Why do men lie about being married and having a pregnant wife at home?

[Anonymous]

So I have to ask this question that is just boggling my mind. I was seeing this guy for a little over one year when we decided to part ways because my feelings were getting a little bit stronger than his and he didn't want me to get hurt and I didn't want that for myself either. We decided to cut contact all together since I couldn't stay friends. 4 months later he contacted me and told me how much he missed our "friendship" and that it was a shame we couldn't handle it. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me and missed the way I made him feel when we were together. Little did I know that within 1 months time he was getting married and expecting a child! He never told me about that and I found that out on my own. He calls her his girlfriend and still won't admit to me that he is married and is going to have a baby. He wants us to never lose touch. How is that possible with him lying about all this...doesn't he know that eventually I will find everything out? I really do care about him and would like to just keep it friendly, but not if he is going to be lying like this. What do you guys think? Why would he lie about something major like marriage and having a child?

[MrMysteryMan]

It is f*cked up. But this happens a lot guys/girls alike. Like a girlfriend of my wife's just left her husband with a slightly autistic 6 year old son and went to live with her friend. It happens on both sides, and both my wife and I feel he's a big teddy bear and had never harmed her or hurt her in any way. But I think sometimes men/women get married to the wrong people for the wrong reasons. IE, they either feel they have to be married to this person because it's the right thing to do, or to be nice, or have no choice (kids). But they have no real love for the person they marry or aren't deeply in love enough to be able to deal with all the crappy sh*t that comes up when you are married to someone. Marriage is the hardest relationship there is. It's not like bf/gf, it's really supposed to be FOREVER! Then someone they really, truly, fall in love with comes along and it's hard for them to resist this. Another look at it is that a person isn't ready to marry mentally, or maturity wise, and they end up marrying and then they can't handle being married and all the hard problems/issues that come up in marriage. I mean, when you're married, you are ALWAYS thinking for more than one person in every decision you make because your decision will affect both of you. That's a hard thing to accept for some or to handle. Especially if you are used to freedom of free thinking. So, you try and have the cake and icing and eat it too. Doesn't work that way though when it comes to marriage. Marriage is most give and then take (or better yet accept) when it's right. So they f*ck around and want that freedom and the commitment. It doesn't work that way. Marriage works when both are in the same maturity level and frame of mind to make it work.

[arashmenalagha]

Cause when they tell other girls, it might make them more interesting because, when a girl knows another girl is with a guy he's automatically more interesting because he was selected by another girl. The other girls like to find out why.

tl;dr: he wants to be interesting.

[NoThanks2010]

(A) He does not respect you or your intelligence and tells you blatant lies to test you...he wants to see what you will do...just like a child would test a parent.

(B) He is delusional and needs plenty of meds and psychiatric help.

(C) He is dumb enough to think that you are not aware of what he is doing and he thinks that he can have his cake and boink it too.

(D) All of the above.

[Donnadon]

Men lie because they want to try something new, and want sex. And in such sitiuations the are like animals. ;)

[AnonymousDude]

Why do women keep assuming the act of one guy means ALL guys do it?

Seriously, we are not all the same.

(ranting because this is like the 500th question with "Why do men [blank]"

[DoctorSex]

I concure

[Littletad]

Lots of men like to keep their options open. That's what he's doing. He's an idiot/creep. Ignore him and move on.

[cutie_18]

he's a pig!

[Peter_guo]

want sex