guys do you or have you ever had a Hotwife Fantasy where you share your wife with other men? and are you a Stag or a Cuck? Have you ever lived it out? Or would you live it out given the chance?
Im lucky to have a husband that shares the same passion as i do for open sexual freedom.. He is and always will be My Stag My Alpha , if my friends want to spend time with me they have to ask his permission , And he usually is the 1 inviting them for mfm and gangbangs , i have very little to do with that apart from suggesting it maybe time for another..
attatched is a photo sighting the diffrence between Stag and Cuck
a stag is just a cuckold in training. its the early stage of transformation. Once a guy allows/accepts another man fucking his wife, he is in the early stages of cuckoldom. It takes time.. months or even years sometimes but when you meet a true bull he will transform your into a cuckold slowly but surely. cuckold almost always (99% of time) start out agreeing to a 3sum, then progressing to stag and ultimately cuckoldry. I could write a novel on it. lol
sources: I've cuckolded (im the bull) about 8 couples now
if you've gone down on any of your x's... you've tasted my cum. So who's the real faggot. Them, or you? (that's rhetorical, we already know the right answer to that, we are just waiting for you to catch up).
My wife and I have a growing interest in Hotwife fantasy that we want to experience. We are now having fun fantasizing this with one another via dildo training. I would consider myself more of a stag but cuckold could be hot too at times. My Hotwife also believes it could be hot for me to play with the other guy as well!
Heh, it's cute how boys will literally build up an ENTIRE FRAMEWORK of fantasies just so they can (1) stay in that closet (2) pretend that "playing with the other guy" isn't THEIR fantasy.
I mean... Just admit that you're sexually attracted to other guys, get it over with, and then you can start trying to foist all this on yr poor unsuspecting wifey.
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Well you have all the fun even though that reads more like an erotic novel about dating than marriage but also have been reading here that NZ is even more open to sex than Aussies. I wonder why? Might have been more fun in NZ in my younger years?
yeah its pretty relaxed here. there's a number of couples clubs in auckland. tinder is a good place to find guys and girls. mostly though, weve invited friends we trust that are single and theyve been more than happy to play with us.
This shit is so cringey to me. No disrespect to your preferences but to me, I'm insulted if a man is okay with sharing me and I have no respect for any dude that wants me to humiliate him while another dude plows me.
So there are some negative comments in here that I would like to address because many of them are based in willful ignorance and the ever negative "porn" narrative. Stags are NOT cucks NOR are they "cucks in waiting".
Stags are men who are not possessive of their wives/significant others. They are most often driven by "compersion" in which they get great happiness and fulfillment out of seeing others they love happy. They are often lead very accomplished lives. Their marriages are usually transparent, amazing, tender, considerate, and loving.
I was a bull in two separate long term stag/vixen relationships. The relationships were wonderful, full of mutual respect, and camaraderie. Both husbands had medical conditions that made performance in bed very difficult. So the unselfish husbands in each case, sat down and had an honest conversation with their wives.
Some key characteristics from my own personal experiences:
-Stags most often have an Alpha personality. The relationship only exist as long as the STAG says it does. The bull is NEVER in control of anything. The STAG or the VIXEN can end it for any reason.
-Stags are usually well adjusted and confident. They are NOT wimps or little bitches.
-Stags communication is absolutely open. There are no secrets between a Stag and a Vixen.
-Stags and Vixens work constantly to fortify their relationship.
-Stags love their wives and their wives love them back.
-Stags have sex with their wives to the extent possible and they both enjoy each other.
-Stags are always thanked for their graciousness in sharing their wife with the bull.
-Stags are treated with respect and never divisive comments or acts.
-A Bull/Vixen/Stag dynamic are based in playful sexual encounters and light hearted dating.
-A Bull is not a replacement for a Stag - you will not be getting married or running away to Bali.
-The Stag and Vixen's life together is paramount to them and you are there to enhance that.
-Husbands often choose the bull candidates based on conversations with the wife. When you are in a relationship with a Vixen, you are also in a relationship with the Stag. Your existence as their Bull is run by them JOINTLY.
-Stags decide when and where and how you will play in unison with their Vixen's desires and inputs.
Many Stags & Vixen's are NOT looking for random tinder sex hookups. They are looking for exclusivity. Be prepared to give up regular dating - Vixen's do not like to share. Be prepared for clearly defined rules, boundaries, and expectations. Failure to take those things seriously will not end well for the Bull.
I strongly recommend finding a kink aware therapist before embarking on this journey. There are therapists that specialize in kink/polyamory/swinging lifestyles. They can guide you and your spouse/partner. They are able to help you avoid pitfalls and common mistakes. They can also help you communicate better with your spouse to solidify and prepare your relationship. They deal with the reality of what happens in these relationships every single day. You will find their insight invaluable. Most are less than $100 an hour without insurance. With insurance it's usually a small copay. Worth it to avoid a potential divorce, hurt feelings, insecurity, and heart break.
