Girls, what changed?

[Anonymous]

I was getting on well with a Female colleague (we have known each other for well over a year) and after she wished me a Happy birthday on our work chat (out of the blue I might add), she seemed to be excited and receptive to being invited to my birthday drinks with messages like "can't wait, sounds like a good plan"... eventually I had to cancel them though due to Family reasons and she said that was "fine and I am sure it will be great when it happens", following that I seemed to get looks and a few times she was in the kitchen when I was.

The following weeks, we sent messages through work chat and Facebook and funny memes to each other and she always loved heart things I said... but then this week I invited her to a work Christmas event and she said she was busy with University work (I need to stress that I always invited her as a colleague to a social event and not one on one dates), so I messaged back "OK, all good..."

I saw her in the office this morning and she gave me a bit of a cold look and just said "morning" when I said "good morning" to her so it made me think, it is probably best to not message her anymore or invite her out to events, with all of this can you see what changed? Can anything be repaired here or do I just act like nothing is wrong?

[_Maya_]

I see that you have called out someone being anonymous... while being anonymous. Thanks for the chuckle there. As for the question I'm going to give you the same advice I give everyone looking to date a coworker. DON'T. I just don't understand how it fails to get across to people how poor of a decision it is to date someone you work with. It is just a terrible decision and thus you dodged a bullet here by her being "cold" or however you interpret it. Guess what happens when things go south in the relationship? How fun will that be going to work when you two are mad at each other after a huge blowup? What if it is really bad and you two can't stand to be around each other? Are you going to quit? I think you get my point but I doubt it will make any difference.

[Asker]

"I think you get my point but I doubt it will make any difference"... huh?, dating? we are platonic Friends and I was asking if I had done something that I could repair, where did you pick up that I wanted to date her?, how am I dating her if I invite her to social work events with other people?

[Anonymous]

She probably has something heavy she is dealing with in her life that has nothing to do with you whatsoever.

[Crazzyyworld]

well, don't push around. leave it as is. go with the flow.

[Anonymous]

45 plus or 15 plus?

There is no way you can be this immature and be in your mid-40s.

[Asker]

Thanks for the judgement, I am 22 and the age thing is wrong and I can't edit it.

[Asker]

There is no way you can be anonymous, callous and make assumptions and judgements.