I've been seeing this girl for a little over 6 months now and I feel like she wants to change me? In the beginning of our talking/relationship things were amazing and she liked so many things about me but as time when on she began being more critical of me and started labeling me things that I don't think reflect who I am. I understand that a person's feelings towards things may change and I'm sure there's a little of that at play but I think what's really big is her thinking of what her parents will think of me.
So she wants to try and change me into a man that her parents will find acceptable. I don't go to college but now she's telling me that I can't relate to her because I don't go to school. So I was planning on going to school kinda just to make her happy. She said that she wants to change my wardrobe completely that we need to go to the mall to change how I dress. She told me that I'm not an active person and that I'm an introvert and that hurt because I am very much an active person and introverted.. but since I recently had a religious awakening.. I've been spending more time inside but it isn't all by choice. Once things in my life were to change a little, I would be more active and social again.
I feel like she keeps on finding things that she dislikes about me and is trying to make me change but it hurts because I can't ask her to change in anyway (even though I don't think that there's anything that I want to change about her). I'm 23 and she is 21. She is graduating from college next year. She wants to introduce me to her parents but she wants me to be a certain kind of man that is acceptable to them and I wonder if that's who I am. There is a little bit of race relations at play here because her family is Mexican and Asian and to them I'm a "black kid" so I have to present myself properly to them. We started off as just friends but have been doing long distance and I am set to move to live closer to her in 5 weeks. Tell me what you think :)
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