You can find a kink aware therapist here:
Please go here and find a therapist to help you navigate the Stag/Vixen/Bull dynamic from the start. You will thank me for it later.
In response to the OP question: Having been a Bull and being part of two beautiful relationships, I can tell you that I would have ZERO problem with my wife of 20 years asking to be a Vixen. I love to see her happy and I know that I have nothing to worry about from other males. I know first hand it's only fun and casual hot sex.
I watched my girlfriend get fucked by 4 BBC and it was such a turn on we got spun and she gkt ravaged and savaged like an animal by 4 BBC all 10"+ her eyes rolled back in her head from tje 70cc shot once the fear from shear size and number subsided her eyes fixed on tje bbcs and she worked them in her hands mouth pussy and ass like a pro. I sat back do high hard and horny and eas so turned on I jacked off then she asked me to fluff the brothers and keep them hard between turns fucki g her and I did and tnay eas hot
I don't know why but I find the idea of watching and sharing my partner a complete turn on. I think it goes back to being a child and watching my girlfriend kiss another boy. I was filled with such jealousy but watched in awe as it happened. The feeling stuck with me and years later presented itself through role play.
I've never lived it out but I came close. I had a good friend my girlfriend at the time fancied and she tried to seduce him but the idea made him uncomfortable. She was too aggressive with her desire for him and it ultimately ruined our friendship. Though the role playing we did at the time regarding this resulted in some of the best sex I ever had.
If given the change I would love to try this. Watching or being part of a threesome with my partner. I think it could be a lot of fun. :)
Yes. My wife is currently a hotwife and has been since before we married. She has a few regulars but is respectful to my wishes. I personally wish she had a few more that we're more often but it's difficult with a young toddler and all. It's exciting and invigorating to know she is being pleasured and fullfiled in ways no 1 man can do. I'm not small or anything. Each partner is different and has skills others don't. Plus it been proven that women are capable of multiple partners and can have great health benefits.
Exactly.. everyone of my guys i see give me different ways of pleasure.. although things for me on the hotwife front have been quiet of late. I've still been exchanging dirty txts pics and short vids with my guys.. hoping to find time for dates more often soon
She was the same. Last month was good 3 guys. But she has her ups and downs too. Like all good things sometimes you got to put some effort into it. Even though this has kinda a better reward.
I have this fantasy and recently told my wife about it. We’re definitely in the discussion stage but she seems pretty open to the idea even though she’s not sure she can go through with it. Last weekend I let her flirt with a guy at the bar to get a feel for it and she was totally awesome and this guy wanted her so bad it was comical. Since then she’s been buying sexy shirts so I’m assuming we’ll be doing this again. I’m cautiously optimistic about it, but every time J think about it happening I get so excited it’s ridiculous. It also makes much more into her, almost like we just started dating again. FYI, stag/Hotwife is ok but not that cuckolding stuff.
I don't like most of those, only to be teased or dominate. I'd allow her to fuck another girl but not a guy to create jealously and that would make it a turn on for me, to fuck with me more as payback, so I am neither of these.
im allowed date nights as long as permission is asked by bull and recieved by Hubby and approved.. i can't just sneak off and have fun and likewise goes for him
well we were both single i did some stuff at a couple parties with a group of guys (him included) we had a friends with benefits thing with eachother and others for about a year.. then i went and traveled the world for a year. when i got back picked things up with him as friends with benefits after about 6 months we decided to be an offical couple even though the whole time i knew him there was something more there. we stopped for while until about 6mnths after we got married and we decided that we both missed playing together with others.. we stopped again once i started fertillity treatment so i could get pregnant and after about 10weeks we started playing with others again.
@LaurenGrace I see, so through friends and parties you met and got closer that way, and I mean Really close 😉 I see why I've had rotten luck, never been to a party before and no friends right now to help meet new people in a party setting. That sounds like something I would of wanted to do.
I used to have a hotwife fantasy, as a stag. However, my wife is so particular about other guys (has to have a very big dick, be hot and attractive, have a personality she likes, able to make her have multiple orgasms, etc). We tried it a couple of times, but the guys didn’t meet her expectations. We do mostly FFM threesomes now. - good for me and her.
I'm not a cuck but I don't mind if my wife has the odd one night stand. Every year, she and her friends go on holiday for a week together to Vegas, Hedonism or a singles cruise for have a fling. I think it's healthy.
Once I determine a gal is no longer marriage material, then I might have a fantasy about sharing equally, so long as they reciprocate with someone equally hot. I see such an invent as tag wrestling but also spit roasting. This also applies to all being single and on vacation with a very clear stranger gal.
