How can I work on giving my girlfriend some space?

[Anonymous]

So basically I've been single my whole life but now I've got a girlfriend, a really hot one too. And I basically can't keep my hands off of her. This is the first and only time I've ever been with a woman, so I'm obsessed with her and her femininity. The way she looks. The way she feels. The way she smells. The way she tastes. The way her voice sounds. To clarify, by the way she tastes I mean I like licking her, not cannibalism, lol.

But anyway, whenever she'd be doing anything I'd keep rubbing my hands all over her. When she was cooking. When she was changing the kitty litter. When she was working out. I'd also keep sniffing her and licking her.

Also worthy of note how she wears nothing but short shorts and spaghetti strap tank tops. So I'm basically feeling her soft skin this whole time.

And then one day she was just like "Hey, I appreciate how much you love me and all, but can you like give me some space? It's like I literally can't do anything without you rubbing your hands all over me. Sometimes I just need to focus on cooking or working out or whatever and I can't have you constantly interrupting me."

And this might seem like a simple request, but just by looking at her, heck, even just a picture of her, I get this primal urge to rub my hands all over her. Rub my hands all over her and her sheer and total femininity. I wanna respect her wishes, but every time I try not to touch her I go crazy. So how can I work on giving her some space?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, I get it - your girl is smokin' hot and you just can't keep your hands off her. But you gotta respect that she needs some space sometimes, you know?

I know it's tough, especially since this is your first real relationship. That new relationship energy is crazy intense. But you don't wanna smother her or make her feel suffocated, ya feel me?

The key is finding a balance. Try to be more aware of when you're constantly touching her and interrupting what she's doing. Maybe set some boundaries - like, no touching while she's cooking or working out. Give her those moments to focus on her own thing.

And when you do get that urge to reach out and feel her softness, try redirecting that energy. Go for a quick hug or kiss instead of a full-on groping session. Or just take a deep breath and resist the temptation. The more you practice it, the easier it'll get.

Also, make sure you're giving her quality time and attention when she does want it. Plan some dates, have deep conversations, show her you care about more than just the physical stuff. That'll help strengthen the emotional connection too.

It's all about finding that right balance, dude. Respect her needs for personal space, but don't neglect the intimate moments either. With a little self-control and communication, you two can make it work. Just gotta get that primal urge under control, ya know?

[DishLady]

You're basically suffocating her. If she's working out go occupy yourself with your own workout or go jogging or do something physical that won't leave you sitting around glued to her. (If she's cooking, same thing, especially if she's handing a knife or by the stove where she DOES need to focus on what she's doing, otherwise she can get hurt.)

Also, perhaps the extended physical contact is overwhelming. Aim for shorter bursts of contact -- like a quick squeeze or hug rather than rubbing her and getting all clingy, which is what it sounds like you're doing.

If you're really only 18-24 it's understandable that you get... excited by your girl, but it can be too much.

Hope this helps.

[Nikki1989]

Have an open and honest conversation with your girlfriend about her need for space. Ask her what kind of space she requires, how often, and in what situations. Listen actively and try to understand her perspective.

[Asker]

This is really good advice, thanks! So basically being open and honest and actively listening, the main points.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love is in the air! 🌹 I hear you, my friend, those irresistible vibes she's giving off can be intoxicating! Your enthusiasm is delightful, but her need for space is a red flag tapping you on the shoulder. Try focusing on activities that engage your mind and body—like a hobby or sport. Channel that energy into something productive when you're apart. Communication is key, so let her know you’re working on it. Small steps, big love! Remember, distance makes the heart grow fonder... and gives her time to miss you! 💕

[red-lipstick-girl]

Instead of being with him all the time, you should distance yourself from him and let him spend time with his friends or be alone when he exercises.

[Asker]

Not sure if it was intentional or not, but I think that all the times you said he or him you meant she or her since I'm the boyfriend and I'm talking about my girlfriend, lol.

But regardless of what specific words you used, that's still some pretty good advice though! Thanks!

[Plugs]

What’s great about her voice

[Asker]

@Plugs Oh, um... it's somewhat hard to describe as voices are so oddly specific compared to just describing physical appearance, but um... I guess part of it could be that her voice is not too high but not too deep either. A super high squeaky voice can be annoying, but a super deep voice can be unsettling in the opposite direction. So it's just a nice medium pitched voice I guess. Lol. Either way, just a really feminine voice!

[Anonymous]

Ohhh how do u both look. It’s normal in a healthy relationship to be obsessed with your partner

[Asker]

How we both look, huh? Okay, ahead of time, my description for myself is gonna be a lot shorter than the description for her, lol.

But I myself am a rather plain or ordinary looking guy. Not quite ugly but not quite attractive either. I'm White, I have pale skin, medium brown eyes, and medium brown hair. I'm neither fat nor thin. My hair is medium length. I have no facial hair.

But she... oh boy, lol. She somehow manages to be slim, curvy, and muscular all at the same time. As in overall slim (-ish?) looking but with big breasts/butt/hips/thighs, and she does have some muscle definition to her arms and some abs. She is half Black half White. Her skin is medium brown, like the perfect in-between of super pale skin and super dark brown skin. Her hair is dark brown, very long, like butt-length, and she usually keeps it tied in a long ponytail. Her eyes are medium to dark brown. Her skin is quite literally perfect all over her body, I've seen her naked and literally not one single scar or blemish on her. And I could go on and on but I'll stop here, lol.

But yeah. Glad to hear you think it's normal! I certainly am obsessed with her, haha. And her with me. :3

[Opinion Owner]

How tall and heavy are u both

[Opinion Owner]

How does she feel and smell

[Asker]

Oh. I am 5'9 and weigh around 175 pounds. She is 5'11 and weighs around 180 pounds. Yes, I know the woman is taller than me, lol. And even though technically she's heavier than me she doesn't look at as it's just curves and muscles.

As for how she feels. Well, her skin is really soft. Like really, really, really soft, haha. I've been told I have extremely soft skin for a guy, but her skin is still somehow waaaaay softer than mine. Her big breasts are fun to play with. Her ass and thick thighs too. She feels nice as I hold her close to me.

As for her smell... somewhat harder to describe, but she just smells nice and feminine, I suppose, lol. She has really good hygiene so she never really stinks. She smells good when she gets out of the shower due to body wash and stuff, though my favorite smell of her is when the body wash smell wears off, but not stink or anything. Just her natural smell.

[Opinion Owner]

She’s taller than u? Damn she sounds big

[Asker]

Well I guess it depends on who you're comparing her to, haha. My area has a large variety of heights for both men and women, both in the short direction and the tall direction. At 5'11 she's above average, yes, but in my area it's not super uncommon to come across women who are over 6 feet, even taller than her, lol. Including some of her friends who are that tall.

[Opinion Owner]

Why u like rubbing her