Are short men in a disadvantage when it comes to dating?

[Anonymous]

Do you agree or disagree with that statement and why? Thanks!

[louiseee]

I hear this question so often. And I will answer it in the same way I always have. I am 5'11. I have been bedbuddies with two guys who are shorter, (5'7 and 5'9) and I have gone on a few dates with shorter guys and I also dated a boy the same height. For the boy that was 5'7 I really wanted a relationship with him, but he did not want one with me, and for the one that was 5'9, he got creepy and was claiming he was going to marry me after two weeks. Yikes. To the boys I dated that were shorter, the reason we are not together anymore is simply because I didn't click with them. It was their personalities, not their height.

To me, and to many other women, height does not matter. It does not have a role in if you like some one. You are in high school though, and a lot of girls in high school are shallow because they are worried about what others think. Though they may not be willing to admit it, it's true.

My current boyfriend is 6'1. I am taller than him in heels. He says, "As long as you feel beautiful, I don't care how much taller your heels make you" He takes me out and shows me off to everyone when I am in my heels. Granted he is 23 and I am 19, so we are done with caring what people think about that kind of thing.

For now, it sucks (otherwards you wouldn't be asking this), yes, but HEIGHT DOES NOT MATTER. And if any girl says it does, she is shallow and she is looking for the wrong things in a relationship. Granted, I would PREFER a guy the same height and me or taller, but that doesn't mean that I am not attracted to shorter men and I would not date shorter men.

You are a boy, you will be getting taller all the time and into your 20s, so don't worry too much about it. I know it's hard for you sometimes, I know if may make you feel insecure, but it is okay. <3 Hope this helps.

[UsakiDaiten]

I disagree. There is not something like being at advantage or at disadvantage when it comes to dating.That is not that simple, you see? You can't just ask someone if they like a physical characteristic about people and stick with that answer as if it were almost dogmatic... It all comes down to the way people act.

For example... I, personally, don't fancy red-haired guys. I don't see what's so great about red-slightly-orange hair and light eyes... I don't dislike it, I just don't really like it that much...

But if I happen to start to like a guy with an awesome personality, that so happens to be have hair the color of reddish-pumpkins, I guess I'd start liking red-haired guys... Specially that one ;) . ((This happened to me in real life. I don't really care about red-hair, but I once had a boyfriend with it, and at the time I thought he was pretty cute with his...))

It's the same with having dark hair, having freckles, being tall, being muscular, being slim or being short, etc. Of course, people have preferences and all that, but when they find the person they like, it all stops making sense and that one person will then dictate what the one crushing on them likes.

Don't stress about being short - some people like short guys, some people don't care, some like tall guys... But, in the end, it won't matter because the all the girls who'll care for you will love your height!

[Anonymous]

i don't think so.

personally, I like taller guys because I'm just 5'1ft and I'm the shortest person on my family, so, I wouldn't mind if he was short but not shorter than me. and, it doesn't matter how short you are, there will be always someone shorter than you :P

[kheserthorpe]

Yes ... but.

Sure. Its a disadvantage.

So is being poor.

So is being uneducated.

So is being the wrong age.

So is not having great muscles.

So is not singing well.

So is not having a deep voice.

So is not having a masculine jaw.

So is not having tremendous facial symmetry.

So is balding.

So is having bad hair.

So is not naturally speaking with rich descriptions.

So is not reading body language well.

So is having a small penis

So is having a monstrous penis.

So is not lasting long in bed.

So is lasting too long in bed.

So is not sharing interests with women.

So is not being as masculine as she'd like.

So is being as masculine as she liked a week ago, at a different spot on her ovulation cycle from now, when she'd prefer something different.

etc.

We all have some advantages and disadvantages. Plenty of short men date and marry hot women. Plenty of tall guys sit at home alone. Being tall is a plus. Its a deal breaker for some women, preferred by most, and actually disliked by some. But its not the only criteria that matters any more then face, muscles, d***, wallet, car, voice, popularity, hair, etc. are.

[kholland65]

Any girl who says its not a disadvantage is lying. I'm not saying that its the only factor or that they would never date a short guy. But all things aside, assuming 2 guys are almost exactly the same in looks and personality, of course the girl will prefer the taller guy. It's also pretty much a given that women "prefer" a guy to at least be taller than them. Obviously if you are 5'4", 80% of women are going to be taller than you which means (using you're word) you are at a disadvantage. It's not impossible just harder to get a girl who is taller than you.

[shotou]

Being short is not a disadvantage.

I believe that personality is what

matters the most in this =)

but maybe my view on this

comes from the fact

that I am short myself? =)

[sixstring]

There are more factors like the type of girl he likes to date and region, but in general, I would say yes.

[Anonymous]

Honestly...depends on how short we are talking about. Yes, in general I do think shorter men are at a disadvantage, but do I think a girl wouldn't ever date them no.

[PoeticNinja]

I disagree, I don't see how they would have a disadvantage.

[Anonymous]

It shouldn't, everyone knows women aren't like men & they mosly go for ones personality & not looks.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

meh, on a good day I'm sure you'll seem 4 inches taller.

[queefy]

Um...where are you short?

[Anonymous]

nope, I love short men

[Asker]

why? LOL seems like the odd answer ;)