Live in girlfriend won't wear pantyhose or stockings for me but wears them to work almost everyday?

[Bjjman94]

Question pretty much states it. My woman in stockings is what really gets me going, makes me weak in the knees & she knows it, she's worn them a few times for me in the past but hasn't in a while & now she like refuses to do so. She won't even keep them on for me after work as soon as she gets in the door she takes them off now or any other time she wears them out, we went to a nice steakhouse last weekend & she wore them but again the second we got back home she took them off with her shoes right when we got in the door. I got like mad almost bc to me she teased me all night then kinda blue balled me. When i asked her why she no longer at least leaves them on after work for me she said that they "make her feet all sweaty and gross" & that she doesn't wanna wear them around the house. This is new tho that's the weird thing up until I wanna say about 3-4 months ago she would leave them on after work for me until we got to have play time. Any ideas on why she changed & any ideas on how to get her to wear them more often again?

[Anonymous]

I personally have no interest in a woman that wants to use up my resources while having no intention of giving me what I want. In modern day America, I hear that a lot of the women who get married use sex as a tool to control their husbands. If a woman EVER tries this crap with me, I will boot her out of my life. I'm not tolerating junk from a modern woman.

My philosophy is that if a man and a woman loved each other in the way that mattered, it would show through their actions. In certain relationships I've had in my life, I've seen that If both sides try to put 100% effort, the other side sees that and wants to do more to thank the former. I don't see how this doesn't apply with a partner. If my wife does not appreciate my work and acts selfishly, I will simply exit to minimize wastage of resources on a foolish woman. Likewise for a good wife; if she is putting in a lot of effort to please me and I am not fulfilling my role properly, I am a fool and do not deserve her.

If you're fulfilling your role in the relationship, don't show partiality to her just because she's a woman. Western ideologies have brainwashed/gas-lighted a lot of western men into putting women on a pedestal for nothing in return. There are probably some details I don't know about your specific situation but it's your choice at the end of the day.

[Bjjman94]

I hear you but I don't think she's using this as a tool to control me as she hasn't made any demands such as "if you do x I'll wear them for you" im just trying to figure out why she all of a sudden doesn't wanna wear them for me anymore & comes up with some bs excuse like "they make my feet sweat" lol so 6 months ago that wasn't a problem but now it is all of a sudden? What? Lol

[NamerOfStars]

Probably because she mentally associates them with work, and wants to put that behind her when she gets home and starts having fun with you.

[SueShe]

If you had to wear those tight pantyhose and/or stockings for 12+ hours, you would also remove them the first thing when you come home.

They are uncomfortable but alas, a necessity with all those pervs and voyeurs lurking around.

She also not in the mood for your sexual advances day in and day since you basically seem only interested in fornicating when she wears those uncomfortable pantyhose.

You should have a little more consideration for your girlfriend and put yourself in her shoes. Unfortunately for her, she has to be stuck in those uncomfortable stockings the entire day.

[Bjjman94]

I don't only want sex when she's wearing them lol. You sound very unhappy about something. I also said she used to wear them for me but switched up and I can't really understand why. Also, what's the point of sexual exclusivity if you don't wanna please your partner?

[SueShe]

An adult person fornicates less than one single percent of his/her awake time. Why does this one percent take precedence over the remaining 99% of life?

[Bjjman94]

I never said it did? I just said it'd be nice if my s. o wore stockings for me sometimes...

[singsing101]

I think the culture changed on this issue. Women used to use stockings and pantyhose in part to attract men. But now most women choose not to wear them. If she’s wearing them to work all day, she probably sees them as her work clothes and doesn’t get your attraction to her in hosiery. If you keep pushing her, she will probably be less interested in wearing hosiery at home.

You could try going online and buying some made for men if you have a pantyhose and stocking fetish. You could try taking the role of wearing them at home and see if she likes it. Some women get turned on by that. The main thing is you and her will associate fooling around with the guy in hose. You may not like that and she might not either.

[In_Trance]

The question does not pretty much state it. What are you actually asking?

[Bjjman94]

How do I convince her to wear them for me more often? Sorry lol

[In_Trance]

How would she convince you to do something that you really don't want to do?

When you think about that and realize how hard it is for you to change something about yourself, you'll realize you have no chance to change something about others

[Billlewis]

She sounds fa

[Bjjman94]

Wym fa?

[Billlewis]

Sorry, fantastic.

[Bjjman94]

What makes you say that?

[Billlewis]

Her wardrobe routine is an indication that she's comfortable with both showing off at work, and kind of relaxing a little when she's home with you. If she's confident, that's a good thing, right?