Why do I attract mama's boys?

[Anonymous]

From boyfriends to male friends, I seem to attract mama's boys. Men who rely on my emotional support to the point that I feel just overwhelmed by their problems, men who confess every singel detail from their emotional and private life.
I'm not complaining, I'm just asking. And for the record, while they rely on me, I can only dream about their support.
For the record, I'm not a motherly type at all. I'm more of a tomboyish woman with wide interests that appeal to both, men and women.

[oldanddecrepid]

I don't think you attract mama's boys... I think you just attract boys period! I think it is because of your tomboyish type nature. Most tomboy type women are more independent and solid on their own, so you would tend to attract guys who are less solid on their own and would rely on you.

Most tomboy type women don't share there feelings that much... to me that has both an upside and a downside... the upside for most guys is you don't have to worry about her getting all emotional on ya that much... the downside is you don't ever really know how she really feels about you because they mask their feelings so well.

So in short... the strong silent type often attracts the not so strong talkative type!

[Asker]

I think you nailed it. Thanks!!

[AhGojira]

Do you try to change men? Are you a momma girl friend that is controlling and shit like that?

[Asker]

No way!! I'm the opposite. Talk to them like a buddy, defend them from their girlfriends or wives ( if they're friends, obviously) and in return they come to me with all their problems.
and what do I get in return? Nothing!!!

[Honeyyy]

Maybe that's just it, you're a tomboyish woman and they feel comfortable confiding in you.

[sp33d]

Perhaps you're not putting your foot down in a more clear, concise manner.