I feel like I'm annoying him but he says I'm not.

[Anonymous]

okay so there's this guy I'll say his name because it doesn't really matter. Okay so Tyler I like him a lot I've hung out with him once and we really hit it off he is so easy to talk to and I feel like I can be myself around him. here's the deal, he's not really good at expressing his feelings (I know it's kind of a stupid thing to say) but I text him EVERYDAY, and sometimes I feel like I'm annoying him but he says I'm not. so here's my if I stop texting him for a couple of days do you think he will start to worry. This is just an idea to see if he actually cares about me?

[Tinyplaces]

If he says you're not annoying him then Id say take his word for it. However if you personally feel like you're doing something wrong deep down in your gut then take it down a notch and just brush it off. If you ask him again in the future if you're annoying him, He may see it as insecurity. The same goes for if you happen to tell him that your gonna stop texting him or reduce communication b.c of said reason etc, not saying you would tell him but just in case you thought about it. IMO you don't need to validate yourself to him for w.e actions you take.

As far as the part where you say you text him everyday.. I would be careful about that b.c you don't want things to get boring. I say this b.c I've had a similar experience where a girl and I got along and she would text me a lot. eventually it became boring and routine to me and I stopped talking to her. This is just my experience on the situation. I don't know how Tyler may react, he and I may be two different people.

SORRY FOR THE WALL OF TEXT!

[Asker]

all goods really helpful

[Lommelun]

Stop the stupid mind games. That will certainly annoy him if you start "testing" him to see if he has the "right" reactions according to what you believe he should do.

What about talking to him instead? Like normal people?

[Asker]

well I have no idea what to say..

[Lommelun]

Tough one, I can see that. Probably you'll just have to use common sense to assess when you are crossing the line for compulsiveness. But now in the beginning I doubt that is much of a problem.

[Anonymous]

Lmao, it's so weird because I am talking to a guy named Tyler and I feel the same way. So ironic.