Why does he text me and not carry the conversation? What does this mean?

[haisaikitty]

My friends with benefits and I talk almost every day. He texts me during the day and not only at night to ask me what's up and how things are going. We text and talk about random stuff sometimes but what I don't get is that he texts me and when I reply, he'll just answer to my what I say and that's about it. I don't get it. If he wants to talk to me why doesn't he continue the conversation? I feel like I'm an uninteresting person or something lol. Why text in the first place? I think he's a pretty cool guy but I don't understand lol. I'll tell you what our texts are like... Let's call him "Matt." Matt: What you up to today? Me: I'm just sitting in the sauna! Didn't do anything all day hahaha what about you? Matt: Nice, I had the class and went home -.-. Me: Oh did you just finish? Matt: Couple of hours ago... I don't know how to respond to his blunt texts. Is he bored of the conversation? Why does he always do this? Is he not the texting type? It just confuses me because he's the one who initiates the conversations. How do I make things interesting? What are signs of him being interested or not? Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Omg I have the same issue as you have right now, except the part where the guy is a friend with benefits. So, this guy texts me everyday, but it's always me who ask him this and that.
It seems to me that he's interested in me, otherwise he wouldn't text me first every single day. But the way he texts me just making me feel like he's not interested.
I'm a quiet and shy person. I struggle to keep a conversation going. I tried several times to stretch our conversation (which was hard to me), but he only responded with something like, 'hahaha' or a smiley.
We'be been texting for a month now, but he doesn't open up even a little and he never asked me anything personal. So as bad as wanted to ask him something more personal, I didn't.

My opinion to your issue would be that he might give you a hint that he's actually interested in you? He wouldn't bother to text you everyday if he wasn't. If you are intersted in him too (more than friend with benefits), shouldn't you be open to him about that? Friends for benefits might have developed into something more? Try to dig his interests and start talking about it? Also, try to tell your stories or any random stuff that happened to you. If you don't really get to know what he thinks, etc., That'd still be good to let him know things about you though.

I don't know how much my opinion has been off the track, but I'm glad to find someone who knows what I feel.

Good luck girl!

[haisaikitty]

Girl, we are so alike. I'm a super shy and quiet person too! Hahahah. I'm just thinking if he thought of me as a booty call wouldn't he text me only when he needs me? I requested him on Facebook because i thought we were cool like that and I didn't think anything of it. I just did it out of curiosity! I've noticed that he's been more active on Facebook since I've requested him lol. Guys confuse me man! I just want to hear him say that we're just fuck buddies so I can be at peace. ~.~

[incognito121]

He is txting you as you are his friend with benefit and he doesn't want to mess that up as you are convenient for him, but he doesn't even have you in the friendzone along with benefits as he doesn't sound enthusiastic you txt, most men im only friends with write:: how the hell are you jadey I've not heard from you in two days i thought you maybe died lol get intouch soon would like to take you out for lunch!!! And we have never had sexual contact this mssg shows he cares and doesn't like not hearing from me... your friend with benefit is. keeping it short because unless your satisfying his sexual needs your not really that important to carry out a full blown convo with... sorry but its psychology and you need to learn to read a mans actions.

[nimbus24]

He's a boring guy that wants to have a conversation with you but doesn't have any topic or ideas. Lol

[DamienBladez]

gotta agree with the responses here he is just making sure your mind is on him sorry to say but thats generally what happens in friends with benefits situations the friend part sorta loses its bearing and the "we have sex" part becomes the whole relationship most of the time people dont even remember the last time they hung out with a friends with benefits without having sex, thats not a friends with benefits situation thats a "we mutually use one another for pleasure and go our separate ways" situation and you may not be there yet but if he is already texting you and dropping the convo he really is just making sure your thinking about him and that your gonna answer him if he texts

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It could just be he's run out of things to say. Maybe he's just as unsure how to keep a texting conversation going.

So when he goes...

"Matt: Couple of hours ago..."

then you can segue into something else.

You: "So, what are your plans for the rest of the day?"
or
You: "Do you have a lot of homework tonight?"

whatever... Don't always assume there's something wrong with you.

[ilovesexyfeet]

I gess that u and him don't connect that way if u can't carry out conversation properly and so friends with benefits

[incognito121]

Exactly i feel he doesn't even see her as a friend more just his benefit that he replies to to keep her at his convenience

[ilovesexyfeet]

Yes I agree, its a guy getting his cake and eating it and just offering the odd crumb to her to keep her hanging on. Get rid of him and find a friend with love, trust, honesty and commitment to u. You are a very good looking girl so im amazed u are hanging on to a user when u could find much better.

[haisaikitty]

I see what you guys are saying... But what confuses me is that he randomly sends me a nice picture of him while he's at work? I thought that was nice and one time while we were talking about games he said that we should play live together. Just little things like that confuse me!

[ilovesexyfeet]

Its all about keeping u hanging on, sorry. If it was me I'd send u a picture of us both and say do u remember this day when we done this it was such an amazing day and when I see it I think of u :-) xx

That would be a loving and a 'im so in to u message's not just sending one of himself... I think he is just using u and hinting at the things he knows u want but is unlikely to ever commit to.

[WesTheGuru]

Is he interested? You're having sex and you aren't together, that's a direct sign he is not romantically interested