Trying to understand coworkers behavior?

[Anonymous]

So I (26M) and my coworker (22F) have worked together for about 3 years now and in that time have become very good friends, getting eachother birthday and Christmas presents and are friends on all platforms.

I wouldn't go as far to say I'm a touchy person, but I'm big into building team spirit and tend to give my female coworkers a hi five and my male coworkers a fist bump and everyone has a good time. However, within the last year or so I realised that my friend is very weird about any form of physical contact with me at all and it's like she almost recoils if we touch and so I just simply don't go near her because I figure it's not for her. Both of us are in relationships and as I said, we're friends so we text all the time but it's also only ever work related and there has never been any flirting.

I suppose however, my question comes from the fact rhat over the last few months I've noticed that she is a touchy person, and will touch me a lot like bouncing off my shoulders, or will touch other male coworkers and doesn't mind if they touch her which I find odd. We're both basically best friends at work, we're both in relationships and I respect her boundaries and figured that she may be against physical touch with men to respect her boyfriend, but I've noticed that this only applies to me and she seems so uncomfortable if we ever touch? Can someone help me explain why? And just in case, I'm not an unattractive person, and I would be the one to get the most female attention out of all the workforce, so I doubt it's repulsion, but I just don't get it, has anyone any ideas?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that is a weird situation. I don't fully get why she'd be so weird about touching you specifically either if you're just friends. A few possibilities though:

- Maybe at some point in the past she misunderstood your intentions and got the vibe you liked her or something, even if you didn't mean it that way. Could've put her on guard now.

- She might get a little flutter seeing you shirtless at work and doesn't wanna lead you on or creep on you since y'all are friends.

- Her boyfriend might be insecure and she doesn't wanna give him a reason to be jealous even if it's innocent. Dudes can be dumb like that.

- Or she could low-key have a little ting for you deep down and touching makes it more real, so she pulls back.

Hard to say for sure man. Has she been acting differently with you in other ways, or is it just the touching thing? Maybe feel it out more or even just ask what's up so you're not always wondering, ya know? Good you respect her space either way. Hope you can get some clarity on it!

[Maybeyoutoo]

I have an idea. I'll give you my opinion for just 200 euros

[SweetJoyGirl]

Dang

Yea, she isn’t digging you.

[Anonymous]

She’s just not into you

[Asker]

No but like, I KNOW she isn't into me, but I just find it weird that she hates if I touch her, but if another lad at work touches her it's OK, I just find it very strange seen as she knows there's no interest from me in her either if you get me? So you'd think that she'd be the most comfortable with me no?

[Opinion Owner]

That is odd. Maybe you just remind her of someone negative. I wouldn’t worry about it. You guys are still friends..