How to kill the urge to want love or be loved?

[Anonymous]

I really want to suppress my natural desire for love … it’s gotten me in some shit… I’m trying to venture out to being a cam girl, onlyfans ect…

I tell myself “no one will ever love you genuinely or want you “ “they’ll pick someone else over you anyway “ “they can do better “ “you don’t want them “ “ you don’t love them “…. it sounds negative but it’s mental toughness. I need to practice it and I need to BELIEVE IT. Most importantly

[teamvic]

Hmmm so before I help you. Is it that you don't want to be loved and telling yourself they'll pick someone else because you're trying to be a cam girl or are you trying to become a cam girl because you believe they don't want you?🤔

[Asker]

Well before I was a “regular girl” guys played me, only wanted to sleep with me and picked other girls over me allll the time.

[Asker]

I want to suppress any feelings of love, attraction etc doesn’t matter. It’s a way to protect myself from getting hurt. And yes … I have to believe that once I become a can girl no man will genuinely love me because he doesn’t respect me.

[teamvic]

Well you see, once you become a cam girl. Not only will less guys want you, for a relationship. The guys that will want you, are ONLY going to want you for sex.

If you become successful content creator for sexual things. You'll get a lot more male interest. But only problem is it'll only be for sex so in a way you're kind of setting yourself up for more of what you're trying to avoid

[Asker]

You’re not listening. I don’t want a relationship. I don’t want to be a wife or a mother … I don’t want any of it. I don’t care

[ChicoFromThe305]

You are pushing to listen to the intrusive thoughts which will only betray you, you can be loved and you can love, having that ability (which not every single person does) is a gift and you should use it and stop listening to the intrusive thoughts.

[Asker]

No it’s not intrusive thoughts. I’d rather think that be in love or hurt badly

[ChicoFromThe305]

It doesn't always lead to pain, mostly if done right and if it does you learn and heal, you really think being seen and treated as a hoe is going to prevent you from getting hurt cause it only seems to be like you are exchanging one form of pain for the other.

[Asker]

I don’t care if a man thinks I’m a ho because I’m not ficking him nor am I giving him attention. It shouldn’t matter

[ChicoFromThe305]

Eventually it will, you don't think it will but eventually when many start to disrespect or don't feel the need to show you respect, it might, I think you should think on it, and think on it carefully, I think you can be far more valuable to society as a lover, wife and maybe even mother, instead of a soul less low value sex actor or adult entertainment.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Personally I don't agree nor do I want to motivate you to lead yourself down a path of where others will use you and only take advantage of your appearance, where you'll lose your dignity and self respect, love is hard, it's hard for everyone, some harder than others but that's what makes it so valuable and when you finally achieve that and find that love it will be far more worth it than any kind of government printed paper in your pocket.

[Asker]

lol men have already disrespected me

I’m not interested in being a wife or mother

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I tried, whatever floats your boat, best of luck.

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as love most of the time

[EnjoytheDay777]

Why do you want to?

[Asker]

To be a maneater… but I don’t want to have sex.

[EnjoytheDay777]

I understand how you feel, I've been hurt a lot... but I gotta have love. It's not for everyone tho. I'm just pretty numb emotionally, comes automatically honestly

[Asker]

Right ik deep down it’s not happening to me. I don’t want it to.

[EnjoytheDay777]

I've felt that way too, I hear you. Trusting someone with your emotions is damn tough

[Asker]

Yeah lol nevaaaa again

[EnjoytheDay777]

You okay without love?

[Asker]

I will be.