Do girls like cold hearted guys over emotionals guys?

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Really man.. I am kinda guy who is cold hearted. I maen its not that i have no feelings , infact i am too emotional person I do cry a lot. But I am awfully introverted adnd socially awkwards guy. Really shy person. I generally do nont care for others as I am cencerned with my own stuff... I dont have any close friend and matter of fact I reallly have only 2-3 friends , But I dont llike to help people who have hurt me in some way... I am kinda person who keeps grudes on others , I have too much ego , I can't handle people making fun of me. i dont like people useing me instead if they just ask for it i would help.
I have seen that girls often are pissed off by the emotoinal and ovely attached guys.. Conversely are they attracted to cold hearted guys?

ak666 · Accepted Answer

I think you're more likely to be emotionally distant but extremely emotional. Ego, grudges, these things tend to be associated with strong emotions. Being manly usually requires becoming a little more disciplined about your emotions: a really emotionally-stable guy usually doesn't hold grudges.

That's not good for a relationship if you end up getting your ego poked a little bit and then get angry and distant and start holding grudges towards the woman, only to have to come back to your senses and then tell her you love her again.

It's usually destructive behavior for a relationship where you're bouncing from "I miss you" to, "I hate you bitch, leave me alone!".

It would help to work on that part, try to trust at least those who care about you and not let your anger and ego get the better of you. It's like boxing: if you step back, you lose your footing, corner yourself. You have to learn to side-step, counter, lunge forward and hug, talk it out.

I was this type somewhat. I didn't hold grudges but I had quite an ego when I was younger, and rather prone to aggression and violence (though never towards women: I'd end up stupidly punching walls and shattering my hands when angry).

Attraction-wise it's different. This kind of side of you will tend to show up in deep into relationships rather than on a date, e. g. So if you find a girl you love, it's worth really recognizing these aspects and trying to make at least some minor corrections to them.

Tanuron · Accepted Answer

To be honest though, you dont sound cold at all, which is good. Or its just me who is more f**ked up than I can imagine. Cause most of these traits you describe was something I considered to be very human in the past when I was "cold". But I became pretty detached in many ways no doubt, couldnt afford ego, couldnt afford to hold any grudges, didn't have any friends, was always made fun of really. Ended up meerly exsisting anyway. People say you need a reason to live, but that is not true either. Dont even need one.

Afro-dite9 · Accepted Answer

I'll take a 3rd stage cry baby, shy, clinger over a distant jacky (jackass) I can't get through to ANYDAY! I don't show emotion's, because I'm so emotional but I'm not a cold hearted person about it either. Depend's on who I am with I guess. But it is not a trait I am ashamed of either. Know one like's being used even the player's. Know point in holding grudge's, you just block your blessing's that way. Just forgive them, remember it and do not fall for it again. someone has a problem with me being too emotional or silly or bold for what I believe in... than that mf was NEVER for me in the first place. Point blank period! The only people who think I am are very few and that's cause they're asshole's and I treat them how they treat other's. At least you can talk an issue out with the emotional person or you know where you stand with them. But you know what they say cold hearted people were just people who cared too much and got screwed over.

Sharyln · Accepted Answer

Yes I'm attracted to only cold hearted guys. Infact I'm just like u, I don't have any close friends and u get angry easily too and for some reason guys think its hot. Its not fun to see a guy crying or being sad on everything. It'll actually be surprising and cute to see him get emotional all of a sudden someday. I don't cry at all on anything but seeing a cold hearted guy cry will make me cry for sure

musicislifeeee · Accepted Answer

Well, personally I really don't like guys that act completely crazy over me, like saying I love you over and over and won't stop talking to you. It's super annoying. Most girls like more casual guys that chase them but not to that extent where you just want to slap them. So, to answer your question, maybe somewhere more in the middle.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Girls like mature guys (by which I mean emotionally mature), not just "overly stoic guys" who suppress all their emotions, nor a guy who is actually narcissist acting hurt like a diva.

