Why Swedish guys (or guys from nordic countries) dont like short girls?

[Anonymous]

hi. I am 21 year old American girl, went Uppsala for study. I am here for nearly a year. I think Swedish guys are attractive, but they have different beauty standards than us Americans.
I am 5 ft 4 inch, which is completely average in America but little short in Sweden. In America, being short is a plus; most guys think short girls are cute and easy to lift. But i think in Sweden, short girl is like "fat girl". I have told I am too short by guys several times, most girls younger than 18 tries to be longer by interesting diets and sports, even growth hormones and those for older than 18 and rich go for leg lenghtening surgery. When you ask a guy "define me a beautifull girl", he responds "well, longer than 5ft7inch, slim" or "longer than 5ft7inch, curvy or fit." Beauty standarts are differ from culture, why in scandinavian culture, being tall is equals to being beautifull?

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Is there any Swedish guy? I really wonder why.

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[Anonymous]

Hej!
I am Swedish. As you said, beauty standarts are different in every culture. We Swedes are health addicted people. The more healthy features you have, the more attractive you are. Being significantly taller than average is sign of healthier childhood and stronger genes. So yes, in Scandinavian culture, taller woman have a great advantage.
In America, most guys dont like the idea that their partner is taller than themselves. It is a "man should be tall woman should be small" norm. In Sweden, there is not such a norm. Guys dont bother when woman are significantly taller than them, on contrary they love that. "ju längre desto bättre". But woman also prefer taller guys too, so short guys date with short woman even they want tall woman.
Leg lenghtening surgery is so silly idea even some of my friends went for it. I dont recommend. 5"4' is short but you can compensate it with right style, fit body and personality. Nobody is perfect.

[Asker]

Hey. Thanks for respond. I sometimes see short guy-tall girl couples, at least more than in America. Some of my guy friends said that they prefer girls who are 10 cm taller than themselves than a girl who is 20cm shoter. But, how them relate height and health? And why swedes care height so much, i saw a guy on Okcupid wrote "no short trash" on his profile? interesting...

[Opinion Owner]

Ahh. Dating sites are full of superficial guys who only care appearence. In reallity, guys dont measure girls and probably they dont realize that you are little shorter than average if you have right style. In dating sites, people only focus on appearence and since being short is considered a turn off in Sweden, you lose. Try to find true man in real life, I am sure your good personality will compensate your height. :)

[Asker]

Same as fat girls with cute face? :D

[Opinion Owner]

In Sweden, there are more girls than guys. So guys are more picky about their ideal partner. In America, even the fattest and ugliest girl can find a guy, but in Sweden, roles can chance. If you are short but perfect in every other situation, it can be tolerable.

[Asker]

Swedish guys are most attractive among the World, al lot of girl from different countries love them, so they may be picky even about height :D

[CeeStyle]

Your height is not a sign of health. That is some sort of cultural thing. It's not based in science. Swedish people may be progressive in some areas but you are really lacking in this one.

[Anonymous]

Swedish guys dont like height difference at all. Average height for Swedish guys are 183cm so girls around 175-180 are ideal according to average Swedish guy. The taller guys prefer taller than this range and the shorter guys prefer shorter of course. But I think height is not primary criteria for some as long as you are between 160-190 cm.

[Asker]

You are from Sweden? I fall the OK range then? :D

[Opinion Owner]

There are plenty of immigrants here. If you dont have any strong preference to Swedish guys, than you may find a guy. Swedish guys are little picky about height. They prefer their girl +-10cm from their own height.

[Asker]

I think Swedish guys are hot... :/ DAAMN I want to be 5"10' now :D

[Opinion Owner]

You are older than 18, so too late. Only option you have is leg lenghtening surgery.

[Asker]

Leg lenghtening? I heard that operation is crazy painfull and risky :D

[Goldie757]

Well that explains when I suddenly become attractive to men when I travel to different parts of Europe.

I guess tall woman stand out more, have long legs, more model like. They may just not like big height difference. Who knows?

[Asker]

Are you tall?
It may be general in Europe, yes. There is a model idea in Sweden, due to my experiences. Which countries did you travel?

[Goldie757]

5'9"
France, Belgium, Germany, Denmark, Sweden, Cyprus, Norway and the Netherlands

[Asker]

In nordic countries, (Sweden, Norway, Denmark) being tall is a big plus. you are longer than their average and i think for most of them, it is enough to make you attractive.
They do same things to short girls what American girls do short guys.. :/

[RedThread]

I'm a 6'5" American of Swedish ancestry and I don't care about height all that much. I guess they're just used to everyone being tall. I'm a giant in my area surrounded by a bunch of much shorter Portuguese and Spanish people so I guess I'm used to noticing women shorter than me. When you live in a very diverse country or area I think you have more diverse beauty standards.

[Asker]

so average height girl who is 5"4' still have chance? :D

[RedThread]

Hell yeah! Haha

[Anonymous]

There is nothing more unattractive than short girls. Tallnes is mark of beauty and health. I am 6" tall and my girlfriend must be above 5"9', preferably as tall as me without heels. I really teeth on those taller woman. But there are plenty more important factors as long as girl is not dwarf type like under 5"6'

[Asker]

dwarf type under 5"6'? I thought average is 5"6' so half of Swedish woman are dwarf? :D Yes guys have strongly prefer taller than average but... c'mon dwarf is under 4"9' we are perfectly average around the World. :/

[Opinion Owner]

Average is about 5"6-5"7 and under than that is simply overlooked. Sad but true. You can be calm, there are plenty of Asian or Latino immigrants. They may like shorties.

