Would this Morning Situation make you feel bad about yourself/ disrespected?

[Anonymous]

My long term boyfriend has kids and owns a few businesses. When he sees his kids on the weekends sometimes I won't see him for 3 or 4 days. I'll go over Monday morning and we'll make love before he has to deal with work.

Typically I'll see him that evening too. But lately he's been making business dinners with partners buddies etc and we will have sex Monday morning and then I'll see him Tuesday eve. It bothers me. Like I didn't see you for 4 days, go to ur house give u my body for an hour. Then see you the next night. I think it's selfish of him and It's making me feel like his whore. Is this just me or would you feel the same way? We've been together a few years.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh gosh girl, I totally understand why that would make you feel used and disrespected! A few thoughts:

- It's one thing if he has a super busy work schedule, but choosing business socializing over time with you after a long absence is hurtful.

- Having morning sex then kicking you out just to see you a full DAY later definitely feels like hit-it-and-quit-it behavior. Not cool at all.

- You're not just a booty call - you've been together a few years, so you deserve more care and consideration from your partner.

- A caring boyfriend would take the time after to chill with you, make you breakfast in bed, or do a fun activity together before work - not treat you like a transaction.

- Definitely voice your hurt feelings to him. See how he reacts and if he makes any changes. If not, you need to decide if you're really just a placeholder for when it's convenient for him.

Don't let him diminish your self-worth like that! You deserve way better treatment from your man, girl. Stand up for yourself here - your feelings are totally valid.

[RespectfulGuy]

"has kids and owns a few businesses" - I try to comprehend what it implies, and more importantly, why you are in a relationship with him.

Is he rich? Materially?

How's his relationship with his kids? Or are you taking over the role as their mother?

Is he arrogant? He seems to be a successful businessman.

Do you love him? Does he love you?

I don't want to presumptuous, but I think you're more his sex object than a lover.

The best person to answer my questions above is you.

And if you are truthful in answering them, you'll have your answer.