Guy says he doesn't sleep around?

[DeflectedAileron]

Is this a good thing? I met this guy online and we immediately hit it off. After the second date he:
-Added me on FB.
-Deleted his dating profile.
-Wanted me to meet his friends.
-Stopped uploading photos of him holding and hugging women. He used to have so many of those photos.
-Told me he needs to be friends with somebody for quite a while before being in a relationship with them.
-Told me commitment is not issue if you really like somebody and the most important part of the relationship is trust.
-Asked me in DETAIL if I would ever be coming back from my holiday. And would I leave permanently.
-Girls everywhere flirt with him. Once a girl flirted with him and I told him I needed to go outside. He stopped talking right away and followed me outside.
-Never takes out his phone unless to show me things.

BUT a girl wrote on his wall that she misses him and to message her ASAP. What do you think guys? He said he doesn't sleep around like his friends but why did he say that out of the blue?

[honeybones]

Okay multiple red flags... One like you said why say that? Also a girl is messaging him and asking him to text her? And a girl flirted with him? Wow... Did he flirt back? Also I feel like he's trying to make an effort to get close to you, BUT you need to find out who this guy really is. Investigate his old posts and ask a couple of friends. This guy seems like a player, but a furtive one that give every girl his soft side and in reality is nothing but a guy who has the hots for any cute girl in his path. Find out who he really is because those are three major red flags of a furtive player and those guys suck when it comes to commitment.

[DeflectedAileron]

Of course. He's a musician, what do you expect? He is tall, hot and blond. But the thing is he never checks out any women in the streets when I walk with him. The girl flirted with him but he didn't really flirt with her. He was being friendly and was talking to her back, but I was testing him and went outside. He followed me immediately and didn't even say bye to the girl. I often wonder why he would give up on so many women for me. No commitment is fine as long as no sleeping is involved. He ain't getting any shit from me till he commits. Because I find I have a hard time committing (Seeing 3 other guys now and still have a datinf profile) but I would nevdr sleep around.

Thing is when I told him everyone cheats on everyone and girls are unrealistic to think guys will always be faithful, he strongly disagreed with me on that and said you can commit if you really truly like somebody.

[DeflectedAileron]

He didn't like or comment on her post though. This is what she wrote: Hey you... miss ya... message me lol

But something I am grateful for is that he never talked about sex. Whenever we talk he would ask me about my dreams, hobbies, family and even the weather! I wonder why he would waste his time on me when other women can sleep with him first and any time.

[xHoneyxBeex]

He sounds like a genuine and trustworthy guy. Just because one girl put that message on his wall doesn't really mean anything. It doesn't mean he is interested in her romantically or sexually. I think if he tells you he doesn't sleep around, and you don't have any evidence to prove otherwise, then you should trust him. Judging by the details you gave, I don't see any reason to suspect that he would be lying about that.

[DeflectedAileron]

He also never talked about sex in any way. He's a really nice and respectful guy that did not touch me inappropriately. He asked me a lot of questions, including family, my life, hobbies and even the weather!

But here is what she wrote: Hey you... miss ya... message me lol

He didn't like or comment on her post. But I'm his dating profile he wrote "wants to date but nothing serious"?

[xHoneyxBeex]

Well I think his actions speak more than what may be written in his dating profile. You said that he deleted his dating profile anyway so if that's the case, he must like you at least a little bit. Perhaps he had a change of heart and he really does want something serious with you. That is just something you may need to talk to him about.

[CuriousKristy]

I think you should talk to him about it. As a female its natural for us to feel skeptic when a guy says that. I know I would.

[Klaatu51]

all... ALL of those signs u mentioned r perfect!!! it just shows this guy's real!

"BUT a girl wrote on his wall that she misses him and to message her ASAP. What do you think guys? He said he doesn't sleep around like his friends but why did he say that out of the blue?"

^now about this... this gal might wanted sth IMPORTANT to tell him dat has nothing to do wid flirtin... and she might be just a friend of his and nothing more... since u have so many perfect signs... y u have doubts?

[DeflectedAileron]

This is what she wrote on his wall: Hey you... miss ya... message me lol

The reason why I am concerned is because he is attractive. Tall, blond and a musician. A lot of girls throw themselves at him, why would he ever give up so many women just for me? Another thing is he never looks at any women out in the streets, but once he commented on how ugly she was and how she looked like a guy. Is that a red flag?

[Klaatu51]

"Hey you... miss ya... message me lol"<------ eh dat wasn't serious... she just told him to message him. chances r he'd not... seems very loyal.

so wot if many gals r after him? a successful/handsome guy like him can fall in love and be loyal to just one gal... i'm afraid u don't believe to yerself much :|

[DeflectedAileron]

I have a low self esteem. I feel like there are so many hot, blonde, blue eyed and big breasted women out there. I feel there is nothing special about me besides the fact that I'm a pilot. I have a strong passion for aviation and I want to constantly expand my knowledge about aircraft in general, those great aluminium beasts that endure storms and extreme changes in temperature. I am an intellectual, but he is so different from me.

He may take drugs and he is a bad boy. His brother is in jail for assault and was an MMA fighter. He also was charged $1100 for a speeding ticket. Not so sure actually. I wish I knew if he was worth some of the time I should be spent working on my career.

[DeflectedAileron]

He never texts me anymore. He used to, asking how I was. Is it because I told him the most important thing in a relationship is giving each other spacr and I told him my ex were stage 5 clingers that texted too often? I also showed him a case of a super clingy texter.

What do you mean by that girl wasn't serious?

And by the way is it a good thing that he talks and asks about my family, hobbies, dreams and even the weather?

[Klaatu51]

oh c'mon now... u r really pretty judgin by yer profile pic :)
and u r gonna be successful as well if u r a pilot... so y still insecure? ;)

[Klaatu51]

"Is it because I told him the most important thing in a relationship is giving each other spacr and I told him my ex were stage 5 clingers that texted too often? I also showed him a case of a super clingy texter.
"

^obviously yeah! since he realised u dislike clingy guys... he decided to text u less often of course.

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What do you mean by that girl wasn't serious?

And by the way is it a good thing that he talks and asks about my family, hobbies, dreams and even the weather?"

^she didn't say anything like "plz send me asap... i wanna talk wid u" ... she even said "lol"... so not so serious.

and yeah that's good he thinks seriously about u

[Klaatu51]

thanks!