If he offered me a ride home could he like me?

[Anonymous]

Last Wednesday we had a lot of snow and I wasn't comfortable driving to work. I called a cab instead and asked for them to pick me up after work too. We ended up getting off an hour earlier. So i asked if I could go call a cab early and to cancel the other one. My coworker who I like (and I think is interested as well) told me not to. He said he could drive me home.

I'm kind of out of his way and it was still snowing a lot. So i said no at first but he kept insisting. So i finally agreed. I'm just wondering if this is something a guy would do for a girl he's interested in, especially if it's out of the way when it's snowing a lot. I'm seriously considering asking him out. The only problem is the last time when I thought a guy was interested, it turned out he was just being nice. It was embarrassing. I don't want to make the same mistake again, especially with a coworker.

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Guess it's hard to know?

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Thanks for those who answered. I'm still not sure with him, but he got really pissed off at me because I hung out with a guy I know all weekend, and I told people at work when they asked how my weekend went. He is currently not saying much to me at the moment.

[scrappygirl]

if he likes he would tell you. such a funny question coming from someone who is at least 25. oooh a guy gave me a ride home! does he like me? if all he did was give you a ride home then he doesn't like you. he was just being nice to you. men tell women when they want them. i mean i get rides home from men all the time and it doesn't mean they like me. i dont have a car and so i need one. I've never driven before and so i ask for rides home everyday and usually its men who do it for me. none of them want me. see guys just like being nice to women. they can't help it. you asked for a ride and he gave you one. end of story.

[scrappygirl]

since you felt the need to block me before i could respond. how is it that im the one who needs to grow up? your the one asking this stupid question? you should be able to tell me that at least. why pm me just to block me?

[Asker]

I looked through both your questions and answers. You make fun of other users and you attack them. You are not the type of person I'd like to talk to. I PMed you because I didn't feel like having a conversation on another persons opinion. I also didn't feel the need to have it public either. You on the other hand seem to be the type of person who wants to cause drama. This is the last time I am responding to you.

[scrappygirl]

lol I've got even more people taking abut how stupid you are for thinking this. you know i would stop if you would just unblock me

[Asker]

You really need to grow up there, dear. I have seen your opinions on this site, and you are acting like a girl in High School. It also turns out that he was interested in me. I decided to move on because of the responses to this question, and I asked out a guy I know outside of work. My co-worker is no longer speaking to me because of it. I told one of the girls that I am close to work about it, and she went and told him. It doesn't matter though because my co-worker should have just told me he was interested.

[scrappygirl]

im not the one who needs to grow up you are your the one who things that just because a guy gave you a ride home it meant that he wants you

[Anonymous]

He could just be a nice, kind guy and nothing more but who knows? What was the conversation like when you both were going home? Was it friendly or flirty? Was he trying to get to know you better? Did he seem nervous or happy to be around you? Think about those things and all the other interactions you've had, then maybe you'll be able figure it out. But offering you a ride, even when insisting, doesn't say much. Oh and please don't ask him out! If he wanted to go out with you, he would have asked you while he had you alone in that car.

[littleM]

In my personal opinion, if you work closely with him on a daily basis, I'd get a little flirty with him and see how he responds. You can easily back off if he doesn't seem into it and save some face, And if he responds well then I'd keep working your seductive ways and get him coming after YOU for a date.

[john9871234]

Well yes he is being nice and does care about otherwise he wouldn't, if you like like him you need to sort of show him that without pushing it too hard.

Spend some time after work with him and get to know him better, don't just into a relationship because that way you could push him away completely, offer to give him a ride home occasionally and car share to "save fuel" but really you spend more time with him

Get to know him, flirt with him give him chance to ask you out because that's how it should be

Hopefully he will pick up on the hints and ask you, I hope it all works out for you

[Klaatu51]

chances are he's being nice... not that he likes you!!!

[Asker]

Okay thanks. I knew it was too good to be true. :)

[Bysshe]

@Asker He might like you he might not, surely it's worth finding out?

[Klaatu51]

Thanks

[soneoak]

Chances are, he might like you. I tend to go out of my way for girls I have a little bit of interest in because it lets me know them a little better.

You have to find out though and stop giving up so easily.

[YoureBeautiful]

Put it this way, would you get in to a car with a guy you didn't LIKE? Probably not

[Asker]

@soneoak well from the majority of the answers most people think I'm dumb for thinking so. Apparently two users on here were talking about how stupid this was. One of them came back to this question to let me know.

