Why do some guys get nervous around women?

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I have been told by men that i make them nervous. Why is that?

EltonBond · Accepted Answer

Well if you think about it, everyone feels nervous when having to do something for either the first time or to do something they really want and need to do well so otherwise. Its like being nervous before an exam or doing a presentation in front of loads of people. They want it to go well so are more nervous about it
Its basically the same as your situation, as in all these guys that become nervous, are so because they like you and basically want it to go well with you.

People only become nervous if its something they really care about. So basically the nervous guys around you are probably interested in you, unless they are really confident and not nervous or just socially awkward around everyone.

corolfulltiger22 · Accepted Answer

Some guys are just aiming to earn something from that girl like sex. The result is the man to get nervous because he thinks that there is a possibility to get rejected. If guys where aiming to give love they wouldn't be nervous because you can't get rejected when you want to give something to someone. The other problem is that guys are watching all these pick up lines and they are changing their behavior-self. How you are gonna be confident if you are not comfortable in your own skin? I hope you found my opinion useful 😆

apple24 · Accepted Answer

Well, I avoid this guy that I knew in high school bc he makes me nervous like I'm attractive to him or something. But, since I don't trust my feelings I try to avoid look at him.. and avoid bump into him at his job! Usually when I see him my heart start pumping like he the love of my life but I think of it as a reaction caused by how nervous I am.. My armpits starts sweating... my face gets red... I avoid it by looking down and uninterested.

Sairres · Accepted Answer

It's because you look beautiful. The days when I'm too lazy to put any effort in my appearance, guys approach me for conversation. The days I actually put effort to look really nice, guys feel nervous around me and don't look me in the eye.

MikkyLachae · Accepted Answer

This boy told me that he didn't think I'd ever talk to him. He wanted to be extra nice to me so he wouldn't lose me even though he doesn't have me yet.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Primarily because people seek approval, and also they try to be perfectionists and not mess things up, otherwise you possibly will never forget any tiny mistake you make, or at least that is what I used to think about how The Women work. Then I realized everyone makes mistakes and females are just people too, but you still try not to screw anything up and make them look down on you.

VulcanHades · Answer

Well there's plenty of reasons why a girl could make a guy nervous. Maybe you have a machete in hand? That can make people quite nervous. Replace machete with long and pointy nails, same thing. Replace pointy nails with big boobs or nipples poking through your shirt, ditto.

If you're dressed as a gorilla and it's not Halloween people might get nervous and confused as to what your intentions really are. Same thing if you are showing a lot of skin or wearing a ton of make up for no reason.

Are you always staring at people with big eyes and rarely blink? Do you always have a big smile on your face? Do you never smile or never laugh at people's jokes? Are you a feminist? Do you talk too much or rarely ever talk? Are you really crazy and immature or overly serious? Are you beautiful or ugly? All of those things can make guys nervous. :)

kedslover · Answer

Probably because most men don't like pushy or bossy women. Men like to be in control. Men like to be on top. Men like to think they are in charge. Your attitude or how you present yourself could be the barrier. I'm not saying you should be totally passive. You should give the vibe of a loving woman willing to give her all to a man who is willing to commit. Problem is it can't be done before the first date. Perhaps you'll need to break the ice and just talk to him. Keep you voice soft. Guys are either like scared dogs or totally emotionless; either way both share the same basic fears: commitment, giving one's heart, willing to open up, fear of rejection, fear of having one's heart stomped upon. As strong as men are, we men share those fears which are our weakness. That rule applies to a 120 lb bookworm to a 300 lb linebacker; from a coward to a Marine. And that is why men are nervous around women. More than a fear of the unknown but more a case of the fear of the known.

Anonymous · Answer

Women judge more. I feel like im being observed in a test tube and constantly judged even though if im really not. Its also the fear of the girl loosing interest. Some of us guys are trying to market ourselves too to girls. So talking to a girl can be like walking out on stage in front of people. So its like stage fright. And then there's the fear of being nervous and studdering or acting awkward which feeds in on itself and can make a guy real nervous. Its also the same reason women get nervous too. I also forget to mention that minority but large minority of women that HATE all men. They get annoyed by a guy trying to be friendly. Granted some guys are hitting on them and are obnoxious. But there are women out there that wrongly assume all men are bad.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

You're probably hot and evoke this in them (at least internally).

Nomad93 · Answer

I get nervous around women but its usually only around the ones I find attractive. I wish I could get over it though because its super annoying feeling all on edge around people you want to hookup or possibly date. So 99.9999999% of the time I mess things up that's my story so far :(

Tractorbeam · Answer

If guys are getting nervous around you, take a thorough look at what you are doing with your body language and eye contact. It shouldn't be happening, unless you really want them to go away.
You might find something in this to explain it.
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joe833a · Answer

Ouch, I can relate. I would get nervous or even avoid a girl that i liked, especially if i thought they were beautiful. Maybe its a feeling of self worth, I wasn't good enough or good looking enough. they were way higher on the scale than I was why would they have any interest in me kind of thinking. It comes out as shyness usually. Some of those guys really are nice, talk to them and help them feel comfortable. They can be good friends to have.

JackKerouac77 · Answer

Why do convicts get nervous around cops? Because something bad might happen.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we like the girl and want her to like us back. When a guy likes a girl (well, certain types of guys, anyhow), he invests a lot into that girl. Girls always say to just play it cool, but if you can play it cool, it means you don't care at all about the girl. I'm cool as a cucumber around girls who I don't like.

