Do guys care if you have cleft lip?

[Anonymous]

I have cleft lip and I've never had a boyfriend or my first kiss do guys don't like me because I have cleft lip?

[Anonymous]

I was born with a cleft palate and lip. I have a scar on my upper lip n bcz of my cleft palate my nose too is not symmetrical. If a guy likes you he won't care about ur cleft lip. I had my first boyfriend when I was 18 and he never cared about it he was just curious about how I got my scar. Now I'm with my second boyfriend and n in the beginning he too was just curious about how I got my scar. We've been together for over a year n I've never been happier. He is really sweet n he always tells me that I'm beautiful n i think what matters the most is believing yourself that u are beautiful.

Growing up I was always shy and paranoid about how I looked and I only had a few close friendships thinking that it was bcz of my cleft lip. But I know that it wasn't my cleft that affected my relationships... It was my shyness! Being in uni I've managed to gain more confidence n really don't care about how pple think I look and I've never felt happier. im not friends with everyone in my class bt I always try to be polite and say hello, morning n make small conversations. N whenever they see me they too are friendly. Basically what I'm trying to say is that.. once I finally gained more confidence I realised that my shyness was what was really holding me back. N once u stop worrying about what others think... you too will find happiness :)

Hope I helped.

[Miss_Desirae]

To the other two who answered, this is what a cleft lip looks like: link

To the question asker:

If a guy truly loves you, he won't care about it, I don't think. A guy who is worth it would see past your cleft lip and love you for who you are. If you are extremely self-conscious about it and it truly is damaging your self-confidence, there are ways to get corrective surgery for it. If it bothers you so much, then you might want to consider looking into it. According to a lot of guys, they want a girl who has confidence and a girl who is proud of who she is. But really, don't sweat not ever having a boyfriend. I haven't had one yet, either. You'll find a good guy in time.

[Asker]

Mine isn't like tht its closed and all you see is like a line thts just how it was wen I was a baby I had surgery but thanks 4 the advice it helps a lot :)

[Miss_Desirae]

Yeah, it was just an example for the other two to give them an idea of what it was. But I don't think you have anything to worry about. :) And you're very welcome, I'm glad I could help.

[Smilie-xo]

You said you've never had a boyfriend or anything so I am assuming that no guys know you have a cleft lip, which means that would not be the reason for not having a boyfriend.

And if you find the right guy he won't care about it.

Just be happy with who you are and somebody will come along who is just as happy to have found you. =]

[Smilie-xo]

And I didn't know what I was saying just now so sorry for being dumb =P

[Asker]

Its ok thanks tht made me feel better :)

[QuintenOfficial]

The fact you have a cleft lip doesn't matter. 

Maybe guys don't like the way you look in general?

I don't mean to offend you but I don't know what you look like…

I'm a 16 year old guy. I also have a "cleftlip" it was pretty bad, but I 2years ago I got the first really correction. Now you only see a scar (if you come really close) and I have a nasal voice… 

But I've had 2 serious relationships though…

The last one ended a few months ago after more than 6 months. 

That has nothing too do with my scar, but I'm a bit mellow, and softer than other guys and I've got NO selfesteem…

I know it's not fun to have a cleft lip, I hate it whe little children are like open mouth when they notice my scar because they're a lot shorter you see…

But if I' was able to get 2 beautiful sweet and smort girls as my girlfriends I'm sure you can do it too!

So I'm just saying: maybe yoy should have a bit more selfesteem? But I wouldn't care myself…

Hope this helped!

And if you would ever need a talk,

You can add me on Facebook?

Loves

Quinten Verniers

[Dela1111]

I don't know, it depends on how it looks. But if it were really bad, I probably wouldn't date her because of the lack of attraction.

[Canterbury_Bellz]

I have a cleft lip and am very self conscious about it. I also have never had a boyfriend. I think that guys say it doesn't matter, and maybe it doesn't once they get to know you! But when they first see the scar it prevents them from wanting to approach us when there are prettier girls. It is not their fault though! It's a natural reaction. We would talk to the cute guys first too.

[FellowManDan]

I'm on the opposite side of this argument... After years of girlfriends leaving/cheating with non-cleft guys, I'm beginning to search for a female who has cleft pallet as well... Maybe having that in common will be a good thing... :)

[xoktbugxo]

I know that this was posted over a year ago, but when I read it I felt like I had to say something. I too have a cleft lip(and palate) and I too have never had a boyfriend so I totally know what you're going through...And I just wanted to let you know it DOES get better! I bet someday you'll find the perfect guy who loves every single thing about you.

[furlee33]

i want to see your photo. i saw cleft lip girl . but she is cute. this is no problem

[Anonymous]

whats a cleft lip

[Babii-x-Jowdii]

whats cleft lip?

[Jon090]

Someone else who doesn't know what that means. I'm not the only one yay