Should I keep going to a male‑dominated hobby if one woman is rude to me?

[Anonymous]

Found this new hobby - it's fun.

However it tends to for some reason be primarily male dominated.

There is this one girl I met there, and I also met her outside of it in a different setting. She was condescending towards me when I met her outside of that setting.

I want to go for the hobby but she's going to be there and I don't want to have a bad time. Plus since it's male dominated all the women sit together so my paths will cross hers.

[OneViewpoint]

She's probably only rude to you because you're a weirdo and she's gatekeeping the community who participate in that hobby. So what's the male dominated hobby? Gay sex? Rodeo? Nascar? Strip clubs? Mass shootings? Methamphetamine? Bad ballroom dancing? MMA fighting?

[Anonymous]

Yes why would you let someone dictate how you feel? If you like it keep going. Is there a rule that says the women have to sit together? If not than get to know some of the men. Believe it or not men are more accepting of the opposite gender than women are. Women tend to always be on guard, thinking men are always hitting on them just cause they say hello or smile. What hobby is it?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You can choose not to sit with her. If your happiness depends on one person’s actions, you’ll never be happy

[Asker]

Yes but as I said it is male dominated so there are barely any women who come together which means there will be some engagement if I go also the hobby is interactive

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So… talk to the men?

[Staximus]

Nobody knows who you are , I don’t know why the hell you’re being so mysterious and not just saying what you’re doing. Stop worrying about what other people think and just do whatever the hell you want, or go do it somewhere else

[HollyK21]

So so true. On top of that we aren’t always going to mesh well with everyone, so do we just stop doing what we enjoy just because we aren’t getting along with every single participant? Just silly. One girl isn’t treating me like her new bestie so forget the hobby! Lol goodness.

[Asker]

Both of you are insane.

You have zero clue what the hobby is, or what the girl did exactly.

Peoples foolishness never fails to surprsie me

[HollyK21]

Ma’am the only insanely foolish person in this equation here is you, considering throwing a whole hobby away for the sake of one person. It doesn’t matter what the hobby is or what she did exactly — either go or fucking don’t. End of story. Your arrogant attitude is likely why she acts that way in the first place.

[Staximus]

I don’t know why you’re being so vague and mysterious about your hobby unless you’re humping trees and leprechauns in the park on Sunday

[HollyK21]

Why is it so insane to point that out @staximus? Seriously why doesn’t making note of her being vague equate to foolishness lol now that is weird but to each their own mysteries, too secret hobbies.

[HollyK21]

**does

[Staximus]

Yeah we have zero clue what your dumb hobby is because you won’t say because you’re a dummy

[Staximus]

You’re not James Bond

[Asker]

@HollyK21 I didn't say the hobby don't put words in my mouth. This is not the only event on the planet for that hobby.

See again so foolish I can't even. You have the nerve to try to insult me and when I stand up for myself act like I'm the problem.

Typical defensive behaviour when you can't reason out things.

[Asker]

@staximus it's because of freaks like you. Lots of amazing people on this forum but there'll be one oddball in this case you that makes me feel more safe being anonymous.

You give all the other wonderful people on this forum a bad name

[Staximus]

No it’s the general consensus that you’re just being dumb and vague when there’s no need

[HollyK21]

Another day another anonymous social reject deeply in their unwarranted feelings. Like I SAID, either go or fucking don’t. You’re making yourself look like the child you are not supposed to be based off your age. In any case if you can’t talk shit without our veil of protection then don’t talk to someone like me lol not interested.

[HollyK21]

*your veil

[Asker]

@HollyK21 @staximus So I call you foolish and I get this whole essay.

Go back to the discussion thread and see who attacked whom first. This convo is over on my end

[HollyK21]

Exactly Staximus. How in the fuck is knowing what her hobby is a weird thing anyway lol the lady is already anonymous, as if saying “I enjoy baseball” pinpoints her exact location and we’re gonna hunt her down lmao like get real.

[HollyK21]

2-3 sentences isn’t an essay genius. Go back to school.

[Asker]

@HollyK21 If after multiple posts you think this is 2-3 sentences you are a real nut.

[HollyK21]

Well, you have equally participated IN and contributed TO this exchange, so does that make you a nut as well? Lol good grief.

[Staximus]

@HollyK21 it’s almost as bad as the people who anonymously post questions like "do you have a cat?"

[slatyb]

Don't let nasty people control your life. She's probably jealous of you for some reason. Maybe the men are giving you attention that they formerly gave to her.

[Mike_Hum]

Do what makes you happy. Disregard anyone else.