Him and I have an actual history together. There are other signs too but I would written a novel if I had added them all. So i just went with the latest one. I know if I wasn't interested in someone I wouldn't offer them a ride if it was out of my way. He did it in a snow storm when the roads were bad.

[godfatherfan]

There is a good chance he was doing to be nice, esp if it is a smaller place and everyone works closely with one another. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you. The first girl I ever went out with I gave her a ride home so i could get her address. That was 1985 so there was no internet. I had to look her up in the white pages to get her phone number. Then I spent over an hour with the phone in my lap... starting to dial, hanging up... start to dial... ring once... hang up...
finally I called.
So while I was being nice, at the same time I had reasons behind it...

[DonkeyKong1979]

You can't say that from that alone, he might like you but he might just be wanting to help you out. Most of us guys are a sucker for a damsel in distress (or even a damsel in danger of minor inconvenience) and it makes us feel good about ourselves to help. You'd need more than that to go on if you wanted to be sure not to repeat your previous mistake.

[Anonymous]

He has some affection for you but is not sure how much and the last guy who said he was being nice had affection for you but still kept it hidden because of some reason. You were right last time and you are right this time. So never be embarrassed if he says he was being nice ask him 'If he sure he has no affections for you or there is some hidden reason he is not admitting it, if there is some hidden reason he does not wants to tell you then it is fine, but he should not lie because that will make you feel stupid'. Let me tell you about boys talking twice and insisting is a long thing, they do no even look at a girl twice if we do not have a hidden affection or a hidden agenda.

[Solaayy]

Thats cute, he seems intrested.. but dont think you should ask him out. Just keep talking to him and see if he flirts with you or does anymore nice gestures for you. Then you can flirt back but in a way where you're not needing his attention.. ya know? Like be polite and nice to him but if you want him to ask you out just play it cool. and be friendly and flirty back to him w/out doing too much of it

[Song4TheBroken]

I think he probably does like you considering he was insistant on giving you a ride even if it means going out of his way... and in snowy weather. I personally wouldn't go out of my way to give someone a lift like that if I didn't like them (well maybe if they were stranded and couldn't get a taxi).

[DamanMannn]

He's a nice guy, If you feel as he's interested, take a chance, better to try than be alone.
It will hurt , I won't lie.

however, love is an amazing thing. and happens in the strangest of ways #EdSheeran
he sounds like a keeper by the way ^^.

xoxo

[zorro8888]

The most I can say with the information given is that he cares for you on some level but it just mean friendship
Do you have anything else to add? Like him flirting or his reaction to you flirting with him?

[Asker]

Well he gets really angry when I talk to other guys.

[zorro8888]

He gets angry?
I want to know about subtle signs... eye contact, going out of his way to talk to you, tries to make you laugh, tries to engage in physical contact (hug, touch on arm/back, tickling etc...)

[Asker]

Well people try not to touch each other at work. There's a lady there that likes to report things that mean nothing. But yeah if I'm talking to another guy he tries to get in the conversation in a subtle way. He doesn't interrupt but he'll try to find an opening. He looks away when he's angry. When people are joking around and he laughs he looks to me first. We always race walk out of the building together.

[zorro8888]

Well since you are in a work environment I could see how it's hard to display physical contact... but from what you said there is a good chance he likes you so I think you should go for it and ask him out if you're comfortable with that lol better than wondering what if... down the line.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Sattymike]

Can't tell at this point. Insisting on giving you a ride home is something any decent guy would do. it's also something any decent guy interested in being with you would do. I think asking him out would be a great idea! There is some risk of embarrassment. But at least you already know he's a nice guy. Pros outweigh the cons, right? Good luck!

[ClaraFTW]

It's possible. However, men like to be the hero to save the day for every woman, not just a woman he likes. It makes him feel fantastic — somewhat comparable to how we feel when buying a dress that looks fabulous and wear it to a party where there will be plenty of guys.

[The_Eternal_Emperor]

He's probably just being nice. I would most certainly go out of my way for anybody who was stranded, regardless of whether I liked them or not. People tend to look too much into generous actions instead of seeing them for what they are - just generosity, and it oftentimes leads to hurt feelings and resentment.

[Asker]

It turns out he was interested, but I messed that up. I decided to move on after reading this question and I asked someone else out. I told a female co-worker about it, and she went and told him. He was actually planning on asking me out in the car but he chickened out. He was worried about making things awkward at work. I guess things will be now though. He's pissed at me, but at the same time he should have just spoke up.

[dE_logics]

"but he kept insisting"

These are signs of interest.

