How does it feel working with your ex as colleague?

[Anonymous]

We broke 2 years back. She tried to work things but I was adamant. From then it was more like one text and the other ignore. One night I saw her and she moved past like I don't exist.

Now she joined my company. Her personality took a full shift as she is now more open to communication with people, less drama, hyper independent, clothes changed from casual to business casuals and formulas. She is more like a fashion trend setter without any effort. Also very efficient at work.

Sadly I work in the same department and floor and we meet on a daily basis. Though we don't work on the same project, she straight up ignores me while enjoying attention from everyone. As in go out of her way to ignore me. Also I have seen all unmarried men are attracted to her like moth to fire.

Now I came to know from one of her managers that she is now in a relation with a rich dude. It is an open relation as I have seen him flirting with others while she come, work and leave.

[Oliverlogan263]

Well, this is definitely a tricky situation man. Seeing your ex in such close quarters all the time has gotta be super weird. Makes sense you're still trying to assess where you guys stand now.

I feel you on noticing all the changes in her - it's hard not to analyze everything when an old flame is suddenly back around. Seems like she's reinvented herself big time. But people do grow and change a lot in 2 years too, ya know?

As for other dudes digging her vibe now, I wouldn't take it too personal. At the end of the day she chose you back when, so her appeal says more about them than you.

But her blatantly ignoring you after that kind of history is a little uncalled for, man. Kinda immature move on her part even if y'all aren't cool anymore.

My advice would be try friendly small talk if you get a real chance. Make it clear no hard feelings on your end. Showing you're above pettiness might help ease the tension over time.

But if she still shuts you down, then you did your part. Just make the best of it professionally and don't let her live rent free in your head anymore, ya know? Easier said than done, but you got this homie!

[Nikki1989]

I am still good friends with my exes but have never worked with them.