Have they completely ditched me?

[Anonymous]

I find it really hard to maintain friendships because I sometimes don’t feel like I have the energy but I’m willing to invest in quality friendships.
I’ve just moved to a new state for a new job and have been really busy with that and apartment hunting but I also didn’t want to feel lonely and homesick so I joined a BFF friends app and started meeting people. One of the girls I met on there was on day one and she was about five years older than me but we started chatting about common interests.
It took her a while to ask to meet up but she eventually organized a gathering with me and a few other girls.
It went so well and we all clicked and took lots of videos at the event. We had a groupchat and I guess she knew the two other girls ( maybe from the app ) because she orchestrated it. She texted the groupchat on Valentine’s Day wishing us happy valentines and she ended up asking for us all to have brunch like a week after that since I’m off on Mondays and I have a weird schedule. One of the girls couldn’t come but the brunch went well with just the three of us. I found it sweet how she moved it to Monday because I was off work. When we hang out they seem engaged with me and we all talk about our favorite tv shows and stuff. I guess they had went ice skating on the weekend and two of them double dated with their boyfriends. I was okay with this because they all have boyfriends and I don’t yet and they’re off on the weekends and I’m not. One of them at the brunch even suggested we should go ice skating with me. It’s been a couple of weeks since we hung out and noones asked me and I feel a little self conscious because I’m paranoid that they’re hanging out without me. I don't know why I feel this way and I want to focus on my dream job but I’ve never had many friends lol because girls will initially want to talk to me but then it just fizzles out and no one wants to make any effort. How do I get over feeling this way? Am I being paranoid?

[petitedollbabee]

I think because of your history of struggling to maintain friendships with people, you’re quick to jump to the conclusion that they must be hanging out behind your back and not including you. But I think you might find that a lot of it is in your head. Chances are that they haven’t gone ice skating since their double dates and therefore haven’t asked you to come. I’d suggest giving it some time, maybe another 3-4 weeks? If they still haven’t asked by then, then you should take the initiative and ask them if they’d like to go. After all, friendship activities should never be one sided. They shouldn’t always have to be the ones asking you out.