Your women wants you to massage her feet - what's the meaning if any?

[Lonelyman]

We broke up 2 weeks before this request. She said she didn't want to comeback and said afterwoods she hated me.

[justanotherguy00001]

So to get the storyline right.

You guys break up -> She says she doesn't want to come back -> She says she hates you -> she says she wants you to massage her feet.

Did I miss something?

[Lonelyman]

This what happened. She brought the kids to see me and during the afternoon when we were talking about us. She suddenly put her legs across the coffee table and then ask me to massage her feet. I obliged. Then a bit later we had a mini quarrel and she then stormed off with the kids and said I hate you! I'm mistified too. Was shocked she asked me to massage her feet in the first place because I thought she didn't want me anymore or me to touch her!

[justanotherguy00001]

It... kinda sounds like she's using you in a demeaning way. Why exactly did you do what she asked?

[Lonelyman]

Because would like us to try and work things out so I was being kind and caring. I'm just confused about this!

[justanotherguy00001]

Hmm.. OK, being kind and caring when she saying I hate you isn't the best way to go around this.

But don't be rude and offensive either. Right now, until she figures out what her problem is, the best move to make is to be polite, but don't do anything for her specifically. If she keeps saying I hate you, don't engage in conversation with her either. Just say, "I'm not going to deal/talk to you if you can't be civil."

[Lonelyman]

She said the hate you an hour later when she stormed off. if she had said this first then I would not have done it. But is just bugging the hell out of me? Is she playing a game and deep down wants to comeback or is she just enjoying seeing me kinda grovel. I don't know!

[justanotherguy00001]

I don't think she's intentionally playing games. But deep down I think she really wants attention. Not in a healthy way though. Seeing a guy grovel over you= lots of attention.

2 weeks post breakup? I remember that time period. I wasn't making rational decisions at all at that point. My ex and I actually got together 2 weeks later... but it was like some twilight zone relationship. Felt all wrong. So we broke up and haven't spoken since.

So calm down. Don't get back with her soon, if ever.

[Lonelyman]

Why you say don't get back with her soon? Did you do it because she misses the massage and attention? There is one other thing she said she had dated 2 guys already but nothing happened yet! Again this shocked me some!

[Lonelyman]

You say "But deep down I think she really wants attention. Not in a healthy way though". Want do you mean not in a healthy way?

[justanotherguy00001]

Because you're not thinking rationally, I doubt she is either. 2 weeks post breakup is a crazy time.

If she's dating two other guys, she could be lying to provoke jealousy or is really dating two guys. One for attention and the other she's pretty much wanting to move on.

Take time to think things through. Time to think why exactly you want her back, why you should want her back.

[code56]

dude, when my girl doesn't wanna have sex.. I usually offer her a back massage or foot massage..it relaxes her..and makes her think twice about doin it...and it usually works...

[Lonelyman]

Surely your not suggesting that she in anyway had sex on her mind? I asked her earlier and she refused! My dilemma is why would you ask you ex partner of 2 weeks to give you a foot masage? Because she wanted to see me down at her feet and grovel! I don't get it

[code56]

idk man..girls think about sex more than guys sometimes...but maybe you shoulda asked her "why"

maybe she would of given you a responses...idk if it would of been reasonable..but it might of helped you out... hell text her right now and ask... be like...jus out of curiosity...what did you mean when you asked me for that foot massage...

[Log1414]

This doesn't really help you but laughter is the best medicine

https://m.YouTube.com/?rdm=4ozmbjtm8&reload=3#/watch?v=uWAPzkm3W10

[SkinnyG]

She sounds like a jerk. She's abusing you.

[Lonelyman]

Not sure what is happening. I used to massage her feet when we were together. Could be abuse or I not sure maybe she misses me or I dreaming. I don't know!

[SkinnyG]

Well, the "I hate you" comment isn't sitting too well with me right now. I just read justanotherguy00001's answer and it sounds good. I agree with him.

[Lonelyman]

Me neither. The hate comment was as a result of a discussion about me going out for a drink sometimes and a certain bar. She didn't like it that I went to this bar. If we broke up and she not want to us to getback together why ask me to massage her feet!