Is it normal to feel like shit months after a guy blocks you over your body?

[Anonymous]

Okay, freshly post-teen here, and I am fucking confused. Do you burn the guy that blocks you after complimenting your boobs, or do you burn yourself? That might be a bit fucking overboard, but I’m not a person that usually gets fucking blocked or actually sends shit (don’t judge or I’m burning you next… jk).

It’s just been on my mind for three fucking months now. WHY am I still thinking about it? It’s supposed to be casual fucking shit, alright? But the thing is that was my first time ever? (AGAIN, don’t judge.) And I've always thought I don't give a shit about anything, but apparently I do.

I’m not that conservative… well, I won’t walk out naked, but I’ve never done shit, mainly by choice + expectations. I find myself going back to that time. I don’t like him, but it just felt like selling myself with no payment. It’s weird. It hurts a bit, but I don’t want to keep thinking about it. I’ve been trying to keep myself busy + work on new things, but I still fall back into these thoughts. It might be seen as a silly thing, but fuck, I am bothered and down. I just don’t know what to do. And I was never conscious or insecure about my body. I’m no model, but I know I look good. Lately though, I’ve been feeling fucking bad and insecure because fuck you? I can’t change my boobs? (Not getting surgery for shit.)

It might sound like I’m joking or just bored, but I’m really serious. It’s been on my mind and it’s disturbing me. I feel like shit for it.

Fuck, do I want to burn his house for it.

Ask any questions if you mean to help. And will you fucking tell me how boobs are SUPPOSED to look like.

Updates

4 mo

Okay hi um... i don't really remember much rn, and I just want to say thanks to whoever actually wanted to help, and I think I am so much better now, I don't think much of it, and I feel bad for me getting sad and worked up over a nobody.

I think i am just a bit obsessive, but I think I am working on that, so yeap. Still better. I am very much good now :)

P. S. Its a bit embarrassing to read this again Lol

[HollyK21]

All you can really do is better with the next guy. You can’t take back what you did, so there’s no use beating yourself up about it every day. If he unlocked some things hidden about yourself that you didn’t realize were there then cool, you got something out of this and his purpose in your life has been served. Now it’s time to stop looking back over your shoulder at the things you can’t change and focus on the things you can.


A weight loss journey should always be about you, first and foremost, so if getting in shape will make you feel better then make that your goal for the new year. You can also reflect on that situation, take note of what happened that you don’t want to happen again, and apply it in the future. Like if what bothered you was feeling used then going forward don’t do the things that incite that feeling. For example, if you sent him topless pics only for him to block you pretty expeditiously then maybe you shouldn’t send them, either at all or not until you’re in a relationship and there’s an actual commitment in place.

[Asker]

I honestly thank you first for taking the time to write. I am not really overweight, its just sometimes shit feels weird, normal things feel weird so I felt like that, and I am planning to work on myself till I am 100% satisfied of how I look. And honestly no more of that shit, not sending anyone anything, I'l just meet people and get married one day and thats it, I am making it simple like that because I honestly can't handle getting fucked over like this again. And I think I'll just have to work on my fucked coping skills, because this is not right, no human can survive being down over anyone and so easily.

[HollyK21]

It’s important to keep in mind that you are human first and perfect never. You’re amongst millions of women out there who wish they could be void of care, but we just aren’t built that way. Women are emotional creatures, we couldn’t do half the heartless shit that a lot of men do and then just walk away like nothing happened. That’s why we have to be super intentional when it comes to dating and never hesitate to act in our own best interests.

When you started talking to this guy, think of all the different conversations that ultimately led to what happened. Like if he was love bombing you, or asking about sexual topics pretty soon into knowing you, things like that. A series of events led to you ultimately doing what you did, so ask yourself why you did it. Did you want something serious or think that was where things were headed? If either of these were the case, then make that the priority next time and maybe not do any of the sexual stuff until you’re actually with the guy.

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys block you once they get nudes. It doesn’t mean they don’t like them. It usually means they liked them very much.

[Anonymous]

Are you seriously 30 years old? This is the one of the most childish posts I've ever seen. You were complimented on your boobs, as if you had anything to DO with why they look the way they do? And you're holding on to some shit a dude who means nothing to you did? Grow up.

