For the majority of girls do they ask you to hang out or they wait for you to do it?

[Anonymous]

[slatyb]

If you wait for women to hit on you, you will have a lonely life. If you ask for what you want, you will be much happier.

[Asker]

I have seen girls ask guys to hang out

[slatyb]

Yes, it happens. But it's stupid to wait to ask someone on a date. When you do, they start dating someone else.

[Asker]

I wasn't talking about a date. I was talking about asking to hang out

[slatyb]

What do you want? "Hanging out" shows either a lack of confidence or a lack of initiative. Do you want a girlfriend? Do what adult men do: plan a date and invite a woman to join you.

[Asker]

I'm only 23 years old. Isn't hanging out what you do when you're young?

[slatyb]

Yes, if by young you mean 17. At 23 asking a woman to hang out makes you appear to be 17.

[Asker]

Is there actually a difference between asking a girl out vs asking her to hang out?

[slatyb]

Yes, planning a date requires some initiative -- you are inviting her to join you at a specific place and time. You may be flexible about both, but the invitation is specific. This shows that you value her enough to make a little effort. Asking her to hang out somewhere, sometime? No effort, indicates that you are either lazy or don't know how to adult.

[lessthansane]

Wait until she asks before you unzip and let it hang out