My girlfriend criticizes me a lot, she won't stop and I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend criticizes me a lot because I study Engineering and Mathematics. She starts complaining that I am too much of a "nerd" and that I am working on nerdy things all of the time -well, studying those things is actually very time consuming, so there is no choice.- and that she does not like a "nerd"

She also complains about me being overweight all of the time, she pretends to give me exercise advice (which she really could not do, and actually is pretty ridiculous advice. I've taken enough classes about it and read enough to know.) And I am not really overweight, just a bit, and I do a lot of weigh lifting, so I am actually very muscular. Just need to loose some 15 pounds of fat and will be fine.

She keeps complaining about so many things. She even complained that I am too white for her, that she wants someone darker, etc.

She always finds things to complain about me, I don't know what to do about it. Its driving me crazy. It seems there is no way of pleasing this woman, what should I do?

[NerdInDenial]

Engineering is not nerdy, well, it kind of is, and it's really hard. The good news is she's not a gold digger because good engineers make a decent amount of money. Anyway, it appears that she has a lot of insecurities, or she thinks she is too good for you. Thus, I would advise you to tell her to stop, and they don't make you feel good. If she is not willing to listen, it maybe time to let her go. I don't think you can please her because once you lose the weight, she may find other "flaws."

[Anonymous]

As a fellow engineer, I must show solidarity with you. Don't let anyone dictate your chosen field of study. Ditch her :)

You might want to try an Asian girl. Check out this question: link

[Asker]

Thank you. The girl I'm talking about is actually asian.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow... that's just wow. Is she second generation or something?

I can't believe one born and raised in Asia for at least 18 years would really think that way. I can't believe that at all.

[Asker]

She was born and raised in China and came to the States for College. I understand why it surprises you. Chinese youth has departed quite a lot from the traditional mindset.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm totally stunned. I don't know what to say.

[rudy37lee]

I don't understand why you're with someone who treats you like that. Most guys date the girl they feel good around, she's fun, caring, easy to be with and likes you for who you are. Then she gives you crap for school? You're improving your life, she should be supporting you. You deserve better.

[peace-love-couture]

Dump that bishh

she's an undeserving, ungrateful biotch

I have mad respect for those who excel in math and science LOL cause I suck

Nerds are cool and she shouldn't be with you if she doesn't like "nerds." Is she stupid?

[curiouschica]

Hmmm that doesn't sound very fun...does she compromise at all? And have you talked to her about all these things?

[Asker]

She doesn't like to compromise. Normally she want things her way. It takes a lot of effort and a lot of tolerance if I want things differently than her. Most of the time I just go by what she says just to avoid the conflict.

i tell her about all of this, but she just keeps behaving the same way.

[curiouschica]

That's a tricky situation! You have to see if the good outweighs the bad (am assuming there are good moments?) Is it worth it?

[Asker]

There are certainly good moments, and there is a lot of chemistry between us. And most of the time we have a very tender care for each other. But then she will start nagging, blaming, criticizing... So, there is good but it does not last very long before she starts being bad again.

[Asker]

I wish she could be nice all of the time, like she is in her good moments. But her bad moments are horrible. I've been made to feel really bad and humiliated by her verval rants.

[curiouschica]

Maybe you guys could have a code word for when she turns on you so she can back off...Or maybe you can give her a little space when you see she's upset...

[UnderTheOver]

DUMP THAT B*TCH!

Engineers designed her hair dryer, the shower, phones, engineers design everything. Tell her to make you a damn sandwich, and to tend the kitchen, which an engineer no doubt designed.

[Anonymous]

dump her then, it doesn't look like its working out.

[slipslender]

how did you guys even become a couple?

[Asker]

Believe me that not even I have a clear idea. I think at the beginning she played one of my weaknesses by making herself look like she really needed help because she was in such a sorry situation she as very depressed when she started college. So, I helped her a lot and with time we started dating.

[7gnat]

Dump her of course