[Asker]

FRESHLY POST TEEN. I am seriously serious, I promise. I just really need to fucking get over this fucked up thought, thats why I need a fucking advice. Thanks. please read before you type. Thanks again.

[Opinion Owner]

Hey, don't fucking give me shit. Your profile says your age is 30-35. So what you REALLY are is a teen ager posing as a 30 year old? I saw "freshly post teen", and we're supposed to know wtf that means? Fuck off. We're not mind readers.

You want advice? 1) Post your age for real. 2) Grow up and move on from this juvenile bullshit. You fucking kids get a little heartbreak and think the WORLD has come to an end. It ain't your last either. GROW UP !!

[Asker]

I hope you trip on your steps and fall on your nose.

[Asker]

Fuck you for undermining other people's problems just because you think differently, And growing up doesn't fucking happen in a one day. As if you reached the epitome of wisdom, you are fucking growing too.

[Nikki1989]

Ignore the low-IQ anon trolls on here. They are not helping anyone. Look at the other anon post on this thread; all he could muster was three emojis. lol.

[Mike_Hum]

sounds like you might need professional mental help.

[Asker]

Wow... what gives...

[Mike_Hum]

nothing. You don't think you'd benefit from therapy? Your response isn't really rational.

[Asker]

I am not fucking weird, I just feel weird.

[Mike_Hum]

No one said you were.

[Asker]

I just really don't know how to function back to normal, I was fucking cool, I didn't care about any opinions. I just don't know what fucking happened, what made someone who is a fucking stranger to just fuck me up like this, I don't want to fucking embarrass myself to a therapist about this, because it wasn't supposed to be shit. I really feel fucking devastated, I think I am just fucked rn

[Mike_Hum]

Right, but they're professionals, and act as such.

[Asker]

But wouldn’t making a big deal out of it just make it harder for me to forget about it later?

[Mike_Hum]

No, it will be someone giving you coping skills so you don't go off the rails and figure a way through this.

[Asker]

Not fucking weak, won't kill myself. But thanks, you actually made it a bit clear. Didn't help that much but, I'll fucking try to talk to someone.

[Master_Debator]

How can I pass judgement unless you show me them? They crooked or don't match size or something?

I've seen a lot of questions like this lately and it's usually women that get big mad because the guys said something that was true, and it really makes her big mad.

Basically the truth hurts real bad. Is this you?

[Asker]

I honestly don't know what you mean

[Screenwriter]

Do you have access to a counselor. I'd want to explore why this particular event has been so hurtful to you and you are still obsessing over it, angry etc.

I'd talk to a pro about resolving why this has caused you so much angst. Good luck.

[PeachyPie93]

I never been blocked by a guy who I sent my boobs to so I don't know why he would do that? But just don't send them to anyone not serious about you..

[Pohjolan]

If its any consolidation you will later look back at this and think how silly you were to be so upset about something so trivial.

[midnightcavern01]

No because its clear he felt too insecure to stand beside you anymore ;) you always look good

[msc545]

Get some help. You sound at least marginally dangerous.

[Asker]

I am still trying to figure out if you are serious or just want to be fucking rude.

[slatyb]

It's not normal. Consider professional counseling.

[jahaims]

You are very immature. Try therapy

[realbiggrin]

Yeah I was thinking 16 maybe 17.

[Asker]

I mean I thought I made it clear that I am young lol

[realbiggrin]

Well you did say "very fresh post teen hear" but your profile tag says your 30 to 35. You say your devastated because a guy complimented your breasts and the blocks you. If he blocked you couldnt have been from something else like the way you use the word fucking in every to every other sentence?
Sorry but to me that would be an ender before your beautiful beasts would be.

[Asker]

@realbiggrin Well, honey some people keep their profile private, and so, to make people understand why I am acting this way, or since its related to why I am asking the question, I thought adding my age would be important. Well, if he found my terms offensive, then he would have blocked me a long time ago, so I don't think he cared about that. "To me" Yeah, to you.

I really don't want to be rude, I promise you. I am sorry if you are angry about me, I can't help that. And I really didn't think many people would be so angry, I am sorry for whoever thought that this was offensive. This might not be a big deal to many, but I would cry every other day, I was deeply hurt, and I honestly wanted help from anyone.

[urpapi69]

You can text me if you wanna talk

[Anonymous]

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