How to deal with flaky (insecure?) guys? help?

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I went on 3 dates with a guy and the dates were quite nice... we also kissed...
however, he kind of started annoying me, because he did/said some stupid things...

First, before our third date, he was referring to sex a lot... I told him that we can meet, but that I am not that ready. I think he took that as a rejection? He read about the three date rule in some kind of female magazine... I think it's stupid to live by rules...

he almost cancelled our third date on the same date.. he had an appointment, and forgot abut it when we talked the day before... The day before our third date, I asked him if he had time the following day, but he just ignored my question and asked me if I had time on that same day? Is this some kind of power game? I asked him first, he didn't answer, but asked me if I had time on the same day... we had that third date and it was nice. He told me there that he wasn't sure about my intentions... I told him that I wouldn't be there if I wasn't interested...

Third, he cancelled our 4th date and started to text less before. I know that he is busy, but come on, he also has some free hours... he started a new job etc., but I didn't pursue him too hard or anything.
Afte our 3rd date, he texted me that he enjoyed it. he texted me the following day and I texted him after a few days, but he didn't really ask me out anymore... I asked him out for the 4th date and he suggested a day, but we didn't text until one day prior to the date, where he told me that he couldn't make it due to work.
he didn0t try to reschedule our date... he just told me that he will have time for me and that he is interested. So I asked him when he was going to have time... no answer twice... only that he is still interested. I do believe that he is genuinly busy, but I think it's rude and disrespectufl to ignore my question. Would he ignore a friend? He texted me back after my question, but he did not answer it...
I told him that this was a weird way to show interest...


How to deal with flaky (insecure?) guys? help?
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