Whats the best way to tell a female freind I need space for awhile?

[Anonymous]

Went on a few dates this girl then she decided it's best we just be freinds. Since then we have become really good freinds. She's since started dating someone else but we still talk frequently. I thought I was fine with just being freinds but since she's started dating some one I realized that I'm not. How do I tell her I need space away from her to get over these feelings for her?

[Bitterness]

Telling a female friend that you need some space for a while can be challenging, but it's important to communicate your needs honestly and respectfully. Here's a guide on how to do it:

• Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a quiet and private setting where you can have an uninterrupted conversation. Avoid doing this in public or during a group gathering.
• Be Honest and Clear: Start the conversation by being honest about your feelings. Use "I" statements to express your needs without blaming or accusing your friend. For example, you could say, "I've been feeling overwhelmed lately, and I think I need some space to focus on myself."
• Explain Your Reasons: Provide some context for your need for space. You might explain that you're dealing with personal issues, stress, or that you're seeking more time for self-reflection. Be as specific as you feel comfortable sharing.
• Emphasize It's About You, Not Them: Make it clear that your need for space is not a reflection of your friend or your friendship. Assure your friend that you value the relationship and that this is about your personal well-being.
• Set Boundaries: If you have specific boundaries or expectations during this time apart, communicate them. For example, you might say, "I'd appreciate it if we could have some time apart for the next few weeks. I'll reach out when I'm ready to reconnect."
• Express Gratitude: Let your friend know that you are grateful for their understanding and support. Reinforce that you value the friendship and look forward to reconnecting when you're in a better place.
• Listen to Their Response: Give your friend the opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings as well. They may have questions or concerns, and it's important to listen and validate their emotions.
• Follow Through: If you've decided on a timeframe for your break, make sure to honor it. Reconnect with your friend when you're ready or when you both agreed upon.
• Check-in Periodically: If your break is extended, consider checking in with your friend periodically to let them know how you're doing and to reassure them that your desire for space is not a rejection.

[Anonymous]

Just stop talking to her. She's getting plowed by a dude who actually turns her on and that bothers you. Which is fine. No need to say anything. Just move on. She'll be so busy getting railed and cumming all over his cock that she won't even notice. Trust me!

[Korain]

The best thing to do is be straightforward about it

[Anonymous]

Just tell her, directly.