Would you date someone saving himself/herself till marriage ??

[Anonymous]

Guys would you date a girl saving herself till marriage

Girls would you date a guy saving himself till marriage

if yes state why, if no share the reasons that made you make the decision of leaving someone you care about about

[RLopez5891]

Lol ok. I'm saving myself till marriage because that's what I believe in and NO I'm not a weirdo. I'm a professional ballroom instructor, choreographed for So You Think You Can Dance and You Got Served and Step Up 2. Great shape. Christian. 23 years old.

Would I ever date a non virgin? Sure! I love taking a girl out and have fun! But to be in a relationship with them. No. Why should I give it away to someone who already gave it away to their high school sweetheart. It is tempting but it is well worth it for my future wife. I can guarantee I have no std and herpes. :) If you can't respect your own body, how can I expect you to respect our decisions as a family with our future kids?
I am picky. No smoking, if our kids needs a lung, it's our duties as their parents to provide that. Same with drinking. Drinking is fine but to a certain extent. I won't marry a drunk. Tattoos; well if they mean something to you, I can accept that. Other than that? Disrespecting your own body. Great example for your kids. I'm no saint but i do like to plan ahead. I do have my flaws like everyone else.

Sorry to get off topic but finding a virgin is so hard to find now a days. It's easier to have a trust with virgins because they don't sleep around. Go on a date with a virgin, I dare you. You'll be surprised. In a good way that is because we want to get to know you for your heart, not to get into your pants. The first date will be creative. I promise.

Here find me on Facebook! /RLopez5891

-RL

[shirkdeio]

That's my plan, since I am waiting too. Ideally, I'll get married in my early twenties and we will both have waited. Aside from the romantic side (it would be really sweet to have a wife and know we were each others one and only) it's also aligned with my beliefs, that sex outside of marriage is against God's design.

Not to judge anyone who believes otherwise, though; I know I can't hold everyone to my standard. And who knows? God may bring me someone who hasn't waited - but in that case I would still wait until the right time (which I believe is marriage).

[Yriuqni]

Just to clear some stuff up :

1) A virgin doesn't necessarily mean that she's mega religious. Maybe she is just decent.

2) Some virgins are naive yes, but some are not, so don't assume that virgins are naive right away.

3) Generally speaking, naive girls are just as non-virgins ones in terms of behavior.

Now back to the question .. I wouldn't marry a guy who had sex before, for the mere reason that my boyfriend is virgin so my standards are pretty high.. If I go for a non-virgin guy , this means my standards would go down.. and I wouldn't marry a guy worse than my boyfriend.

The reason I chose this is because nowadays, remaining virgin means a lot of things , such as decency, maturity, self control etc. I would think higher of the person with all these attributes, that's why I plan to wait till marriage myself :)

[likesexontoast]

i wouldif I really like him, but I wouldn't wait that long to have sex with him. if we did go out and things felt right I would eventually try and talk to him about it to change his mind and get him to see things a bit more clearly from my point of view because personally, I don't agree with waiting and making your partner wait til marraige. (and no, that does mean I think we should all just sleep around 24/7 or anything..)

from my experience guys who wait that long tend to be conservative type people, and that is far from my outlook on things. I'm very open-minded, mature and liberal about these sort of things ,so if he was old-fashioned and conservative about other issues aswell than we just wouldn't be right for each other anyway.

[Tarrynn]

Yes I would date a guy who is saving himself till marriage because it means that he respects his future partner as well as respects women and their right, he would also respect the fact that the girl is not ready for sex as well as he also knows he is not ready for sex or the responsibilities that come with it.

As for all you shallow people who think the sex is bad so what at least you have found your life partner, no matter how the sex is, plus I wouldn't want to date or marry some one who has had numerous sex partners.

Yes I am talking from experience because I have been with my Boyfriend for 3 year tomorrow and yeah we only planning to have sex when we are married and its best for the both of us

[HotPepper302]

That's a tough question. If I like someone enough, I won't pass up the opportunity to be with them... Everyone deserves a chance. But ideally, I'd like to be with someone who believes in sex before marriage. I don't go into relationships expecting them to end, and I don't want to marry someone, not realizing that I've just committed myself to a lifetime of bad sex... Haha

[Asker]

why assume saving yourself to marriage equals bad sex :pppp

[HotPepper302]

I'm not assuming that haha, I'm just saying that if I marry a virgin, he MIGHT turn out to be bad in bed, but I wouldn't know it, 'cause we've never had sex until after we were married... And then I'd be stuck having bad sex forever. Haha. It's possible.

[louiseee]

I love how none of the boys are considering it, and the girls are 75/25.

