Husband using Snapchat to talk with other women?

[Anonymous]

I went to set my husband's alarm yesterday (he was sleeping with a fever) and I noticed he downloaded snapchat. Admittedly I was snooping, but I was curious since normally he doesn't like texting people and snapchat is very commonly used for sexting. I saw he had recently been sending images to 2 girls, one who we work with, and one from another department but who was doing our initial training at the same time.

He constantly tells me he loves me, however I have told him before that I get jealous for all the time at work he spends with girl A, and girl B is known for being the classic "sleep with anything that moves" type. On top of that I know girl B was trying to get in with my husband back when we were just dating, and last month my hubby went drinking with his guy friend. Normally that's okay, but apparently they were trying to get girl B to come over saying that his friend wanted to do the dirty with her.

I know I have self esteem issues when it comes to my body, but I feel hurt and concerned at the mere prospect that he could be sending pictures to someone else...

Men, I'm wondering how I would go about asking him about snapchat and what he was sending, as well as if there is anything he isn't telling me? I don't want to come across like I want to control his life, I just would like some info.

Thanks in advance

[TheoryOfAvarice]

Yet another form of technology bullies its way into relationships causing drama, confusion and distrust.

Confront him. Tell him the truth about how you found out he's been using Snapchat, that it began with you setting his alarm and that you were not deliberately trying to snoop until you noticed he had downloaded the application.

You've told him before that you get jealous, but have you told him that it's because his actions with other women make you feel insecure and hurt? Express to him what this all means to you, and be honest.

Go ahead and ask him why he was using Snapchat. Don't beat around the bush, if this is bothering you so much then you need to get answers out of him. Don't start stressing yourself and over thinking everything before you hear his side of the story.

[trampampam]

He is your husband, you have a right to know who is he texting and why. Just tell him what you just wrote here, you went to put his alarm clock on and saw he has a snapchat, ask him why he has it, don't rush into any conclusions, it might be just a light flirting with work people (still You don't have to tolerate that).

I say, go and ask him, straight forward, you are married, it means you are a family and can ask whatever you want whenever you want and he has to give you the answers :) Otherwise there will be no trust and without trust the relationship is going worse and worse.

[Anonymous]

Were these two girls the only people he was talking to on snapchat? If he is using it to talk to guys as well, then I wouldn't worry. If it is just these two girls then he may not be cheating, but he likely is flirting with them.