Do guys like it when girls are obsessed with them?

[Anonymous]

The question basically says it all! Like if a girl keeps writing you letters and saying she was interested in you! And asked you to call her! What would you do? Do you like it? If you didn't like her would you let her know?

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Also! I was giving the letters time! I only sent 3 over a year... and in the last one i told him to call me.

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+1 y

I wasn't trying to be weird! All I wanted was for him to come back. And give me a second chance! I really liked him! And I DONT want him to think I'm some kind of crazy person.

[CreepyOldMan]

You aren't obsessed with him. You're obsessed with the need to be validated. That's what drives obsession. It could be anyone. And it has nothing to do with him, but you.

He's not even the player. You are. And even worse, you're playing yourself. It also happens to be the single biggest turn off in a woman in the history of turn offs.

There is not one other more annoying quality in a person, especially a romantic interest, than the desperation to be validated.

A queen actually knows she's a queen. A whore actually knows she's a whore. But a nothing doesn't know what she is and would as soon be whore as queen if it validated her as at least something.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes it can be cute in way and i think receiving letters can be sexy in way with girl

[Asker]

So if you asked a girl out... who was in her early 20s... she kinda got caught up in the moment because you asked her to a wedding for the first date... she spoke with you again and apologized... And she found out you moved... and sent you a letter stating she really wanted to get to know you! And then sent a letter saying for you to call her.

Is that too much.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

No that wouldn't be too much for me.. i like to know so i could keep my heart open for her:))

[Asker]

Okay! Thanks.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

You're welcome :)

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Thank you for mho:)

[Asker]

You're welcome.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

:D :)

[peachblossomluck]

No! Cease and desist immediately! That's super uncomfortable for them. Women don't like it either. Save your passion, nurture a talent or something instead:)

[Redlily78]

I wouldn't say writing letters makes you crazy or obsessed. He needs to say ok let's try again or no so you can move on.

[Asker]

Oh my goodness! Yes! Exactly! That's all I want! If he told me he wasn't interested anymore! Sure it would stink! But, I could start move on!

[Coffinspire]

I think the would get creeped out lol I wouldn't want someone doing that to me.

[Asker]

But, you would tell the person to stop... and if he didn't that would be harassment...

But... he hasn't told me to leave him alone. So therefore I don't know if he wants me to leave him alone or not.

[Coffinspire]

He's probably being nice and doesn't know what to do. Best thing you can do is act like your perfectly fine. Because your a sane individual that can handle anything, not someone that is depending on other people

[Ryosanada]

I think I'd like it. I'd spend as much time with her as I could.

[Asker]

What if I don't hear anything from him. What should I do?

[Ryosanada]

Try meeting up with him in person, or calling. Texting sucks, and most guys don't like it. We can say one thing one way, and girls will read it another.

[Asker]

Yeah! Meeting up with him... would be great! ;) but... its a long story... but, the guy had to move back to his hometown... and he's on the other side of the country...:( I found his mumber but, that might be too much if I called him.

[Ryosanada]

It can't really hurt. Give him a call. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

[JSmuve]

Umm... obsessed?
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Errrm... no 😕

[Peterepeat86]

If you keep writing letters and you keep getting no response, then you're about to earn the psycho/stalker title. No, we don't like it.

Watch "misery" and "fatal attraction"

Possibly that's not what you meant. If it isn't, I retract the label.

[Asker]

Yeah! That's not what I meant at all! I really liked this guy. And I messed my chances up with him! And I guess I'm going to have to live with that! I just didn't know any other way to let him know! And when I wasn't hearing anything I asumed he didn't get the message. Was that bad to assume?

[Klaatu51]

HELLL NO!!!

being obsessed with someone or sth... it's never good basicall...;-)

[MissPink2]

No they do not. That is the best way to push a guy away. Girls like that end up being crazy, clingy, and act suicidal.

[RichHomieGeorge]

It can get too much really quickly, probably would make me uncomfortable hellah fast

[MissBex95]

well obsession is not love, so if he's mature enough to realize that, then he probably doesn't

[pezzonovante88]

I'd only like it if I thought the girl was attractive.

[Asker]

Do you asked girls out you're not attracted too?

[pezzonovante88]

No...

[Asker]

So it wouldn't bother you then! Because you asked the girl out first... and so therefor you thought she was attractive. So it wouldn't..

[Anonymous]

Clingy, needy, obsession, is what could scare guys away. Its okay for a while but after a while it gets annoying.

[DesiDoo]

If a guy did that to me, its flattering but can become creepy... Especially if the feelings not mutual

[Asker]

But, if you asked a guy out! And he said no... but, then later he wanted to get to know you...

[DesiDoo]

When you reject me the first time... I dont do second chances easily

[ArabianPwincess197]

Err I don't thinks so...

[Asker]

So would it scare him off?

[ArabianPwincess197]

Maybe

[Miralrio]

could you send me a letter?

[Ljubica]

It can make him feel uncomfortable

[adamski24]

No it can get a bit much at times

[Asker]

But, would you tell her to leave you alone?

[Peterepeat86]

Maybe tell her no after first letter. But we hope you'll get a clue after the 50th time you got no response.

[adamski24]

maybe depending how bad it is.
I did one time have to tell a girls to pipe the fuck down she was basically stroking me.

[Asker]

Ha! Well, I've only sent 3 letters... over a year... in the last I told him to call me.

[adamski24]

oh the way you were talking was that it's a everyday thing always following him like a lost dog, talking to all the time phone and send text etc all the time

[Asker]

Oh no! It's been 3 letters over a year! And I'm done now! Because I feel like I've already went a little over board with the 3! I just didn't know if the 3 letters would cause him to come back? I never once told him I was in love with him! I just told him I feel bad that I missed me chance to get to know him. And I told him I haven't been able to stop thinking about him! (Which that statement was probably a bit much?)

[adamski24]

yes sorry you took it to far JR pick yourself up dust yourself off and move on

[BelleGirl21]

Sorry, I'll pull back ;)

[Asker]

What does JR mean... and there's no way to take it back... and have another chance with him.

[adamski24]

@BelleGirl21 Finally got the hint then what was it the concrete boots or the horses head ;p
@Asker JR stands for junior

[BelleGirl21]

I'm going to go write a letter to you right now about how much of a meanie you are!

[adamski24]

That's why you love me so much @BelleGirl21

[Asker]

Are y'all making fun of me?

[adamski24]

no sorry if it come out like that. I was trying to help

[adamski24]

our joking about was not about you. it was wrong of us to play our games in you questions
sorry.

[Asker]

It's fine! I just making sure you weren't.

[BelleGirl21]

Asker, totally not making fun of you. I just have to give him a hard time whenever I can! ;)

[Asker]

Ha! You're fine! :)

[Anonymous]

Haha... I'm gonna say no