What do most girls mean when they say they are open-minded?

[nathanalbright]

It's common to hear people, especially girls, say that they are open-minded. What does that mean? Is it code for something?

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Open - Minded = Understanding

Like your not going to be judged, and she's going to relate to your experiences and such. Understand your behaviors / habits / persona as much as your willing to let her.

Lol code :P

The only thing it's code for - is that generally girls who say it are a tad more genuine at heart. People who aren't so open minded don't care to express that theme, because in their heads it isn't neccessary, and will conflict with their set in ways.

But not always.

Some people will claim to be open - minded then talk so much sh*t behind back - for really no reason.

I guess to give their life purpose or something...

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Oh and don't confuse open - minded with being adventurous (trying new things,) or sexually explorative / liberated.

I've only encountered the open minded term in relation to non - judgmental people. Like a close minded person would be homophobic because they don't understand homosexuality. And open minded person wouldn't care about sexuality or race or anything.

They're more for the person - not any of the smaller stuff.

[nathanalbright]

That's certainly a good point. Some people seem to use it to refer to more than simply the absence of being judgmental or being understanding. I'm a person of pretty strong beliefs, but at the same time I'm a very understanding and sympathetic person, so I'd consider myself open-minded even while being fairly opinionated. A lot of people say they are open-minded without being so, though, certainly.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

Yea - I didn't know it had sexual grounds, I mean, I'm sure in the right context it could be sexual - but that's a lot of words too ha ha :P I can use banana sexually or even puppy. But I won't use puppy because that'd be kinda creepy :P

Yea, being opinionated doesn't mean not open minded - usually open minded people have opinions, but their also flexible to the views of others. More close minded people aren't so much

[nathanalbright]

I definitely see that as a proper understanding there. It makes the language more ambiguous, though. Most of the time I see it seems to have sexual grounds, though the way I use it, it does not necessarily have it (though sometimes it would too). One has to ask more questions to give content to the phrase.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

True. If you asked me if I liked water play and I was like " :3 well...I'm very open minded..." then okay - the context completely changes. But lol, my teacher has called me open minded before, and I hope it was in the proper context lol :P

[nathanalbright]

I don't even know what waterplay is, so I wouldn't be able to do more than ask questions as to what that involved :B. I would agree that in the context of your teacher, I would expect it to mean that you were able to respect different views in an intellectual environment. At least I hope that is the context that comment referred to in that situation.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

yea it's nothing special (waterplay,) yea I hope so too ha ha

[nathanalbright]

You would probably know better than I xD. Asking your professor what he (or she) meant would be very awkward. In the absence of better evidence it's better to assume that the context was entirely above board.

[oOsweet~o~nessOo]

ha ha yea - pretty sure it was ^^

[nathanalbright]

Good :)

[sarahruth]

haha , A code? open minded might refer to anything really. Oh I know its confusing right? well for me when I say I am open minded it can refer to an activity such as diving or learning about soccer properly like the rules and stuff or going skinny dipping lol. its just that you wouldn't be afraid to do something different , a new experience so to speak.. hope this helps

[nathanalbright]

Yeah, that's the issue I have with it, that it's vague. Some people use it to talk about sexuality in particular, while others mean it for new ideas or experiences in general but maybe not sexulity at all. How would you say that you're open-minded?

[sarahruth]

me - OK see I am your problem hahah I use it vaguely.sorry I am no help. I would mainly use it to do with experiencing something new , something that I have never done before. I'm "open minded" to learning something new or experiencing it with someone".That experince could be sexual or it could be me learning how to cook meat. see my point? it depends on the context.

[nathanalbright]

No need to apologize. The vagueness was what I was trying to point out. It's a question that invites further scrutiny about exactly what someone is open-minded about. And that's a good thing as far as I'm concerned, even if the adjective itself isn't very helpful.

[lustful1]

it means there open about anything like they will give anything a try

[nathanalbright]

That's what I take it to mean. Would you say that's true of you?

[lustful1]

well for me I just say ill give everything a try at least once but somethings I'm not open minded but for the most part I am

[nathanalbright]

That makes sense, and that's a good thing :)

[Cptnjjim]

It means they have a hole in their skull that exposes their brain, or it could mean that theyre understanding and open to experimentation.

[nathanalbright]

I've never heard a girl say she was open-headed or open skulled, so I'm going with the second option.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's a well-known code word to let you know they do anal. lol

Most people don't know this unless they are a fan of anal sex

[nathanalbright]

Thanks for the jocular response there.

[Opinion Owner]

It's funny but it's not a joke. This is very common in NYC.

[Ceomoss]

omg! lmfao that ish was hilarious! but partially true

[nathanalbright]

I'm not from NYC, and I wouldn't assume that at first. I'd assume a more general openness and then ask questions on the boundaries of that openness.