Feeling confused about how women feel about me?

[Anonymous]

I get a lot of compliments from women in the last few months about being handsome/cute & being told my character & personality is fun , with a lot of positive traits alongside that make you easy to be around.

But it seems like they only want friendship or in some rare case a friends with benefits/situationship with me, instead of something more.
But the part I need help with is , why does every woman see that in me , yet never want to be more in some way towards me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really confusing and frustrating situation. It sucks when you're getting all these compliments and positive feedback from women, but it never seems to lead anywhere more than just friendship.

I can totally understand why you'd be feeling so confused about it. If all these women think you're so great - handsome, fun to be around, all those positive traits - then why aren't any of them interested in taking things to the next level? It doesn't really add up.

A few thoughts on what might be going on:

1) They might genuinely just see you as a great friend and nothing more. Some women really are able to appreciate all the amazing qualities in a guy without feeling romantic attraction. It's not a reflection on you, just their personal preferences.

2) You might be giving off more of a "friendly, approachable guy" vibe rather than a "potential romantic partner" vibe. Even if you're physically attractive, your mannerisms and behaviors could be coming across as more platonic.

3) Timing/circumstances could be a factor. Maybe some of these women would be interested if the situation was different, but for now they're just not in a place to pursue anything romantic.

The best thing you can do is try not to take it too personally. It's easy to get in your own head about this kind of thing, but the reality is that attraction and relationships are really complex. What works for one woman might not work for another.

My advice would be to keep being your awesome, genuine self. The right woman who sees you as boyfriend material will come along eventually. In the meantime, focus on cultivating those great friendships - they have value too, even if they're not what you're looking for long-term.

And don't be afraid to have open conversations with these women, if you feel comfortable. Let them know you're interested in more than just friendship and see how they respond. At least then you'll have clarity, you know?

Hang in there, bro. You've got a lot going for you, so don't lose that confidence. The right connection is out there, I promise.

[Sabretooth]

... probably how the rest of us feel about you.

[Asker]

Which is?

[Sabretooth]

well, if you have to ask... we're probably, we're probably right. lol!

[Sabretooth]

Thanks.

[Asker]

Still don't understand a word you said.

[Sabretooth]

I was trolling you

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe you’re only attracted to women who want casual stuff and that’s why you notice it

[BlckGrl]

Are you a shy man? do you reciprocate? are you a nice man?

[Asker]

I was shy as a kid but stopped being that way once I became a teen & as an adult was a completely different man. I'm along the lines of good man dynamic & do showcase qualities like that.

[BlckGrl]

unfortunately that's the issue, some women don't like nice men in our early ages they like men who treat them poorly. Men like you are placed on the back burner when she gets hurt and needs consoling and actually finally wants love.

[Anonymous]

DDude, to be honest, you look like you're from the Middle East.

[Asker]

Ik I get asked, if I'm mixed race a lot from people.