GeoMayweather · Answer

Umm well I'm not the awkward kind of guy so I can't relate that well but it did happen to me once. She was really pretty and I would describe her as the ''perfect woman'' so I only talked to her once and it was really awkward so I never had the guts to talk to that girl again... maybe you're just too pretty.

joep96 · Answer

Some people are just like that, I can be quite nervous and a little shy at first, but if I like I'll soon be myself. It can help just to be understanding and take it slow or take some pressure off them.

Yaeza · Answer

Afraid of being hurt, in my experiences, that's why I get nervous, oh and because we are scared of being labeled "creeps", there is a multitude of reasons for it

muspelhem2 · Answer

If they're attracted to you, they're afraid of messing up.

Anonymous · Answer

weird question. why some girls do so? they are probably perverts and virgins. they want to get physical with you but fail to hide this from you due low self confidence and lack of social nurturing. it might be other cases as well. misogyny, gynophobia, sociophobia, childhood traumatic experiences with women etc.

Anonymous · Answer

I think making someone nervous is what is supposed to happen. You are supposed to trigger something in a man that gets him to think about you, to feel something, and chase after you. you bring the allure to the table... I think it's flattering.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Sometimes its a lack of confidence, fear of rejection etc. You ever heard the phrase, "Confidence is Sexy"? Well yea, some have it and some dont.

mickey19541 · Answer

They are afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. More so if they really like you. Tell them you are easy to talk to and not judgmental.

geri3ttc · Answer

More than likely because they're interested in the woman, unless there is history to cause distrust or intimidation.

Babybabe · Answer

they are intimidated by you, they think your beautiful, they think you're hot and they are scared to go and talk to you

SatanClaus · Answer

Frankly some men find some females kinda of intimidating and so they tend to be on their guard, afraid of getting hurt by rejection so they tend not to risk anything that will harm their already low self esteem and take the back seat.

miserybusiness · Answer

They want to fondle the boobies, and not get smacked by the boobies.

theman1919 · Answer

For the same damn reason girls get nervous around guys...

MartineVoisine · Answer

Maybe you are intimidating? It could be because you are pretty, very confident or very successful :)

Jersey1 · Answer

You may be very pretty, very intelligent or just a scary person ;)

_itsjessii · Answer

Some guys are more afraid than others, it's no big deal.

KillerTaco · Answer

Probably because you're very beautiful. That's usually the most common reason.

Curmudgeon · Answer

I would have to see your pictures, but stunning women do make men nervous.

Bananadream · Answer

I get nervous if the woman is saying or doing something very random or unusually or even dangerous.

BoudyRizk · Answer

I have no idea I get extremely nervous around women and I start to stutter The same way girls get nervous around their crushes

YourFutureEx · Answer

Because you're too hot that they use to forget their pick-up line after looking at you.

kingoficeolation · Answer

We fear disapproval, but are expected not to show emotional weakness like fear. It's a very unhealthy position, but a difficult one to break free of.

Anonymous · Answer

They find you intimidating and are likely inexperienced themselves. You may come off as aggressive or as though you would reject them and they could be afraid of that

apllano · Answer

Because if he is attracted to the woman he will be wanting to seek her approval and come across as perfect in every way.

Anonymous · Answer

You're likely really good-looking. Men get intimidated by hot women for some reason, even hot guys. Men are intimidated by me all the time.

rUinSAYAN · Answer

there can be many reasons for that. me for example, I am always nervous around women but it doesn't stop me to talk to them (ye got the balls).

scrap422 · Answer

I say because you are good looking (can't see don't know) and they get shy because you might be too hot for them and not use too such a hot woman liking them

Anonymous · Answer

Because they want to impress you. Don’t overthink it. Just enjoy it and make them feel at ease by laughing and smiling.

Prettyinpinkk16 · Answer

i think guys are nervous around women because they are scared that they might make the wrong impression especially if he really like her :)

Anonymous · Answer

As someone whos anonymous, it may not be for the good reasons there getting nervous just saying...

dudeman · Answer

I haven't been nervous around a women for nearly a decade.

pound · Answer

o get nervouse when she flirt with me and meeting new girls

Icarus45 · Answer

Hello Miss :) I normally get nervous around women simple because of their beauty.

art84 · Answer

i get nervous around girls, I guess I get intimated by them.

Findesemana · Answer

you perhaps are very loud/brash.. if so, then it can intimidate shyer men...

ThisAndThat · Answer

I figure they could care less so I don't get nervous around women anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

It's just a natural reaction we get from women. At least, some of us. Depends on how experienced the guy is with girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of women are either demanding or are too picky in their preferences for men.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you are a bitch? Have this aggressive attitude? Or maybe you are so pretty? But I doubt that one

CuriousMelove · Answer

Many of us are insecure.

Klaatu51 · Answer

because they're afraid of rejection i guess

dazedandconfused22 · Answer

Cause we are intimidating as fuck.

moviedude714 · Answer

because we are human too

helpman · Answer

Becz i m shy  And im not comfortable around them

Ihav2fart · Answer

I only get nervous around really pretty women.

Anonymous · Answer

Over 35... asking this question. I'm dead. 😭

Ab1997 · Answer

Strong personality!!!

NotGuru · Answer

Try to hide your cleavage!

harrison102 · Answer

If your pretty then that may be one reason why lol

StickStickity13 · Answer

They get anxiety, it's not you its them.

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