Why were you yelling at her? What was the point of that? Best discuss problems in a calm manner, even when upset.
You clearly reminded her of the past trauma she had and now she wants time away from you. I would give it to her. Whatever you did to remind her of abuse she suffered is enough for her to not want to be around you.
Sorry, I know this isn’t what you want to hear but give her plenty of space and let her sort through the issue. I’d take the time to reflect and learn. The yelling probably brought back those terrible memories of verbal abuse.
Most likely she remember all those horrible fights she got into from an abusive partner and she just shut down. I’d spend this time figuring out why you felt it necessary to yell at someone to the point they need to be apart from you.
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Did you know about this trauma? If yes, you should have been more understanding and avoid raising your voice at her next time.
Since it has been a few days you should respect her wishes and give her all the space she needs. Maybe you can tell her you will give her all the space she needs and whenever she's ready to contact you you're going to be there for her and in the meantime you're not going to text or call her until she makes up her mind.
Ah yes. The typical female bullshit. It's always about her ex and how he abused and how traumatised they are, which is why they are such princesses who are entitled to special treatment from you. Being with a woman today is an endless series of shit tests. She basically thinks of you as a circus animal that is jumping through her hoops. There is literally nothing you can do. And from now on you relationship will go downhill. Probably for the better.
Aslong as she wants as clearly she dont wanna see you so forcing it will just continue the situation if your dealing with someone thats damaged not sure how you though shouting at them would help
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Respect that she needs more time and space. She went through a lot and it most likely brought her back memories, but let her know that you will stay respectful to her. Apologizing and being comprehensive first will help a lot. If it’s been more than a week, I suggest to have a real talk with her.
Do what she says and give her space. She may or may not come back to you but that decision is out of your hands.
Give it to her. Let her come to you when she's ready.
Apologize and give her time to cool down
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