Did you embrace who you are?

[Areyojmadd]

I’m very giggly and smiley and I am learning to embrace who I am. I was scared it was the reason predators think I’m easy prey because they think I’m dumb because I’m usually so smiley and giggly for no reason.

but I’m learning it’s ok to be me. Sometimes i just keep giving attention to assholes who put me down because I’m so giggly and smiley and it just goes to even jerks around me.

but I have to learn not to be happy and smiley and interactive with jerks. It’s not about me having to act like I’m not smiley and giggle it’s just about not giving energy to assholes anymore. Focus on good people

[paledreams]

I'm probably always a pushover prey to many lol so hell I've been smiley all since my 20s ♂️👞 uncommon for a male

[DerekC321]

I'm learning to do it, but it's really hard.

[Areyojmadd]

Oh why

[DerekC321]

I was bullied and feel people automatically look down on me. I know it's not realistic but I do it automatically out of long habit

[Areyojmadd]

You’re awesome don’t worry about it. Anyone puts you down irs cause they’re trash humans with no morals or character.

Trust me because I have a bully at work who is a charming narcissist I assumed was a friend but he exposed himself as a trash human because he told me he wants a sugar daddy or mom. He’s straight. Unless he’s lying about that. So imagine how low of a person someone is if there willing to trick a rich person for their money and pretend they like them? He’s the same guy who makes fun of my appearance repeatedly. I decided today I’m cutting him off and I I’ll be cold. You don’t get to insult me and I have to be nice and friendly to you. What a joke.

[DerekC321]

Thanks, and good for you, I think you made the right choice. I'm sorry you have to put up with that kind of behavior. Unfortunately I think there's a lot of those kinds of guys out there, with no depth and who have no clue about what's really important in a relationship. A close, deep connection, what's not to get?

[Areyojmadd]

Thank you. Yeah there are a lot of guys like that it seems. I’m looking for that rare actually kind hearted man who’s not shallow to boot. A lot of guys seem nice at first but it’s an act! I wish shallow jerks would just go be with whoever fits their perfect image and stop chasing and harassing me since I’m so ugly to them. How strange. I’m so full of flaws apparently so they need to only approach hot bikini models with perfect faces. But we all know that’s not true. They know I am valuable that’s why they come after me. They’re just so arrogant and need to lower me to prop up their fragile ego

[DerekC321]

You're right, there are a lot of those kinds of guys. I think women have to put up with this kind of crap more often than guys do, I'd say ignore them but I imagine that must be hard when there's lots of those guys who say those things all the time... sounds like they're near sighted and don't have their priorities straight. At least you know what to avoid. I think if a guy likes a girl he'll take the time to get to know her, and like her for what makes her special on a personal level. I think those are the kinds of connection that leads to loving, full relationships imho

[Areyojmadd]

True. A lot of guys don’t seem to put an effort to get to know me and probably other women either. It’s Al surface level commentary on my appearance whether it’s negging/bullying or shallow compliments or remarks noBody asked for. No effort is made to spend time together outside of offers for partying and other ways to get laid… I’m over 30 now so I pretty much know what the nonsense looks like now. It’s more of my issue to not accept garbage due to loneliness. But I’m getting stronger day by day. This experience made me stronger now. Before I was unable to give up the hope that this guy could be my lover. I guess we women can get delusional at times. This really showed me he’s just like most guys are. But I know there’s men out there who are the exact opposite and now it’s my goal to wait patiently for them to pursue me. Women are just too permissive at times.

What issues do you face as a man when dating?

[DerekC321]

I'm glad your past experiences helped you get stronger. I think both guys and girls can get delusional at times, especially when we really like someone and want things to work. For me it's tough to open up and let myself be emotionally vulnerable, because of course getting hurt is always going to be a risk. And when I do it's really tough for me to be apart from her, and I worry if she's still cool with how things are going.

[Areyojmadd]

Thanks!

I can see how delusion can play a part in both genders. Some girls would use a man’s vulnerability against him. It’s probably wise to not open up too soon. I’ve heard of women who are narcissistic and they are after their own selfish goals and They purposefully dress and act ways to charm men and it’s all games to get what they want from men. If a girl is ver charming or beautiful (esp makeup, alluring clothes or flirty), it’s a sign

[DerekC321]

Very welcome, and yes you're right. I know some women are like that (I know some women who are). I try to think with my head and not other things lol, and take the time to get to know them and try to understand better what their priorities are. I think the need for love is obvious so you can tell when someone isn't looking for it and wants other things

[Areyojmadd]

That’s great. I think a girl who dresses modestly not drawing attention to her looks is the best bet. Some do that but then go to parties dolled up. I mean the girls that never flaunt beauty.

That’s cool you can tell who needs love. I wonder if a girl can tell if a guy needs love too.

[DerekC321]

Like if a girl shares personal things with me and hangs out with me a lot and we're interested in a lot of the same things then I feel like it's serious, the trick is to take the time to get to know each other well enough.

I think is kind of the same for guys, like a guy who likes you for who you are and what makes you special will want to hang out with you a lot, and share a lot of personal things/feelings. But key is that they take the time to get to know you.

[Areyojmadd]

Thanks! Yeah that’s a good point. A lot of people who are fake won’t want to spend time with a person. But they expect you to reveal your self to them or give them your money or body. It’s very entitled.

[DerekC321]

Yes, it's really selfish and a total double standard. A guy who cares about your feelings wouldn't do that.

[Areyojmadd]

I hope we find good people, as friends or spouses … do you think there are more women who need love so it’s easier for a man to find a genuine partner?

[PeachyPie93]

Sort of.. I hate myself and everyone else.. So.. don't know lol.

[mandyfire98]

I embraced who I was completely almost a decade ago.

[jojouzumaki]

I am certainly embrace who I deeply am since, it provides me a sense of security to my own being.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes i do and I bet you fun to be around

[woahhh152]

I like how I am