I had this experience today actually. There's this guy I'm interested in, we look at each other a lot and I'm super super shy. I finally worked up the courage to smile at him (believe me, that took A LOT of courage for me) and he didn't smile back, just continued to stare at me.
How do you think that made me feel? Rejected, unwanted, unattractive, like I'd made a mistake and done the wrong thing and like he didn't want me to smile. Is some of that my own insecurities? Probably. But I don't think smiling is feminine. It's all in HOW one smiles. I think a soft grin on a man is extremely sexy and believe me, feminine is the last thing I'm thinking about. My heart melts and stomach flips when guys smile like that.
I would have loved for this guy to smile back today. Because now, I'm scared to ever smile at him again and honestly, I probably won't because he didn't give me any indication at all that he liked that I smiled at him. It was actually kind of a blow to my already low ego and it makes me want to continue staring at the ground whenever I see guys pass me.
So please, in an effort to save other girls from feeling the way I do, just throw them a little smile. I guarantee their pulse will quicken and they will like it and feel very good about themselves. Also put yourself in her shoes. Do you like to be smiled at? Would it hurt your feelings if you offered a smile to a girl and she just gave you a blank, emotionless expression in return?
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I never thought of smiling as feminine. I like when guys smile at me. And yes I would feel bad if a guy just gave me a blank stare like that. I am sure if you smile at a girl she won't doubt your manliness. It's just a nice thing to do, there's really not much more to it.
I personally don't think that smiling is feminine.. everybody can smile. But yeah I wouldn't think anything good when someone doesn't smile back.
Smiling isn't masculine or feminine. Gender identity doesn't factor into it at all.
Smiling is a behavioral gesture that we, as humans, have evolved as part of our social structure. A smile indicates that you're non-threatening, friendly, reassuring and/or harmless. Not because you have to be, or because you're forced to be, but because you choose to be. It's used situationally, not exclusively.
You smile at children and women to show that you mean them no harm. They don't want to be harmed, so they're attracted to that. Smiling at random dudes? Yeah, probably not a good idea, evolutionarily speaking. But smiling at women and children? They're not going to jump you, bash your skull in and steal your women, so smiling at them is perfectly fine.
bro, u've got a wrong understanding of what is a MAN. If you're too into being a hardcore heroic brave strong man then u've watched way too many movies and developed ur own idea of being a man, that's ur fault and ur own opinion. Just dont drag us other men into this.
almost none of us think smiling is feminine. so don't say its a FACT. thanks in advance.
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Um, smiling is not feminine. Smiling is the body's natural reaction to joy. just as laughing is the natural reaction to hearing something funny. I think people who don't smile look rude and bored. Anyway, yes, it is bad if you don't smile back. If you don't smile at a girl who smiles at you, she will think something is wrong with her or something. If you do smile, she will think you are a normal, friendly human being who acknowledges her existence.
my crush does that to me when we make eye contact- I'll smile at him and he will look at me with a blank expression.. it kinda makes me self conscious. I would like it if he smiled back at me. I like it when guys smile at me when I smile at them.. it makes them seem more friendly and approachable
Wth is wrong with you? I love guys that smile. Its so charming. If I smile to a guy and he doesn't smile back, I will feel like an idiot.
Smiling is not feminine but giving the blank stare could make you look creepy or make her feel self conscious. Try a smirk or a head nod. Good luck!
"Real men don't smile"
I smiled when I read that. More ladies for me.Lmao I don't smile back because I'm shy like I'll give a straight face but in my mind I'm like "Omfg you're cute as fuck, marry me." Yeaaaah and they get the wrong idea, I should probably change that habit :P
when was smiling feminine lol. I thought smiling just meant you were happy or friendly
Jesus what is this National Troll Day?
Watch out y'all! The Trolls be comin in HOT!!!I don't smile much at all.
So I understand where you are coming from though I wouldn't say smiling is feminine.Yes at least for me this happened many times lol, I would smile at random men for no reason but none smiled back lol, it made me feel like I’m not attractive...
Real men are unashamed to smile.
Men smile. Smiling is not feminine.
i don't even notice if a girl smiles at me
Well at least wink or nod!
Yeah it does and it makes you look aloof.
That is mean.
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