[Asker]

You are damn picky. Is it that important? :/

[Opinion Owner]

" In America, being short is a plus; most guys think short girls are cute and easy to lift."
Do you belive that short stumpy legs are preferred over good shapely long legs? Or do you belive that guys love bending down to kiss a woman? There is a reason why all models are tall, I think 5"4 is too short for their ideals? In Sweden, 5"9 is height requirement to be model. Women envy them, guys teeth on them.
I personally want my girl to be tall and healthy.

[Asker]

I dont ask why dont you prefer short girls, I ask "why this is important". I mean, everything perfect except height is not "enough" for you?

[Opinion Owner]

I personally dont attached to girls under 5"6.

[Asker]

it is bullshit. too shallow.

[Opinion Owner]

having some preferences does not mean i am shallow.

[Asker]

Preference? seriously? it is not a preference. it is a "requirement"

[CeeStyle]

This is probably the most intolerant thing I read online all year. Ridiculous.

[FebruaryDay]

Maybe in their culture they have a strong preference for women’s height, I don't know. But most guys in general doesn’t care about their dates or potential partner’s height.

For example, I’m half Asian, half Spanish with brown eyes, dark hair, tan skin and my hubs is a 6’3 Swedish man with blond hair and blue eyes. His ex girlfriend is a Swedish girl (5’10, blond hair, blue eyes and she did some modeling), but here we are, 8 years together with two lovely kids. Love don’t see color or height.

Try to think less of superficial stuff because when the right person comes along, he wouldn’t care if you didn’t pass the “ideal” height in his culture.

[LittleSally]

You are American but don't know basic grammar? Strange...

It's because they're one of the tallest people in the world... Their average is considered very tall in America.

[Asker]

but in america, short girls are preferred? I am only two inches shorter than average.

[LittleSally]

Yes, but their average isn't your average.

[Asker]

no. 5ft4inch is average in America and 2inch shorter than average in Sweden.
Sweden woman height average (age 20-29) is 167cm
I am 163 cm.

[LittleSally]

Well... maybe they were making an excuse as to why they rejected you... Maybe it's not about the height at all...

[Asker]

I thought so at start. but it is different. In Sweden when you say "you are short" to a girl, she reacts the same way as you said "you are fat." And I dont belive that such Swedish woman go for leg lenghtening surgery.

[popsickle]

the nordics i know tend to prefer strongly their own features like height blonde hair blue eyes pale skin maybe its a common trend

[Asker]

have they height requirements like us American girls? :D I saw one at OkCupid

[popsickle]

i never asked! but they are very keen on their blond hair / blue eyes.

[Asker]

I thought it is on contrary, they like tall brunettes :D

[BuchitaBuchys]

That's because their women skyscrape over us lmao.

*note to self, never fall for a swede since I'm only 4'11.

[Asker]

yes but they want their girl taller than their national average. Average is 5"6' for a Swedish girl but still considered too short for Swedish guys. :D

[Anonymous]

Highly doubt the accuracy of this.

Considering the number of men that are marrying Thai or other Asian girls that are vertically challenged.

[BrownBoyBrownies]

''vertically challenged'' I laughed out loud on that one :D

[lordofnecklace]

no. we only want them as knulldocka. For a relationship, we always prefer tall intelligent women.

[Asker]

@lordofnecklace what the hell is "knulldocka"? :D

[Opinion Owner]

Something along the lines of fuck buddy :)

[Asker]

Wow... So is it true? :D

[Opinion Owner]

On the internet everything is true :)

[Asker]

Do you from sweden? :D

[Opinion Owner]

Norway but living in US.

[Asker]

So what do you think about it? lord of necklace is right?

[Anonymous]

"In America, being short is a plus"

Well I don't think I completely agree with that...

[Asker]

Really? :D When I was at America, I wish I was little shorter. Most guy friend said they adore petite woman and one of them said "petite woman is new ideal". In Sweden (and i guess in Europe) short girl is like fat girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm maybe. I guess because the average guy in the US is 5'9-5'10. But I'm 6'3 so I prefer the girl to be a little taller.

[Asker]

Where are you from? :D
in america, guys thing "man must be taller woman must be smaller", but in sweden guys dont think so. Most of them are ok with longer woman and they think the longer the better.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm an American. I think the guys in sweden still want the girl shorter than them just taller than the average American woman.

[Asker]

they dont care their partner is taller than them, but they dont want a girl who is shorter than 5ft 7inch, in general. being longer than "their" average is like having bigger boobs than average. they just act like... well... American girls!

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

are you sure it's not just because you're ugly?

[Asker]

haha :D well, i think i am beautifull but is it enought to make me beautifull? i dont think so. but when i was at america, lots of guys think i am pretty but when i move to sweden, guys dont interested in me and they claimed it is because of height. i am member of okcupid and there are several guys who write their profile "if you are shorter than 170 dont bother to write, we dont have something common." a girl friend of mine said being shorter than average considered as being ugly in sweden, or in Europe.

[Polocrew]

Italian and I love tall chicks ha

[Asker]

haha you are out of club :D
or maybe you have swedish origin?

[Polocrew]

Lol nope Italian Russian

[Asker]

Good :D
I am bored of swedes and their height "preferences"

[Polocrew]

we more jacked , big and bench more anyway Psh but taller chicks are hotter OP

[Asker]

Thanks fot broking my heart, italian dude :D

[Polocrew]

Lmao np

[Asker]

i can forgive you if you give me pizza