Baggz · Answer

Some girls dig it. I was too cold, not even emotional or feel any sort of remorse, once upon a time. I'm not vindictive though coz I don't really give a shit. Why get angry over someone for long period of time when you can just block them out completely and not give a fuck. You consume less energy. I'm always looking out for me, but there will be a day when you finally open up to this incredible girl you meet. She'll slowly chip that block and you be mushy as fuck lol but for the meantime, do you and whatever keeps you happy. I would start practicing not giving a fuck and just let those grudges go though... I'm tellin' ya, they ain't worth the time bruh

mar47 · Answer

I'm similar to you man. I don't display much emotion or argue with a girl I'm dating. Due to the fact that when I was growing up I never had a fight with my father or mother or siblings. I never displayed my dissatisfaction with stuff I didn't like. In fact until a few years ago I thought I had to get approval from my brother and father to do anything. It was like I didn't have my own opinion.

For me to display anger or annoyance is extremely difficult. One time I got angry at one of my friends and started shouting at him. And next time we were fine. And that was such a surprise for me. I never thought I could get upset with someone and still be friends afterwards.

It's not that I don't want to be emotional it's that when I do it, I express annoyance for very small things and I feel like a child even though girls don't think it's such a big deal. I guess the way to get over it is to be aware of it and do it a step at a time.

Good luck !

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

No, not at all. Of course every woman is different, but I personally prefer men who show their emotions. I want my boyfriend to tell me how he feels, I don't like guessing.

I understand what you're saying about your individual situation but are you sure you would act the same way with someone you're in a relationship with? Because it's one thing to act "cold hearted" in general around people you don't care about but when you're in a relationship with someone, that's different.

Waffles731 · Answer

Okay I'm going to ask you to describe your cold heartness more
Are you a Byronic hero kinda guy
The Byronic Hero is a type of character popularized by the works of Lord Byron, whose protagonists often embodied this archetype, though they existed before him, it became prominent during Romanticism. Sometimes an Anti-Hero, others an Anti-Villain, or even Just a Villain, Byronic heroes are charismatic characters with strong passions and ideals, but who are nonetheless deeply flawed individuals who may act in ways which are socially reprehensible because he's definitely contrary to his mainstream society. A byronic hero is on his own side and has his own set of beliefs which he will not bow nor change for anyone. A Byronic hero is a character whose internal conflicts are heavily romanticized and who himself ponders and wrestles with his struggles and beliefs. Some are portrayed with a suggestion of dark crimes or tragedies in their past.
Or are you like a sociopath kinda guy

Poppykate · Answer

I like to help people. I work on the theory that you need to be the changes you want to see in the world. That said, I won't let people walk over me. I don't think that I could date someone who is selfish. This is a quality in people I find frustrating!.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Cold hearted, serial killers are my favorite kind of man to introduce to the parents... Said nobody ever.

rosejean · Answer

depends... im not into cold hearted guys but im not into an emotional guy either. i like a guy who can express his self and don't go around acting like he doesn't have emotions.. we are all human and every human have emotions even the cold hearted ones so i like a guy to show his emotions but i dont want a little whiny bitch...

Hailey17 · Answer

I don't necessarily like cold hearted guys but super mushy, sensitive guys kind of overwhelm me. They baby me and would do anything for me. They get worried when they think I might disapprove or disagree with something they do and are always apologizing. It makes me feel like I'm their boss they're trying to suck up to. I like a man who will stick up for himself, speak his mind, and not always be worried about what someone else thinks. Super nice guys just sometimes don't seem very confident.

Howudoinn · Answer

Tbh I've liked both in the past. About a year ago, I liked an emotional guy who is really sensitive and nice and he was not at all an introvert. He hugs everyone and he will literally flirt anything alive like it can be a tree. Now I like a guy who is kinda awkward, an introvert and he's not necessarily cold hearted or serious, you just have to get to know him. So it's both, m8.

heywhisper · Answer

I'm sorry but I can not be with a guy that shows no emotions. My guy is very emotional.. he cries over cheesy movies! it's so cute. He is always spoiling me and treats me like a princess. He is very kind and wears his heart on his sleeve. I love that about him because i'm the same way =)

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

I'm not attracted to cold hearted guys at all. My boyfriend is very emotional, writes poems to me and is expressive about his feels. I love that about him.

ajo19 · Answer

I think it's best to pretty emtionally involved in ab a relationship, I'm not saying over too emotional because like both genders that's too much. However, I think that you need to be a little open to it relationships because you don't want the other person to think your not interested. It's painful for them if they think your trying.

serious · Answer

No, it can't be generalized that way. Not all women will like cold-hearted men and not all women will like emotional guys as such.