I mean... lmao, it's a source of great amusement to me that these "cuck fetish" boys think they're fooling anyone [... well, besides themselves, that is]. ahha That whole fetish is... like, the worst "no homo" in the entire history of "no homo"s. And it's pretty much literally every possible brand of pathetic, all wrapped up into one. • Can't admit sexual orientation to self • Can't admit it to others, either • Almost always a SERIOUS closet racist, too (these cuck boys tend to be obsessed with black lovers, in all the most fucked-up ways imaginable) • Lacks even the most basic consideration for wifey -- Actually willing to drag *her* into this shit as an accessory, just to keep being able to say "no homo" to himself. Like rlly dude? Leave her out of it kk tx. Ugghhh
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The "stag" boys I know, on the other hand, have all been pretty big winners at life in general. I know several, actually, and
they all happen to fit the same importatn profile points: • They're older, divorced, have kids who are already grown, and don't actively plan to start another family. • They've made good money, so, they can afford to pretty much party. • Their first divorce was ugly, brutal, expensive, and soul-shattering. So now they just want that party life. • They are between 15 and 22 years older than wifey #2. • They spoil wifey #2 rotten (... in ways she actually *appreciates*). Her life basically consists of shopping, fucking, shopping, working out, more shopping, and more fucking. They are more than glad to provide this, in exchange for a fun, younger wife who doesn't hate them and doesn't micromanage their entire lives. • They are extreme exhibitionists. The "sharing", to them, is just a natural extension of showing off what's theirs. • They've been around the block a lot themselves... and they know they're getting old, esp in the sexual performance department. They don't want wifey to
have to forgo an ACTIVE sex life, while she's still young and full of young youthfulness. • If they had to take 3 things into a nuclear shelter, those things would be food, water, and mfm/gangbang porn. They've always been OBSESSED with women's (potential) ability to just... handle all that **attention**. • For them, having LIVE porn with their own wifey as the star is pretty much #lifegoals. • Unlike the [not-so-]secretly gay boys AKA cuck fetishists, these guys have no interest in ANY interaction with the other boys -- other than playing director *during* the fun, and playing bouncer *after* it. They see the other boys as props. Seen not heard. Things for wifey to use, and then to send off into the night. But SHE is 100 percent of his focus.
I mean, it's a very workable lifestyle, tbh. The age difference is gna be shit when he gets older, but, these are boys with means who take care of themselves well, so, "older" will take longer than usual. And, the whole "hubby is already WAY
past his physical and sexual prime" thing -- which, for lots and lots of women, is the only real downside of marrying a dude 10-20 years older -- is basicalyl a non-issue, since they'll be allowed (and encouraged, lol) to play with whatever hardbodied toys they mght want to, when they're cougar age.
For the woman... well, she can't be the type who catches feelings from sex play, obvi. And she needs to be the type who WANTS to taste the proverbial rainbow. And she needs a thick skin for comments about "gold digging", and shit... and it may take a while for her to trust that this is actually a real relationship, and not just fetish fun. But honestly, ALL of these marriages (where I personally know the two people) are very, very solid. Again, most likely because that single gigantic downside of an older husband is... well, not a thing.
Srsly tho, night and day difference. I'm sure those stag boys don't appreciate having to keep everything under wraps (outside a small trusted circle) for fear of being confused with those other, seeeeeeriously fucked-up boys.
@redeyemindtricks pretty accurate. I have been with 2 couples. Both men were older and they were unable to have sex due to medical issues. I filled in. If presented an opportunity to be a bull again, I would take it IF the husband was a stag. If he was a cuck... very doubtful.
no im glad i have a crazy Hispanic wife that hates other men im her dom or her king and shed bring me a cock if it hits on her cut off or not she's done it a few times now once cut off lmao ah i love her
sorry but a cuck husband is a pussy who deserves cum in his mouth like the bitch he is and even a stag w/e guy better enjoy his cock covered in another mans cum im proud damn proud to know if you go after my wife then she ask me which piece i want served me for dinner just saying you can have fun with your nut covered men lmao i prefer them scared and long ways away
Yup life would be boring if we are all the same... i dont judge people that dont embrace multiple partners so i hope those same people dont judge me for doing it
This is so hot, it turns me on so much. It's only being a fantasy of mine for about a year now... I'd love to see my wife get pounded by a powerful black. God.. just the thought of it makes my little dick so hard... I don't think she'd be adverse to a black guy but not sure she's be into the fantasy of the whole thing... What do you think is a good way of approaching this topic?
I don't have any cuckold/stag fantasies, no. But I do like the idea of other men flirting with my wife. The idea that my wife is sexy enough that people want to flirt with her, but I know she only wants to be with me... I find that rather hot.
Me and my wife are very open about our lifestyle choices she is a hotwife who plays quite often. I fall under the cuckold category and absolutely love the humiliation aspect of this
sounds like you've got a good relationship. personally I tried an open relationship with an ex and it didn't work I would get super jealous seeing her with other guys so it's not for me
Depends on the relationship you have with you girl.. my relationship with my hubby has been open since we first met as we both enjoy 3somes and such. in the more recent couple of years weve tended to have more gangbangs with guys we trust rather than inviting other females into our bed. hubby also allows me to have date nights with guys. he's not cuckold he's my bull he just likes to share me
Get date nights once or twice a month with a friend of my choosing. he can also date And mfm with hubby and a friend once or twice a month Gangbangs 3 or 4 times a year of late
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