polygamy' more than one partner; if they all gonna share same Weiner 🤨 but lies are never more going d to use in anything but if others could actually afford it pull it off👍

exitseven · Answer

If people want to pursue a non'-monogsmous relationship, both parties must agree to it.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

If I’m in a relationship it’s monogamous… I’m celibate but I have had “situationships” and they lose their fun fast

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

I'm only dating and f ing one person at a time. Sex time me is a very personal thing. I don't like to share. And I expect the same.

QuestionObsession · Answer

I am all for non-monogamy. Some of us need more love and fun and to not feel tied down when there is so much more to explore ethically.

Babygirl_S · Answer

The only way polygamy can work is if I’m prioritised otherwise he can keep his side chicks as I walk away to find a monogamous man

Oldschool1981 · Answer

I'm not a stickler for monogamy. It's okay if my S/O sleeps around once in a while.

LiamS95 · Answer

If it's a long term relationship it has to be monogamous.

shortster · Answer

Monogamy makes sense. Polygamy should be pursued with open and honest discussions and the agreement of all parties involved.

Staximus · Answer

What's the point of being in a relationship if you're not going to be monogamous

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If you're not monogamous, you don't deserve to be in a relationship.

Vegasrunner · Answer

A man being monogamous will end the relationship.

Iron_Man · Answer

Have a normal relationship? Don’t do anything off no monogamy

Yohenis · Answer

Most of the women these days are into non monogamy even the married ones.

PaleDale · Answer

I've always thought it would be fun to give non-monogamy a try. More fulfillment, maybe?

Anonymous · Answer

If it's not monogamous you're not in a relationship. You're just pretending.

Anonymous · Answer

I would never be in a non-monogamous relationship. What's the point?

Professor-college · Answer

I believe that depends on the relationship because no couple is the same

Agape93 · Answer

Go with whats natural for you.

EmmaMary · Answer

Precisely what @gwendoline has posted.

slatyb · Answer

That's for the couple to decide.

NicholasRedone · Answer

It feels better - monogamy quote 😋🤌🏻

Jennz6 · Answer

I prefer an open relationship

dudeinohio · Answer

Monogamy is the only way I approve of.

jahaims · Answer

Monogamy is for the emotionally healthy

Sluttt · Answer

Poligamy or multigamy isn't a relathionship

blackeagle007 · Answer

Whatever works with you

Godihateyou · Answer

Monogamy is gay as fuck

Anonymous · Answer

I definitely prefer monogamy.

Thot_Stomper · Answer

Monogawhat?

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