Well, one reason as to why some women may like cold-hearted guys could be that they may come off as a challenge to them, whereas an emotional guy may come off as an immature boy which most probably puts off women.

TonyaOrtega · Answer

I am with someone who is this way. He is mean to me, insults me, he holds grudges and blames the female race (cuz they've hurt him in the past) It really beats me down, hurts my feelings, and the things he has done to seek revenge & hateful words he has said... He can't take that back! So, it gives me a complex & makes me even more insecure & unloved. When I'm feeling down cuz of it, he will turn around and tell me hush with that nonsense and he says he loves me. Do you think thats right?

Anonymous · Answer

You cannot be both emotional and cold hearted at the same. I think you are in deed really emotional and you have a way to protect yourself from getting hurt, that is staying away from others and not getting close to people. I am very much the same.
Women like to see emotions, in fact they love them. If a guy is tough around others but emotional to a certain girl; bam ! she will love him. They do not like overly emotional guys though. They want to have fun, they don't want anybody's misery, you know..

Chief16 · Answer

So according to you there's only cold hearted and emotional guys? I think anyone would prefer an emotionally stable partner, be it a guy or a girl. Someone who can hold their shit together when things fall apart. That's the kind of person I am and want to be with.

ButternutLove · Answer

I personally like more cold-hearted people because of personal preference but every person is different. Maybe to get better results for this question you could include a pole because I've found that's what works best for questions like this. Hope finding an answer goes well :)

stillagoodgirl · Answer

I'm shy too but I feel like we're more emotional than cold hearted. We appear stuck up sometimes

I don't like a guy who's too emotional but I definitely don't want an insensitive guy.

I want a more extroverted guy though caz they get me out of my shell. With introverted guys NOTHING happens unless I make a move OR much later when I've moved on the guy does

Anonymous · Answer

No girls dont typically like guys cold hearted but you seem okay. Its okay to not be overly sentimental, im not either. but as far as you holding grudges and can't handle people making fun of you and shit, i would say learn how to let it go. People who hold grudges shoot up schools and i know you dont wanna be that guy right?

Anonymous · Answer

Holds grudges, doesn't generally care for people, big ego, insecure enough to be upset when people make fun of him... Yeah, this ones definitely a winner.

Honestly, you don't seem "cold-hearted" at all. Based on your description, you sound like you're extremely sensitive. Can't get over things and can't deal with criticism. Boom.

Also, I can't imagine any sane woman wanting to put up with this sort of nonsense in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I seem attracted to guys like you. Loner people, shut off, don't want to be attached Sorry to bother but can you answer mine too maybe?

selgomezfan101 · Answer

To be with someone I feel like they have to be able to love someone else more than themselves, I'm not saying me but they need to be able to sacrifice things and not only be considered on their own lives, if you're able to live for someone else such as family/children or girlfriend then only you could achieve happiness. That's just for me tho

truthhammer · Answer

What girls want is very self centered. Don't use what they want as a guideline for your life. Idiots do that and girls who are entitled speak like we should conform to that.

Be ur own man who has a plan and a backbone.

Girls like different things according to their mood so... be ur own man

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I like emotional guys but not to emotional. I like a guy that is confident because confidence is sexy. You can't change who you are so just find a girl that matches your personality and you'll be fine. There is nothing wrong with not being super emotional or being shy just be yourself and be with someone who likes who you are.

isthatarose · Answer

I resent cold hearted guys. Especially the ones who pretend like they are really warm and caring but on the inside,, cold and empty. I've been hurt by cold hearted people.

marisaptv · Answer

I am awfully insecure and anxious as well, so I don't like it when a guy doesn't tell me how he feels about me. But personally I like serious people to balance my personality.

msAlovescookies · Answer

I'd like someone in between. In high school, I dated a guy who was cold but also sensitive. Sometimes his coldness was too much, but just right compared to the guy I like now who's is super nice but way too sensitive and emotional.

JadedandReckless · Answer

I am kinda like you except I dont keep grudges on people because I dont care. but if you think people like cold hearted people then look at yourself, I look at myself. are we with someone awesome? NO then the answer is no.

ashisimo · Answer

i like emotional because emotions are a human thing not just a female thing.

