What advice would you provide to someone who hates their spouse and does not want to be married anymore?

[Anonymous]

She said she regrets ever getting married and don’t wanna be with him anymore. She even took off her wedding ring. Nevertheless, she stayed because he was paying all the bills and everything. now she wants everything from him in the divorce. She wants the house, car, and all. We all see it on social media that she hates being married to him.

[CuriousHubby]

Honestly you can't cause she has always been that person she just hid it for an easy life.

It was her choice and we see this with a lot of women and guys! Wanting that free ride and eventually getting bored!

She probably has no kids or she is sick of her kids. She was only ever with him for the money and is dealing of another life.

My advice unless you want her venting just ignore her. Why be a friend to someone who is hell bent on destroying someone they said they would love forever. Not till they got bored.

Her view won't change no matter what you say or advice. its like talking to a brick wall

My wife tried to with her friend she just got in the middle of it t

[Asker]

Thank you and yes they have 3 kids together. I’m married as well and I’m just lost. It’s like she been wanting to not be married for a while. She said a while ago she wanted marriage counseling now she doesn’t. She said she only stayed because of the kids

[CuriousHubby]

Then that is her only reason and her anger and resentment will only grow!
She can slowly work to leaving getting a job and saving but she just wants all his money.

Good she cares about the kids!

Yeah my wife tried being friends and she used the security camera they have to lie and say that she was cheating with her husband.

When I saw the wife clearly open the door while he was away at work.

My wife never got to defend herself in court and that is legally what happened on the record in Thier divorce case!

[Asker]

Smh that’s sad

[CuriousHubby]

Very sad and they were friends for over 2 years!

If there was hope I'd say give them some advice remind her of the good times and it can be again.

But her heart is in getting out away and free in her mind.

Her kids know her heart and will grow up jaded against love and marriage

[Asker]

Thank you and I been doing that forever. He got sick one time at work recently and she didn’t give a damn to see how he was. She don’t even talk to him like that anyhow.

[CuriousHubby]

Tha tis so sad! Maybe at one point she loved him. Wonder how he feels? He must have noticed!

[CuriousHubby]

So sure he took care of her when she was sick and pregnant!

[Asker]

I didn’t think of that either and I honestly forgot about it. She always say she hates being married to him and always talk about it but haven’t filed for divorce at all. She staying because of the kids she says. I know she probably just going through a difficult phase I’m not sure

[CuriousHubby]

Hopefully for the kids the bad phase will end only if she let's it

[Anonymous]

So why does she regret getting married? She doesn’t sound like a good person. This is part of the reason why men don’t want to get married. Is he beating her or something? Does he take care of his kids financially? She’s part of the reason why men tend to look at a lot of women in this way. No not all women are like this, but it’s hard to find someone who isn’t going to change their mind X amount of years down the road who could possibly walk away w half of what you’ve earned in life. She’s probably better off leaving the children w him, then she can move on. If she takes them chances are she’s going to be struggling even if he is helping w child support. Yes I know not all women are like this. I think part of the reason why she married him was cause he was paying for everything. Does she work?

[SugarSugarplum]

Notice nothing is said about staying because of the promise she made, the vow she took.

[Asker]

I don't know why I didn’t think about that now until you mentioned it lol I’m discombobulated honestly and her stance is that he kept cheating on her

[SugarSugarplum]

Cheating is the worst. Well, after physical violence.

[Asker]

Yes but I always hear her say she hate being married but she hasn’t filed for divorce yet. Im one of those people who wanna see marriages last when it doesn’t include the bad things such as physical violence and much more. This generation has changed and people don’t stay married long at all

[Anonymous]

[DrPepper12]

Half is fair and the law. Hope there's no kids. Her sitting dirty laundry is petty and wrong.

[Asker]

I agree and they have 3 kids together

[DrPepper12]

That sux. Sorry for your amigo!

[DishLady]

Leave...

[slatyb]

Divorce

[jahaims]

Get a divorce