I just caught my next door neighbor totally checking me out me from his window. Should I be flattered or freak out?

[Anonymous]

I have a next door neighbor and our houses are really close together. My bedroom window is only about 20 feet from his. I totally caught him peeking at me from his window. He is older, but totally cool and friends with my parents and is actually kind of cute. So should I be totally freaked out about this and tell my mother or just be flattered that he was checking me out?

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OK, so here's a follow on question. I can totally see right into his room too if he has his lights on at night. So if I peeked in on him when he was undressing wouldn't that make us even?

[RichardBoehner]

be whatever you want. if he's cute, the next time you see him checking you out, look him dead in the eyes and flash him or start playing with yourself for his enjoyment. you can also surprise him by knocking on his window when his parents aren't home, i guarantee every teenage boy with a hot neighbor has fantasized about that. Or you know, if he's ugly just don't undress near an open window. Telling your parents is just more trouble than its worth either way.

[Anonymous]

Why should you be freaked out? Guys check girls out. Earth goes round sun. Trees grow. Water is wet. Pope's catholic. Guys are gonna look at you. A lot. It's normal, just take it as a compliment and be done. When you hit your 30s and 40s guys will stop looking and then you'll miss it, so enjoy it while it lasts.

[charlesbarkley]

I'd be a bit creeped out, maybe it was just terrible timing and the guy happened to want to look out his window, and ended up making eye contact with you, but still... its weird. You should probably tell your parents, regardless if he's hot, and get like dark shades so he can't see in.

[Asker]

I don't want to get him in trouble for nothing.

[charlesbarkley]

Yeah but you also don't wanna get so called "creeped on" by this guy either. it goes both ways. If you don't wanna get him in trouble for nothing, then why are you even asking this question? You know the answer. Just get shades, and don't change infront of that window.

[Anonymous]

if he's hot and cute, that's just hot ;)
If he's older, sooo sexy! believe me, been with my neighbour who's 15 years older and it's so hot!

[Asker]

Yea like I said. He is pretty hot. LOL

[Opinion Owner]

Be flattered ;)

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for most helpful :D

[CommieDearest]

You should be freaked out. Peeping toms are not out to compliment you. It's a violation of privacy, triple that since you are a minor.

[Asker]

well it was kind of my fault for leaving my curtains open I guess.

[CommieDearest]

No it is the fault of whomever is gawking at underage girls through their window. That being said, you should be more mindful of your curtains in the future.

[Voldemort]

It depends. If he was like hard core stalking with a pair of binoculars then it's really creepy but if he just saw something that caught his attention and couldn't look away then it's fine. We've all been caught staring before lol.

[Asker]

Yea pretty sure that's all it was, but I can't be certain.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Oh if the guy isn't being creepy let him be or
close your curtains if you feel suspicious about him
this is reason innocent men end up behind bars

[Robertinho]

I dont really think there's anything relatively wrong with it. But if its a repeating type of thing, than yeah its something to perhaps be concern about.

[ginger_13]

If he looked like a creep then you should tell your mum but if you didn't feel like he was creeping then Be flattered girl! I know I would!

[00100100100]

in other words if he's hot, be flattered. if he's not, it's creepy.

[ginger_13]

I guess I mean that is how I would take it but everybody is different

[Asker]

No I don't think he was being creepy really. First time I noticed.

[Anonymous]

When Peggy and Al were together, they had a peeper looking at some of the other women in the neighborhood, Peggy got upset that he wasn't peeping her... he finally did eventually, but I thought it was cute when Al pretended like he was the peeper, just to make her feel good about herself.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on how old you are and how old he is. It says you're under 18, so I'd be worried just how big of an age difference it is. Just be glad he's not an ugly guy though. That would be beyond creepy and wrong.

[Asker]

To be honest I don't see what the big deal is about the age. I feel flattered that a grown man would find me attractive enough to watch.

[Opinion Owner]

Because if you're 15 and he's in his late 30's it's wrong.

[RandomStudent]

Wait so if it was an ugly guy it would be "beyond creepy and wrong", but since it's a hot guy it's fine? WTF

[Asker]

somehow to me it makes it seem not as bad

[Opinion Owner]

I'd say the same thing if it were an older ugly woman checking out a younger guy. It would be just as creepy.

[Ghosty]

Flattered :) If you'd be ugly he wouldn't do that. You can freak out if you see him do this every day, and waiting for you to show up.

[Anonymous]

If you were unclothed then you should tell your parents, if not then I suppose it's fine as long as he doesn't seem like a creep.

[BlackLeon]

If you don't want him watch you so why the curtains for?

[Asker]

who said I wanted him to watch?

[Anonymous]

it sounds harmless. next time put on a show for him.

[Asker]

what kind of show? LOL

[Opinion Owner]

a little strip tease. point at him, smile and then wink. he'll probably bust a nut.

[Asker]

HA! I like it!

[anush92]

If he's your dad's age, please be freaked out!

[Asker]

so if he was younger it would be OK?

[anush92]

It depends, let's say you're 18 and the other person is around the same age and you saw him checking you out. How would you react to it? I personally think what this guy is doing is prying, this is not called checking you out.

[anush92]

and I forgot to mention its not right to look into a girl's room. It can get a person on the list of sexual offenders. Please close your curtains

[CuriousEddie]

I'm sorry -- do you want me to stop looking?

[Anonymous]

Close your window when you're getting dressed :-)

[Asker]

I usually do, but sometimes I don't even think about it to be honest.

[OldDinosaur]

Put up a curtain...

[Asker]

I have one, just didn't use it for some reason

[OldDinosaur]

"for some reason"... hmm :)

[Asker]

yea, just forgot about it

[Anonymous]

I don't see any problem with what happened

[Asker]

Really? What if it happens again?

[Opinion Owner]

He's just looking. It's not that big of a deal. If he does it all the time then you could just tape a sign on your window saying. Stop looking in and he will get the message

[Asker]

thats actually a good idea LOL

[SteelMagnum]

Haha total creepers