Sara413 · Answer

Most of us like a man who is emotionally stable. As in, isn't afraid of his feelings but also not a slave to them.

MrNameless · Answer

Girls don't want the extreme spectrums. They don't want you to be emotionally distant, but they don't want a guy that flips his emotions like a drop of a hat.

Prof_Don · Answer

Guys who are "cold hearted" usually have issues KEEPING a girl long term.

I'll keep it #100 ; I've never seen a cold hearted, emotionally distant guy with a speck of social skills struggle getting a girl's interest or with getting laid.

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

I don't like cold-hearted guys. I am quite cold-hearted myself I need someone to balance me. Just kidding. I love guys who are not afraid to show their emotions.

on-point · Answer

Warm hearted guys are my type, helpful, polite, kind, cheerful. Not the type that hates the whole world, are negative and bitter. I prefer positivity around myself and majority of others too. Being togh and cold may sound cool or whatever but it's not good in the long run.
But at least you were honest, that's a way better quality than anything you wrote
So excuse me for being honest as well

UtopianLobotomy · Answer

It depends on the woman, and/or how well the guy masks his cold heart with emotions and/or how well an emotional man masks his emotions with a cold heart.

letsbefriends25 · Answer

I love sensitive guys. I love sensitive people. I like people who feel and are compassionate. They make me feel wanted in a world where people seldom feel accepted.

QuestionzGirl · Answer

I personally like guys who are generally caring. It's not that you have to be nice to every single person but a person who is generally nice.

It would be great if a guy could open his feeling with his girlfriend as well.

archiz · Answer

Your description doesn t define a cold hearted person. You get easily affected by others and you are emotional

shortandsweet24 · Answer

Personally, I Love it when a guy is secure enough with himself to honestly and openly show his emotions...❤

WhatTheHellAmy · Answer

A bit of both. Not too emotional, not too cold hearted.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess I don't mind them appear to be cold hearted , but I would want them to be emotional with me and know that it's okay for them to show emotions. I actually think guys being emotional and open about their feelings is a huge turn on

brokenbutterfly · Answer

a guy who is overemotional is never attractive.. neither is a cold hearted guy. i like a little bit of both personally.

Dandeus · Answer

You're not cold hearted, you're angry, hypersensitive, and insecure, and you bottle it all up. Not a healthy way to live.

Anonymous · Answer

I would say girls are often -most- attracted to warm hearted guys who are capable of being stoically strong when required, and typically are, but let their guard down very occasionally.

That's pretty rare though.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I dont like cold hearted guys. I feel an emotional gap while talking to them. I like emotional guys. I can't connect with the cold hearted ones. Rather i am repelled by them. Sorry to say that but i am.

dominiquois · Answer

Not too emotional (baby) and not too cold (psychopath). Nothing is wrong with having emotions as a guy. Emotional honesty is attractive.

Hadz212 · Answer

For me, I kinda like a guy who is in between. Not too emotional, not too cold.

Ghosted · Answer

i prefer a person who knows when to be tough and when to be sensitive most times.

Anonymous · Answer

Some girls like cold hearted guys. However showing emotion makes you personable and human, it's shows you care. Cold hearted guys are harder to talk to at times because they may not care when you need them too. It's good to have emotions though so maybe a midpoint between the two.

Ellelinx · Answer

I like emotional guys they are not afraid of showing their feelings and that's cute.

sp33d · Answer

You might not know for sure, yet what you are exactly. You can't say that every girl likes cold/emotional guys - it doesn't work like that. It's an all-you-can-eat buffet, pick something you like.

tolmbyy · Answer

Showing any type of weakness to your SO will make her lose respect for you. So yes, they do like cold hearted guys.

booo159 · Answer

exactly my story... I know that feel bro

Anonymous · Answer

I like emotional guys.. i really like it cause i know what he feels and thinks and i hate cold hearted people cause im like that..

apple24 · Answer

nope i like a balance. I like guys who share everything it makes me feel part of there lives.

Anonymous · Answer

Why does it have to be one of the two extremes? Just a normal person who doesn't cry over everything but isn't heartless is fine.

Anonymous · Answer

If you cry all the time that makes you an emotional guy and no it's not attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Holly fucking shit it's like you're describing me. Every single detail.

Anonymous · Answer

A guy down the middle: not too emotional or too cold hearted.

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