Shows shallow and horny men are. No hope..

Anyways, I would definitely date a man saving himself for marriage. It shows self control, and that is so incredibly sexy to me. My boyfriend's best friend is a virgin and he is saving himself and I have told him and my boyfriend and if my beau and I ever break up, I'm definitely marrying the friend. ha

[pure_angel07]

Yes I am looking for a guy saving hisself for marriage. As a 17 year old in college, I have been peer pressured and asked a lot about having sex and my answer is "no". I adore guys who have self control and is strong enough to save theirselves for marriage. I don't believe the things my friends say who aren't virgins anymore if "what if he's not good in bed?" because I myself doesn't know if I am good because I never had it and if he never had it too, we can teach ourselves to pleasure each other and grow and learn together when we're married. This will create and build up a strong relationship not just because we save ourselves for each other, it is because we have each other for the first time in sex which is special and unforgettable. :) that's all and God bless you all. Xoxo

[laurenmac]

Yes. I would prefer to date someone who is saving it for marriage.

Also, I don't think people fully understand the term "religious" in the way that they use it. Maybe a century ago, when people did everything their church told them to do, they wouldn't have sex before marriage because they were being "religious", but nowadays where people are much more individualized and have more freedom to think for themselves, they might just not be having sex before marriage because that is what they personally believe in.

I would choose to remain a virgin until marriage whether or not I was "religious". Which, I do, in fact, happen to love Jesus - but let's remember that Jesus was not religious - the Pharisees (the religious people of his day) had some pretty huge problems with him.

The point is, Like Yriuqni (above) said, some people are just decent.

[M41210]

This comment is for the girls that think sex will be bad after marriage:

If you two were to start off with bad sex at first well you can work on it until you find what you guys enjoy and love the most out of sex. First time won't always be the best. :P

[xzinax2]

depends. I'm saving myself for a CIVIL UNION or a deep relationship too so of course I have nothing against it,EXCEPT if they're doing it for religious reasons,i can handle religious friends,and I can say that I could date religious folks-but really,the fighting over every aspect of life would ruin said life.

[cazza3]

No definitely not I'm not even sure if I could be friends within simply because we would obviously have completely different views on sex and probably life and that's not going to work. There's probably religious connotations that I wouldn't want to get involved with. And honestly also because I like sex, I need sex and I respect his decision and move on.

[crazyincalifornia]

Absolutely not. I never met a guy like that I don't think. Maybe some of the Islamic weirdoes or something are like that, IDK. Very religious people frighten me. They all seem to have a hidden agenda or something.

[CindiluvsFriends]

Yes. It would be nice to be with someone who wants to be with ME and not just for my body. But on the other hand,if I'm horny,that could be a problem:p

[Vertvert]

No. I can respect that it's her choice, but men have needs and I'm not sacrificing them over a religious or trumped up desire for sex to be "special". It's human nature and I find it offensive that some people *cough* Yriuqni *cough* think they're higher than the rest of us just because they think being a virgin represents values unattainable through having an active sex life. I'm probably too liberal minded to end up with a girl like that anyway.

[justanotherguy00001]

If I knew this beforehand?

I wouldn't, They tend to be naive as the concept of sex before marriage makes sense on many more levels then not.

There's a substantial chance they're devoted religious too.

[kereru]

probably not,

the virgin part wouldn't bother me but chances they re doing it because they re extremely religious...and I don't want to date a dogmatic nutcase.

[gonyr]

I respect their choice to wait but I personally wouldn't. I'm a young guy and I don't need to save myself for someone who may or may not work out.

[PoeticNinja]

No.. I wouldn't.. I don't like the idea of marriage. Anything can happen between now and till he wants to get married.

What if the sex is bad. =/

[DrPain]

Lol I've always thought about that. Date someone for 4 years and don't have sex that whole time and then get married and the sex is awful. What then lol?

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

Yes, I would, because it's likely that she has high value of herself, and for being married.

[SkinnyG]

Probably not. In this day and age, it's a little strange so I'd think he had some other hang ups.

[AlwaysBelieving]

No I wouldn't. I'd like to see if there's sexual compatibility / chemistry. That being said, I'm a virgin and haven't come across that gal yet.

[Moloch]

No because I'm not in my early thirties looking to get married.

[Caustic_Fox]

No I wouldn't because theyre probably a religious nut

[SilkSatin]

Yes. Can you imagine the wedding night. Heat

[poppunk]

Yes that's preferable as I'm saving myself

[kangy]

no i wouldn't but i respect his decision

[99PROBLEMS]

absolutely!