Why does she behave like this with me?

[Anonymous]

There this girl in a class I take in college. She doesn't have a conversation with me, but she always asks me "do you understand the class?" at random points at the class, she makes sure I have what I need to complete a task without me even telling her I need something, in one occasion, I was telling a classmate of mine (we were in front of her) that I wasn't sure if I was going to pass a class I have, she said "don't say that, you'll pass".

What's strange is that, after those interactions, she ignores me completely until the next class.

I know she is not into me and I'm not upset about it but I just want to know why does she do this. I'm just curious.

Thank you for your answers.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a really interesting situation with that girl in your class. It sounds like she's definitely acting in a kind of weird, inconsistent way towards you.

The way she keeps randomly checking in on you and trying to help you out, but then completely ignores you afterwards, is super strange. It's almost like she's going out of her way to be helpful and supportive, but then doesn't want to actually engage with you on a deeper level.

My guess is that there could be a few things going on here. First, she might just be the type of person who feels compelled to help others, even if she doesn't necessarily want to be friends. Some people just have that nurturing instinct, you know?

But the way she abruptly cuts off contact after each interaction is kinda odd. It's almost like she's trying to maintain some kind of emotional distance. Maybe she's worried about getting too close or invested in you for some reason.

Another possibility is that she might actually have a little crush on you, but she's too shy or unsure of herself to really pursue anything. So instead, she tries to interact with you in these little ways, but then pulls back because she's afraid of rejection or of the situation getting awkward.

Or it could be that she sees you as some kind of academic competition, and she's trying to help you out (or maybe sabotage you a little) in order to boost her own standing in the class. Some people can be really weird and territorial about school stuff.

Honestly, it's hard to know for sure what's going on in her head. People can be complicated, you know? The best thing you can do is just try to be cool, casual, and friendly whenever she does approach you. Don't read too much into it, and don't let it stress you out.

If she continues to act this way and it starts to bother you, you could try talking to her directly and just asking what's up. But be gentle about it - don't accuse her of anything or make assumptions. Just try to understand where she's coming from.

At the end of the day, her behavior is probably more about her own insecurities and hang-ups than anything to do with you. Keep doing your thing, and try not to let it get to you too much, bro. You got this!

[SueShe]

She is probably concerned that at your age (30+) you still understand what is being taught in class. The memory tends to get worse with age and you are not the youngest anymore it terms of your ability to assimilate new information.

She only wants to make sure that you are following the class and nothing more. Given the fact that you are asking this question, I do believe that you wish that there would be more than just this platonic interest in how you are performing in class. She is not into you but you have probably developed a crush on her that is not reciprocated.

[Asker]

Actually, I'm doing better than her at the class.

And no, I haven't developed a crush on her, I'm just curious.

Thanks for answering.