You need to give him vibes that you like him. Tell him about yourself in detail; if he asks you questions about you, then it means he's interested.

As a girl, you need to talk more than him.

[gemini26]

One thing i've learned is that guys most of the time are just being nice. However if it was out of his way then maybe he does like you. But I would ask another co-worker close to him to ask him if he does like you so that way you don't ruin any relationships. I understand why you don't want to ask him, you don't want to make things awkward for the both of you.

[Hannah591]

He just did something nice for you. You think he likes you because you HOPE he likes you, due to you liking him already. This is like saying "he smiled, does he like me?". This means nothing, don't read into things so much.

[scrappygirl]

lol yep we both agree that this is a teenage question and you used your xp points to ask it. can you answer just how much experinece you have with men?

[Asker]

I know the difference between a smile and everything else. Him and I have a bit of a history. We joke around all the time with each other. We split the cost on certain things. He got really pissed off when I mentioned that I was hanging out with a guy this weekend. If I talk to other male co-workers he gets pissed off about it. So that's why I thought when he did something like this for me I thought it meant more. He went out of his way in a snow storm to drive me home. I've gotten rides home from other guys that worked there. In the car we both talked about what we wanted for the future and everything. I don't have that kind of relationship with other guys. @scrappygirl I really don't understand the point in making fun of someone? If you're both going behind my back to laugh at me about it, that's fine though. There's a block button for a reason. Even if you can reply more to this question, I don't have to worry about it for other questions.

[scrappygirl]

lol someone is butt hurt your not the first and you won't be the last to block me. poeple can't handle the truth sometimes. people on here are trying to tell you the truth and your so upset that he doesn't like you back that your blocking them all. can't you see something is wrong there? its not my fault the guy doesn't like you. so why block me over it?

[Asker]

No. I only blocked you @scrappygirl. I have no one else on my block list.

[SexyShyGeek]

Possibly. Need more info.

One thing for sure is that he does not hate you.

How do you two interact day to day?
What did you talk about during that car ride?
Does he know that you like him?

Something motivated him try so hard, to have you agree to being driven home. So do you have any ideas?

[Asker]

We joke around all the time. We joked with people that we both missed work on Monday because we were together. We talked about what our plans were for the future in the car and our interests. I try not to let coworkers know that kind of thing.

[Lavis]

He may be concerned for your safety not necessarily interested. I wouldn't be betting the farm on it regarding the circumstances.

Another thing to keep in my is if things didn't work out you will have to face it every day as he is your co-worker.

[caringguy2899]

It's a really tough situation. IT can be either. He could like you ha may just be nice. It's impossible to know for sure. The conversation you had on the drive perhaps could open some insight If he seemed interested in your likes/dislikes hobbies etc. I'd say more likely than not he likes you! But if more just small talk probably just being nice!

[Asker]

We were talking about the future and our interests and everything.

[caringguy2899]

Well then I would say definitely. And expecially of he got upset aka jealous that u were hangin out with a guy friend. He likes you garenteed and is just too nervous to say somethin. I've been there!

[Asker]

Yeah it turned out it was that he was too nervous. He was planning to say something in the car, but decided against it. I decided to move on though and I asked someone else out. He is pissed. I told a close female co-worker about the guy I asked out, and she told him. It turns out he wasn't sure how I felt and he didn't want to make a situation at work awkward. It certainly is now.

[linkywinky]

My manager friend always gives me a ride to and/or from work when the weather is bad and I ask. Or if I don't ask and he knows I got a ride to work he'll ask or simply state that he's driving me home. And we're just friends.

[nadrad]

You mean friends with benefits?

[linkywinky]

@nadrad no I mean just friends, I don't go after engaged men.

[Cole846]

I have given girls rides home before just put of pure kindness. It doesn't have to be because he likes you. But hey, that doesn't mean that he doesn't like you.

[princessmanna]

That's one of the ways my ex-boyfriend showed me he liked me. I was never allowed to walk anywhere, even before we were dating :P No harm in finding out how he feels! :)

xx

[genericname85]

Is it on his way? If it's no big detour, I'd assume he is just being nice. The fact that he was paying attention to what you are doing cold be a sign though... But then again some just are lie that.

[Asker]

It's not on the way, he went out of his way.

[genericname85]

Like how much?

[Asker]

Probably about 15 minutes, but in a snow storm it would have taken longer. The roads were bad that night.

[genericname85]

hmm i think it´s more likely, that he is interested than not... but can´t guarantee anything.