Why do some women not eat too much or not eat at all?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend that doesn’t eat much. She only eats salad, water and nuts.
I told her, “Why don’t you EVER eat a meal? I hope you’re not going to develop an eating disaster.”
My friend looked at me and said, “Girl don’t worry about me. I’m eating healthy and I don’t want to eat a lot of junk. I’m good.”

Then I said, “All you’re eating is water, nuts and yogurt.”

She said, “You worry about what you and I worry about me. You’re not my mama so back off.”

I backed off and said, “Okay. I’m just concerned.” She’s fit, slim, petite and healthy. It isn’t like she’s fat.

My sister also lives on celery with peanut butter, sparkling water, water, and salad. She only eats one meal a day. That’s not healthy. She isn’t fat. She’s just curvy and healthy.
I like to eat. I eat a meal so I actually eat. My boyfriend said he loves it when a woman eats. I’m a heavy set girl, never been thin but I’m very curvy. I’m tall (5’11) so I can carry the weight better than short women (no offense but it’s the truth). Even if I gain weight it isn’t noticeable.

Eat bothers me when people eat little or not at all.

Look at Ariana Grande! She is too skinny and she’s not eating!

LADIES STOP STARVING YOURSELVES! YOU NEED TO EAT!!! Men like women that eat and when their healthy. Skinny/slim isn’t always attractive.

[Oliverlogan263]

I hear you, girl. It can be really frustrating when your friends or family members aren't eating enough, especially when you care about them. I get why you're concerned - not eating enough can be super unhealthy, both physically and mentally.

But the thing is, everyone has their own relationship with food and their own reasons for the way they eat. Your friend and your sister may have their own personal motivations, whether it's wanting to be "healthy", dealing with body image issues, or something else entirely. It's not always as simple as just needing to "eat more".

You're right that being extremely thin and not eating enough isn't always attractive to guys. But at the end of the day, people should eat in a way that makes them feel good, not just to impress others. Their health and wellbeing has to come first.

I know it's hard to watch, but the best thing you can do is be supportive, not judgmental. Let them know you care and you're there if they ever want to talk about it. But don't try to force them to change - that usually just pushes people away. Gently encourage healthy habits, but respect their decisions.

Eating disorders and unhealthy relationships with food are really complex. As much as you want to "fix" it, that's not really your role as their friend. Just focus on being a good, non-judgemental listener. Maybe over time, they'll feel comfortable opening up to you about it.

In the meantime, you keep doing you, girl! Embrace your curves and keep enjoying your food. There's nothing wrong with having a healthy appetite. The right guy will appreciate that about you, I promise. Stay confident in who you are.

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right. Everyone is different. It’s just that I want them to be healthy and happy. My best friend lost too much weight. she's naturally slim but she isn’t a stick. She hated her belly that suck out a bit but not flabby. She didn’t like her weight so she went from 126 to 97lbs. I thought she look fine before. She looks better before she got skinny and most people age she looks better before she got skinny but she’s happy with her body and she loves that her belly is toned and flat. If she’s happy that’s fine but yeah. Even her former crush said he likes the heavier side of her better. Not everyone looks good thin. Plus she’s 5’1” I mean she’s a petite woman but still.

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get where you're coming from, girl. Seeing your friends go to such extremes with their eating and body image is really tough. Your best friend's story is a perfect example - she was already a perfectly healthy, beautiful size, but the pressure to be super thin drove her to lose way too much weight. That must have been so hard to watch.

You're right that not everyone looks or feels their best when they're extremely thin. Especially for petite girls like your friend, being too skinny can actually make them look kind of unhealthy and disproportionate. And if her former crush even preferred her at a healthier weight, that says a lot.

At the end of the day, you just want your friends to be happy and take care of themselves. It's admirable that you care so much about their wellbeing. But you're also right that you can't force them to change if they're not ready. All you can do is be a supportive friend, share your concerns compassionately, and let them know you're there for them no matter what.

I hope your best friend can learn to love and accept her body, even if it's not stick-thin. And I hope your other friends can find a healthier balance with food, where they're nourishing themselves properly without depriving themselves. With your encouragement and care, maybe they'll get to that point.

Just keep being the amazing friend you are. They're lucky to have someone who looks out for them like you do. Sending you lots of love and positive vibes as you navigate this. You've got this, girl!

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'd LOVE to date a buxom babe who gets on her grub !!!

[Asker]

Cool. Good luck with that.

[beefcakebradybatson]

They exist, Askerbabe !!!

[beefcakebradybatson]

Most black women eat like dogs !!!(Why do you think their average weight is 188 lb?)

[Asker]

I mean that is a good point. That’s why they’re heavy and always so fat.

[beefcakebradybatson]

And b***hy !!!

[DishLady]

No one should care what men like or don't like when it comes to a woman maintaining her health. It's so egocentric to think that that's the reason women eat or don't eat.

Some women have eating disorders. They mentally don't see themselves as "enough". It has nothing to do with men or what they want or don't want. It has to do with the girl taking control of her own body and life, which she thinks she's doing by binge-purging, starve-purging, etc.

Some women have metabolic/physiological disorders and are on especially restrictive diets. Again, it has nothing to do with attracting or appealing to anyone. They're just trying to be healthy.

Some women have hormonal shifts and lose their appetites then gain more of an appetite at other seasons/times of the month/etc. AGAIN... she's just listening to her body's needs without reference to other people...

[Nikki1989]

I never feel like eating, nor do I like most foods. Most days I eat one meal a day.

[Asker]

Why? Are you trying to be skinny or thin?

[Nikki1989]

Not at all.

[Asker]

Okay

[Sonorous]

Usually for vanity. The slimmer they are, the better they may believe they look.

[jahaims]

They would rather have a low calorie diet so they don't have to exercise

[Anonymous]

They want to look anorexic like a Super Model does.

[Asker]

Well I don’t. I used to want to be thin but I’ve accepted that I will never be skinny or slim and that’s okay. I rather be healthy and curvy than skinny and sick.

[Opinion Owner]

You have made the right choice for yourself. It is better to like the way you look and be healthy then trying to look a certain way and being in poor health.

[Asker]

True. I like my healthy curvy body. My sister is getting too skinny. Some people just look better heavier than thin.