Am I (30M) doing the right thing telling this girl (24F) we need some space for a while?

[ARI93]

Same girl from my last question. She keeps going back and forth between words and actions and behavior. The only consistency is her inconsistent behavior and intense sexual feelings for each other. Beyond that, i have been told twice we should stop talking. Which is then followed by words and behavior that contradict that. I do like her but this is nowhere near easy anymore. I feel like I'm losing my god damn mind getting anywhere with her. But eh I'll just spend the next 20ish days ignoring her. Giving her space and making sure I can make this wedding with a sound mind. I want to be the best groomsman for my buddy and to enjoy my time in Europe. It's my first time so it should be a good time not saddled down with does she like me thoughts... but eh just reaching out. I want to learn from this and hell I am still open to a relationship with her I just can't see it happening anymore.

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like taking some space is the right call here, man. The on-again, off-again hot-and-cold stuff doesn't seem good for your mental health. You've got important things coming up like the wedding and your Europe trip that you don't need that kinda drama weighing on your mind.

It's cool that you have feelings for her, but you gotta put yourself first here. Letting her know you need a break to clear your head makes sense. 20 days no contact should give you both enough time to think. Maybe in that space she'll figure herself out too. Who knows, with some breathing room you might both realize you're better as friends or it could bring her around to wanting something real. But right now it just sounds stressful and confusing.

I think take that time, enjoy your travels, and don't sit around wondering about her moves. You've got more important things to focus on. If after a few weeks you're feeling less pulled in different directions, then maybe test the waters again. But for now, this gives you both a clean reset which is healthier than the back and forth. Good luck with everything man, you've got this!

[ARI93]

Brother you're right thank you. I curre try did tell her hey I feel you like you don't care but I need space. Let me know if you need clarification, boundaries, or expectations. I also mentioned I hope thos will be good for us. But thank you I will focus on myself for sure.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, for sure it's all about taking care of yourself right now. Sounds like you laid it out perfectly for her - you need some space to clear your head but left the door open if she wants to actually establish something real.

Now it's time for you to have an epic trip! Don't even waste another thought on that girl till you're back (or later if you need it). Fill your brain with awesomeness instead - check out cool sights, try new foods, meet strange European folks, enjoy your buddy's wedding.

Plus who knows, once you've been livin it up out there with the stress gone, you might realize you don't even need her mind games anymore! You'll be so pumped with awesome stories and confidence that any girl would be lucky to have ya.

Just focus on having the best time ever with your crew. Let that take your mind off everything else. You got this, bro - you made the right call for YOU. Now go live it up!

[ARI93]

Thanks man I appreciate ya. Hell add me on snap to keep up! ARIMIL (xarandomidiotx)

[Oliverlogan263]

Fa sho bruh and I got you

[missindiana93]

Yes you are doing the right thing. Clearly she's insane.

[ARI93]

Thank you <3